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thanks for the rose,and the sweet words

Many in fact, through the last few months!

it has always been a honor to be able to send you a flower,my lady

Yes and thankyou.

what is love or what it means when we say i love you

but who really knows what love is and why we say i love you
if you ask someone what is the meaning of love they will give you
their meaning of love.

most likely it will not be the same as yours,but does it mean than are wrong and you are right or they are right and you are wrong

no it does not mean that it means that you are two different people who feel different ways about love and the meaning of love.


but as long as you can come to agrement you can estanlish a relationship between tow people a friendship that hopely it will last a lifetime,as long as you can come to agreement instead of arguing about it

now you are understanding what one meaning of love is,it is agreement between two people no matter who is right or who is wrong.
you can come to a compromise build on understanding that you are two different human beings

who feel differtent about things but you are willing to come to a compromise on all things to establish a relationship that hopely will last a lifetime

now i know what you are going to say no two people are going to agree on everything and somtimes they will get into argument
somtimes it will end a relationship or a marrige all because you could not come to a compromise

some of the time it will be over something stupid.both of you are too dam hard headed not to be able to come to a compromise
the relationship will sometime end cause of this

but it does not have to end for when you get into a argument back off from each other and cool off.
than think about what got you into the argument in the first place

than think if your relationship with the person you say i love you to means more to you than your foolish pride.
which is more important to you the person you love or your pride

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if your relationship with the person means more to you than your foolish pride.than admit you was wrong and ask them to forgive you.
your pridemight ne a hard pill to swallon but it will be worth it in the long run

don't lose someone you love in order for you to realize you made a stuipd mistake and you was too dam hard headed to admit it
but cause of it you lost them and it is too late for you to get them back

now when you admit you was wrong although you was right you are learning another part of love.being able to put the other person,their feelings and needs before yours

true love is when you are able to set yourself aside and be able to put the other person,their needs and feelings before yourself

you are in a way sacrificing yourself for the other person,you live your life for the other person,you give them your heart and the love your heart holds

your heart only beats out love for them,with each beat of your heart that love will grow stronger.you will never ever do anything to make your love untrue to them

you will never do anything to hurt them,but when life makes them cry you will be there to hold them in your arms,to wipe their tears away with tender loving care

you will not stand behind them nor in front of them,but you will stand beside them.to face what ever tomorrow will bring,for as long as God lets you live you will live to love them


in true love your life becaomes their's and their's becomes your's
your heart and the love your heart holds becomes their's
their heart and the love their heart holds becomes yours
when this happen than you have found true love

for in true love 2 heart becomes 1 heart that 2 can share,as long as those 2 hearts beats they will beat out true love for each other and that love will last forever

SUICIDE


what is suicide? self murder,once guilty of self murder.the act of killing oneself intentionally

to put it simple it is someone taking their own life by their own hand.but what will cause someone to take their own life,there are a lot of reasons why someone will take their own life

most of the time they was hurt so much it was the only way that they could see to stop the pain.than they could ne in so much pain either mental or physical this was the only wway they could see to stop the pain

most people who commit suicide they didn't want to die they just wanted the hurt and pain to stop.most of the time the person was afraid to ask for help

they was afraid of getting help for no one will understand them,someone will laugh at them,someone will put them down,someone will laugh at them,someone will call them weak,yes someone will even tell them to go ahead and kill theirsevles

there is a old saying that in order to help someone you had to be in their place at one point in your life and you made it out.why do you think AAA was started so ex alchoholics can help other people to stop drinking

look at the one started by drug addits to help other people stop using drugs,here is the thing what ever we go through in life and make it out

we make it out cause we find a way to deal with it and find a way to overcome it.as we are doing this we gain knownledge,with this knowledge we gain we can reach out and help someone else out

during our lifetime other people will help us out,why cannot we reach out and help someone else out.who is better to help someone out when they have lost at love,than someone who has already lost at love and knows how that person feels

