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Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 7:43 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
Do not stand at my grave and weep.

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush

of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry


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DazzleYou Seattle, WA, Washington USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 7:47 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
This will be my 2nd holiday season without my mom and dad, both died last year - one in February, the other in August.

That is still difficult, but the most difficult will be the one we are facing right now with the loss of my friend last week. I want so badly to do something for his wife and kids to take the hurt away. We had his funeral yesterday afternoon and it was the worst one I have ever been to for emotion.
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WhatUwish4 Jacksonville, Florida USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 7:49 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
Grieve not..

not speak of me with tears...

but laugh and talk of me...

as though I were beside you.

I loved you so...

'twas Heaven here with you.


sigh sigh
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Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 7:53 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?


To date, I've not really lost someone who I was extremely close to, so it's a bit hard to relate. I know it must be difficult. My thoughts are with ya'll...angel
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somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 7:55 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
Indyfella: To date, I've not really lost someone who I was extremely close to, so it's a bit hard to relate. I know it must be difficult. My thoughts are with ya'll...




Thank You Indy.hug
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Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:00 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
somechick: Thank You Indy.



Mom's got another Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up. Time isn't on her side. As I head out, I'll remember to try and make it a good day for her. I'm glad I checked this thread...sometimes we fail to appreciate what we do have~
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stefonline Dublin, Dublin Ireland
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:01 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
catwomen64: I dont know if I am coming or going,my father was my all,lost ,hurt,and they want me to be just fine,it doesnt work that way,not for me,HE WAS MY EVERTHING i CANT LET GO,IS THIS NORMAL, I was always a strong.I raised my brother s but he was my HERO,my rock.............My first words were Daddy,not mommy Daddyits so hard............



Hi Cat......I am feeling for you....I lost my great Dad too......I felt the very same still do.....no one can replace....no man comes near....I was strong too....but now I am lost......he was my all everything that was right in this world, everything that was real and true and pure and honest.....but now it's gone and I miss him so very much.....that was 16 years ago and I still feel the very same right now....teddybear hug comfort
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stefonline Dublin, Dublin Ireland
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:02 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
DazzleYou: This will be my 2nd holiday season without my mom and dad, both died last year - one in February, the other in August.

That is still difficult, but the most difficult will be the one we are facing right now with the loss of my friend last week. I want so badly to do something for his wife and kids to take the hurt away. We had his funeral yesterday afternoon and it was the worst one I have ever been to for emotion.



Hugs....hug comfort hug
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stefonline Dublin, Dublin Ireland
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:05 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
catwomen64: my father passed the 28,I have never been the same,he is my rock,and my rock is gone



Remember all that you had......it was special very much so......be thankful for the blessing for the time you had with this Man.....it is very rare that these come our way......hug
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Dknew Lee, New Hampshire USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:06 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
The only thing that can be done is keep them in your heart and remember them fondly and with love, Life must go on.
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somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:09 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
Dknew: The only thing that can be done is keep them in your heart and remember them fondly and with love, Life must go on.




Maybe life must go on but it doesn't make the hurt go away or any different.
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Dknew Lee, New Hampshire USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:12 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
somechick: Maybe life must go on but it doesn't make the hurt go away or any different.



No it doesn't, I can't even say it will but it does get better. hug
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WhatUwish4 Jacksonville, Florida USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:15 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=guoN4nLvUMg
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somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:24 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
WhatUwish4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=guoN4nLvUMg



Thanks for posting the video Karen. But now after seeing the tears on that little girls face I've got tears running down my face.laugh hug

I'll get through this. I always do.
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jvaski south lake tahoe, California USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:41 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
catwomen64: My Daddy passed in J ULY ALSO


Mine too - July this year......... It's really tough at times, but then as I go into deep sorrow - he comes to me and sais " knock it off John ! " I see his face as he sais that to me.
It's normal to have it hit hard , but I know my Dad woudn't want me to dwell on it and make myself and everyone around me miserable. He was logical about death, and welcomed it in his final hours.

Here's a Thanksgiving toast to all our loved ones who made our lives so wonderful !! cheers buddies thumbs up tip hat wine
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hollandgirl Okanagan Valley B.C. Canada, British Columbia Canada
Thu Nov 27, 2008 9:01 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
Cat woman thinking about you and am with you in your sorrow.
Many here have told it so beautiful here that I can not add on to it.
Yes keep your dad in your heart and think of all you had with him as this is what he would have wanted you to do.
Thanks for the memories.

This is also for all of you who have lost a loved one.
Those who still have family, treasure them while you still can
hug hug hug
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WhatUwish4 Jacksonville, Florida USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 9:03 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
somechick: Thanks for posting the video Karen. But now after seeing the tears on that little girls face I've got tears running down my face.

I'll get through this. I always do.


I know...It's tough as hell but we'll all get through it.

teddybear
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hollandgirl Okanagan Valley B.C. Canada, British Columbia Canada
Thu Nov 27, 2008 9:04 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
DazzleYou: This will be my 2nd holiday season without my mom and dad, both died last year - one in February, the other in August.

That is still difficult, but the most difficult will be the one we are facing right now with the loss of my friend last week. I want so badly to do something for his wife and kids to take the hurt away. We had his funeral yesterday afternoon and it was the worst one I have ever been to for emotion.


I am very sorry for the losses you had and now for the wife and kids of your friend.
Be there for them is all you can do.
Take the kids out when you can. handshake hug
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catwomen64 somewhere, New Jersey USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 9:31 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
hollandgirl: I am very sorry for the losses you had and now for the wife and kids of your friend.
Be there for them is all you can do.
Take the kids out when you can.
Please enjoy every moment that you have with that someone this year.......you never know how quick it can disappear,give a extra hug and kiss,because when its gone sorry 2 say ITS GONE........PLEASE MAKE THIS ONE X SPECIAL<LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH....... Happy Thanksgivingto all n thank you give been kind........D
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shipoker58 Las Vegas, Nevada USA
Thu Nov 27, 2008 9:33 AM CST : How do you get thru the first Hoildays,when your love one passes?
My wife had a heart attack on christmas morning, and never recovered. So not only do I go through each Christmas without her, but remember her suffering on that day.

Bottom line...that was then, this is now
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