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indeed!!

As a Abb said, time to move on. Yes its hard I know, I've been to the absolute bottom and am climbing back up myself.

When you find that special someone, one day w/ them in your heart, will be worth all the pain that the past relationships have given you.

I just read a thread about a woman whose husband dies a year ago...it begins with I will love you forever.

That doesn't leave any room for her to love someone else. i know i wouldn't want to compete with the memories of a dead loved one, who, in hindsight, had no flaws!! deceased loved ones are alway perfect in everyway!!

I say don't give him the satisfaction.Make yourself let go so maybe someday he can see you happy and feel what you feel.

I am the definition of someone who is mentally destroyed by circumstances beyond their control.

I am unfortunately well equipped to deal with terrible amounts of stress and anguish, far more than a normal person should be able to cope with.

Just because i can cope it doesn't mean i like a life of crap.

Time is a healer for people, take pride in yourself and "heal and grow".

Bob Marley?

I have been there too, made it thru it but I sure don't want want pain in my life anymore.

Yeppers you got it.

Yes, some people like a friend of mine cat believe what my life has been like.

Even my ex girlfriend appologised to me and knows what she did was wrong now.

I live with the repercussions every day, and from the moment i am awake to the moment i pass out the best way i can describe myself is "haunted".

Whatever i do, where ever i go, there is always the shadow of my past, which i cannot ever shake off.

For anyone out there with problems, remember there are always people worse off than you, like a poor child with his legs blown off by a bomb.....with no painkillers.

Life is about perspective, and i have my life within perspective, it's just not fair for me to involve any other people in my life till all my problems are resolved.

Hopefully people will heal and become desensitized by distance/time elapsed when it comes to break ups. But you have to put yourself/or your offspring first before anyone else, before a partner, because a child looks upto their mother/father more than anyone else, and this is more important than the partner wishing to meet someone else, or their new partners wishes.

The kids come first, partners can come and go.

Perspective.....

That is awsome spirit I am so glade to see that you are healing..Life is full of ups and downs but never give up love is all around just takes time to find that right one but I do beleave there is some one out there for every one..

Thanks Smile, Yeppers I believe that for sure.

Been through it myself friend. I have healed that part and now growing.

Yeah.... I have experienced a variety of it... it feels like a physical pain, .. its awful.!!. I fell pretty hard for someone three years ago and losing him as a friend really hurt, though I have known people to have gone through worse... I was able to pick myself up and function... a good friend of mine went through faaaar worse!!.. she went through a really awful time with her ex... they were together for 12 years (childhood sweethearts) until she found out that he was cheating left right and centre and had been doing so for years.. her sister had to fly over to be with her for about a month to coax her out of bed....she was going to bed with a bottle of wine to numb the pain.. everybody was really worried about her... she is one strong chic now though.. maybe too strong .. cheating is like stealing innocence from a child.... people who are affected are never able to trust in the same way again

Just goes to show... hearts are tender treat them carefully!!!Any one on here playing away from home... THINK AGAIN!!!!

The light at the end of the tunnel though is.....we do heal.. and when we do were are stronger!!

SOUNDS EASY ENOUGH BUT IS IT REALLY THAT EASY

I was just wondering if anyone out there has ever had their heart broken??? No I mean really broken? I know it is for the best but can't seem to get passed the terrible feeling I have in my heard and my stomach. Every time I think about him with her - I just want to scream and it does not seem to be getting any easier.
Anyone have any suggestions for a fix??

Thanks
Deb

Yes, but stints were put in place and all seems well these days..

Hi Deb,i think you are not the only one have experience like that, but even he is in another women now,but first of all you have to think in your self i,your beloved family,even though its very hurt and its not easy to forget it of course,but you to go on in your futured,when ever you remeber him with her,think that he is not the only person in this world who cares ,understand ,love you, and always be there for you.its not impossible if what he have done with you today,maybe it well happen with him someday.

my heart is broken! my partner finish our relationship few days b4 christmas we still in same house, but different rooms, it's hard to see his face every day, can't hugs him or kiss him, up in my room, to avoid him, my lease it up in March 2009, time for me to look else where! no i wouldn't move back to my folks, don't get on with my dad, he wanting me out! bit od a bully and selfish like my ex! hopefully my heart will heal! in time!

Twice in 13 months...the last one was Christmas Eve.

There is no fix...just let time and distance take its course and try to keep looking forward, not backwards. It's very hard to do with a hole in your chest the size of a refrigerator, but that is what you have to do.

Good luck to you...