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i used to fake it with an ex the odd time he used to think the longer it went on the better it got so to avoid aching muscles the next day i faked it

I don't, never have...and I didn't know men could. I've usually known whether or not my partner had an orgasm, and if they didn't they always were polite enough to answer me honestly...and we would work on fixing that a little later.

Because we can.

I guess that's the point I'm trying to make.
Isn't it better to be up front and work out why things aren't working the way they should.
And yes, we can fake it, can't say i'm proud of it, but that's another story.

So you were faking to help yourself, right?
I can understand that.
So you think it would have upset they guy if he knew?

sometimes its as simple a reason as an act of kindness.


then it is useful when it almost time for the game to begin too


I guess whats the most hurtful about all this "faking it" is when you reveal to them that you indeed did ... thats just cruel and mean and hurtful.

i did tell him a few times he didnt like it.
that was another reason i faked it

do men fake orgasms?

The only time I faked it was better than listen to complaining. Because of Someone that didn't listen to his partner to begin with.

Good point.
So what your saying is not only should we fake it (when needed), but lie about it (when asked)?
I LIKE IT

Fair enough.

I probably have faked it a couple of times as to not diminish the ego of my partner. I figured it was kinder that way, but found some guys way too wrapped up in performance . Doesn't always mean something is wrong if a man/woman doesn't orgasm every time. JMO. If I can't laugh in bed with someone then I don't want to be with them orgasm or no.

if they ask, thats the time to suggest that there is always room for improvement.
but to disclose something so personal in a less then kind considerate way will always be the wrong approach.

lol, i did... once... and apparently i wasn't very convincing. she was not pleased

WTF? What man fakes his orgasm?

I haven't had to do it in a while. But when I have, it was just to get it over with...HA HA.

Anyway, I'm a little older now and if he can't do the job, I say, "Get off and I'll do it myself."

Hopefully he'll watch and learn. =)

... and there lies the answer to your question. Why is that there has to be a problem?

Sometimes my body just doesn´t want to cooperate... maybe the nerve endings have become to sensitive, or not sensitive enough, tension, tired... what ever the reason doesn´t matter. The simple fact is my body isn´t going to respond the way it normally would. It doesn´t mean I´m not enjoying what we´re doing, it doesn´t mean it´s "not working".

The problem arises when a mans ego won´t just let it go and insists on bringing you to orgasm... that´s when I fake it.

As long as a man understands that some nights I may have several orgasms and on the occasional night I may not have any and isn´t threatened by that, then there is no need for me to fake it.

Now your talking, a lady who knows what she wants, And how to get it and get it done properly.
Way to go.