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Well then those men who do...aren't worth it...so just let em keep on runnin...some day the right man will come along who won't run from anything and then you will really know he loves you...acceptance of you also means love and acceptance of your kids...


Good Luck....

I love kids!!

Because I never had any....

I don't.............I dated a single woman once,and helped support her kid that the father didn't.

Because they are still boys and cant handle the responsibility of a child. When the right one comes along he will love you and your kid or kids because they are apart of you.

Because an Instant family... especially for a guy that don't already have kids.. is on hell of a huge leap. stop and look at it from his angle also.. not just from a mothers viewpoint.

Women do exactly the same thing.!! especially if they don't already have kids.
I know first hand because I raised my son alone.. and just about all of the women ran real fast.

Thats just reality,
For many wanting to start a family in a normal fashion they are just as right to feel that way.

and when kids are already involved from the beginning...a hell of a lot of extra stress is added to what a normal start of a relationship would or should be.

But I never blamed the women.. because I understood how much it was asking of her/them.

some just want to start a relationship in a normal fashion..
nothing wrong with that.

but now will go a bit further.
I did my time, raised my kids, got fixed so I can't produce more.
More than paid my dues and have pretty good kids as a result.
but since I have already done it all, I don't plan on doing it all over.

Know this view bothers some people.. mostly the younger people that haven't finished raising their kids yet.. why.....because they don't want to face the truth, the reality that there is also a life after raising the kids.

Funny how most people understand this concept afterwards.

Now it is my turn to have a life.

the children play an important role in a relationship the most popular thing i hear is the woman saying that the man doesn't whip my children that takes away his authority right there that doesn't settle too well with most men they feel that is him being unaccepted into the family unit . then you got guys that just aren't ready for a family just yet i just realised i could go on all night with this but rest assured your true love is out there looking for you just as you are looking for him . that doesn't mean the road won't be long and ruff but it does mean there is a road .

Personally i dont run at all if somone has children although i know some do, maybe partly because of the extra responsibility sometimes because there is another man who will always have some link and some just because they are assholes,there are probably other reasons too but its 5.39am and i've just decided to retire from doorwork so i'm tired and cant think of any others at the moment.
I dont understand the reasons as i have no problem at all with being with somone who has children so i just tried to think why somone else would have a problem.

Sorry so blunt,
I am not good at sugar coating.

Funny thing is.. many of the same women that ran when I had my young son at home... wanted to date me after My son grew up and moved out

Just ain't happening

I agree

and to the OP. you say you are strong willed, and very independent..

which are good qualities, if the strong willed doesn't enter the ( I'm always right) catagory..

Some women that claim to be independent, are really just a totally self-centered B#tch.. not saying you are, just telling you the truth in alot of cases...JMO

I will admitt to being one who is reluctant to devolope a relationship with single mothers. Why? (At risk of repeating earlier statements.) I have trouble getting into conversation with most people. Including my own neices and nephews. I might be able to talk to the single mom, but not be able too with her kids (not healthy). I have been living alone for more years than I care to remember, The adjustment of learning to live with one person, will be a large one, never mind an instant family. Maybe I'm too hard on my self, but I rather you know it up front, so you don't waste your time with me.

yeah I wonder Why anyway ,
I know the right person will cum

I can only say for myself....because I want my own kids and do not want to waste myself on others...because I am very responsible and will for sake of abuse from society imposed against me when forcing or compelling me into such relationships never ever bend.....the same goes for interracial relationship scams with which USA and Europe are simply rapped.

Let me ask you...you single parents who claim to be such responsible and independent(it's easy to be indep[endent when gov. is giving in your ass everything while preventing other from equality...same goes for interracial..) how come that you are alone and are so many of you.....you...the statistics...the numbers who now probably outnumber us...those who are compelled into solitarity...prevented from establishing own families...our lives....

Thanks for your answers...

Oo yanno..

On the flip side of this.. I would rather 'get involved' with some that HAD (or did) have children..

because (mostly).. they have a much better understanding of whats going on. (I think)

hahaha


But I can see it from a single persons point of view too..

I think if I had no children.. and I met a man who had three.. yep.. that might put me off.. I;d be scared of what the heck I was in for.

personally would not bother me
was raised by a stepfather myself it may be a problem if child is 13 to 16 they probally be at age where they would find it hard to accept new person in life then again at that age i think even biologigal parents be tempted to run for hills at time
but being 38 and chances of meeting someone who wants kids getting slimmer a stepchild be just as good
jmo

Aawww thats nice..

But yanno.. at 38yrs old.. and being a man.. you have AGES yet..

I BETCHA!!

You single parents are very good for New World Order creators....to protect them...to shield those creating all these irregualrities....abnormalities....nice !

Even that you protect so much your protectorates it comes to one and single point...OBVIOUSLY YOU AND YOUR BROKEN FAMILIES DON'T MATTER HEM AT ALL....YOU ARE JUST THE TOOL FOR THEIR POLITICAL APETITES....THATS ALL (horrible truth...)