In response to: What I am wondering is why men run from a single parent? I am a strong willed independent woman, I am not understand????
I'm a single dad of a 16 year old daughter. I will never tell my daughter this, but until recently she has been the main reason I have been alone most of the past 11 years since my divorce.
I have been engaged twice, but then the ladies become afraid, because my job sometimes requires me to be away from my daughter for months at a time. They don't want that responsibility. It isn't that my daughter is a trouble-maker. It is just that she exists and they know they would have to be responsible for her when I can't be there.
Dorothy is almost 17 now, and I see some light at the end of the tunnel. I have mixed feelings, because I love my daughter and she is welcome to stay with me if she needs to. However, being single for so long also is tough. I have a girlfriend now, but we still have little privacy. We have to meet at her place normally for private time, and I always must be home in the morning when my daughter wakes up. I have to be a good example for her.
I never dated a single woman with children during my years alone. It would have been nice to share the burden with her and I could help with hers. I do have friends in this situation, but never a romantic encounter.
Lastly, you describe yourself as "strong-willed". I don't know how strong you mean. If it is too strong, like overbearing, then maybe that is the problem, and not the kids.