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Yes, a few times.. Thankfully I have a great cardiac doctor..

Almost everyone over the age of 15 might answer 'Yes' to this question.

Better have a broken heart, than not to have loved.

Also, it is easier said than done, but you can try:

Keep yourself busy.
Don't wallow in self-pity or try to justify or tell to others, that you were right and he/she did wrong to you.
Go out talk with people you don't know.
Do things that make you laugh and keep your thoughts occupied.

But most importantly, talk and try to think about things 'other' than past relationship - and be happy, that now you at-least have an opportunity to find someone who 'will not' break your heart.

P.S.. Ask yourself.
Have you ever turned down a person? I mean ever in your life? He/she might have gone through same thing you are going right now.

I suppose the intensity of the pain mainly depends on how much you liked/loved the person.

Living codes say "at least one entry way per room"

shame hun yes it did and i got over it and so can you you got all of us here to support you when you need a shoulder to cry on everyone here did for me thanks guys again and vinnie youre just one hell of a nice guy ya sweet thang

I knoe time is duppose to heal all things but it sure hurts waiting on that day when the first things you think of is him and that he is not around anymore. Tired of fighting the urge to cry all the time. We were engaged for 2 yrs but when a situation came up where i had to become legal gaurdian of my grandchild he couldn't handle the time i had to spend with her so he left..broke up in a test message on Christmas eve. Damn it hurt

Sounds to me like he was very insecure and very selfish as well

so how long is this pain gonna last..don't think I can take it much longer..I try to not think about it but it just creeps in and I can't stop it

Maybe until your able to find someone more understanding who can accept both you and your grandchild.....But what do I know Iam single and has been a long time since I had a broken heart

how can someone who professes to love you just stop..just like that? how can you go on? how do you turn off the feelings? overcome the pain when all you want to do is just die?

do to him wat he did to you ,come to me

we western men are like that darling. take it or leave it, what counts is the banging count. mine is 622 , and counting

I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do.
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow.

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, noone said a word about the sorrow.

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

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Hi Deb,

I had the same situation but you need to move on! The more you think about him the more harder for you to move on. I did not dated anyone for nine years, instead I went to school and did a lot of community volunter. It was more harder for me because I have two kids with him. Keep yourself busy all the time you will forget him without knowing it. If you have kids

I was where you are last year. The pain of losing someone you love is hard enough. The pain of losing them because of no good reason is almost as hard.

The feelings won't simply turn off. Only time and distance will take care of the pain, but in the meantime, you have to move forward with yourself. I went through pain, sadness and anger...it was a waste of time to focus so much energy on those negative feelings.

Step away from the past and realize you can't go back...just keep moving forward...

Start dating at least three people. Unless u love pain, this should help u out a lot. And if not,,,keep looking on this site a lot.

Yep after 11 months of on-line dating and we were going to meet..
Its all Over Red rover!

I'm really sorry. But if the guy didn't have enough to talk to you face-to-face, he wasn't much of a man, IMO. I know it's hard to believe right now, but TIME DOES HEAL!! And there are so many men out there more deserving of your love, feelings & emotions. Right now, concentrate on you & what a terrific person YOU are. You've taken on a HUGE task in becoming legal guardian to your granddaughter. And a very honorable one, at that! You should be commended, not shunned.

I have to agree that he seems very selfish. Some men can't handle having a small one around. It takes away from time & attention on them. I know... I was in love with one such man. He was & is a very kind, gentle, loving man... but just couldn't handle the fact that, at that time, I had a young child. He had none & had all the freedom in the world. As time went on, I realized that things weren't going to change & we obviously weren't as good a match as I'd hoped we would be. I broke up with him. It hurt like hell too!! But time does help tremendously.

Right now, concentrate on that little girl. She needs you & your love & attention. What you do & how you are emotionally will affect her entire future. Who's more important right now? Him or her?

I'm here anytime you want to chat.

hi Deb,
I know exactly how you feel, i am going through the same thing, only the other women was my friend. I have just finished yelling at them both and now i feel really good. I was sick of moping around and prentending all was ok so i confronted them. I dont know how i will feel about it tomorrow but right now it works. good luck
Dani