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then who is better to help someone from commiting suicide than someone who has done it and lived to tell about it.most people just want to forget about it and go on with their life

but are we not suppose to help each other out.are we not suppose to put the other person before oursevles.but now a days we do not this this we put oursevles before other people

we use people until we get what we want them we leave them alone.i remember a time when we stood by someone through the good times and the bad times.but now when the bad times comes no one is around

what ever happen to people being by your side no matter what tomorrow brings,when tomorrow comes they are there by your side facing it togther

when someone commits suicide people always ask why did they do it,why didn't they come to me for help? how do you know they try to come to you for help but you turn them away,they didn't know how to tell you how they was feeling

sometimes when someone is suicidal goes to someone for help,they do not listen to them,they do not care about what they want only what they want.some do not put the other person before theirsevles,they put theirsevles before the other person

sometimes it is best when someone is suicidal it is best not to say a word,just be with them,for just by you being there for them is telling them all you need to say.it is telling them that you care about them

sometimes when you say something even if you think it is the right thing to say,it can be the wrong thing to say,sometimes we say what we want and we do not ask them what they want

in John 15:12 Jesus says " greater love hatj no man than this,that a man lay down his life for his friends,but not everybody believes in God and his ways

i was taught the most precios thing in life is a human life and no one has the right to hurt one.when a human life is gone you cannot replace it.

but not everyone feels like this.people do get hurt and sometimes the only way they see to stop the pain is by commiting suicide.did the person really want to die probably not they just wanted the pain to stop

it does not matter if it is physical,mental,emotional or spiritual pain

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yes spiritual pain you can break someone's spirit.someone can be broken physical,mental and emotional and still want to live.
but if you break their spirit the reason to live they will want to die.

you see the spirit is a person reason to live,the hope for a better tomorrow,but most important of all it is where your faith comes from.in order to believe in God

our spirit is important for it is the way that God talks to us and it is the way that we talk to God,it gives us hope to make it through the bad times,it gives us faith knowing that the bad times will not last.it is knowing that even if tomorrow is not better than today

one time the good times will come again,it is what holds us togther when we face the stroms of life,when life knocks us down it help us to get back up

but if you break someone spirit which is their faith in God will also be broken and God himself will not be able to help them,for when they lost their faith they stop believing in God and they stop listening to God

but if they can get the right kind of help in time than maybe they will start to want to live again,they are able to find a way to heal their spirit and start believing and getting their faith back in God

if you do not know how it feels to want to die.you will call them stupid and tell them to go ahead and do it.if they went ahead and done it how would you feel

i know how it feels to be a alcoholic cause i was one,i know how it feels to be a drug addit cause i was 1.i know how it feels to want to die and commit suicide for i have already done it and live to tell about it

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i know how it feels to lose everything including your family,for i have lost everything including my family,on the day my ex wife walked out on me for another man

i know how to lose 5 children at a time,for on that night i lost all of my 5 children.i know how it feels to lose your faith in God and in yourself.

i know how it feels to be broken mental,physical.emotional and spiritual.did i want to die? yes i really wanted to die,when the police found me and took me to the hospital

for 2 hours that night the police and i was playing a game of hide and seek.they want to find me and i didn't want them to find me.but on that night God sent a angel down from heaven to find me

that is the thing about God no matter how hard we try to hide from him,God always knows where we are at.when the police found me they took me to the hospital

where for hours they tried to save my life,for as hard as they tried to save my life i fought just as hard to end my life.than the light went out and i did not hear no sounds

when i woke up a doctor was standing beside my bed and i asked him why he was crying.all he did was to hand me a piece of paper as i read it i seen this on it

across the top it said
DEATH CERTIFICATE

as i kept reading it,it had
MY NAME ON IT

as i kept reading it,it had
MY TIME OF DEATH ON IT

as i kept reading it,it has
MY CAUSE OF DEATH ON IT
THE CAUSE OF DEATH WAS SUICIDE

my death certificate was sign cause i meet all of the requirements by law.to be declarelegally dead.for these reasons

1) my heart stop beating
2) my brain stop functioning
3) all attempts to resuscitate me failed

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after i seen my death certificate the doctor looked at me and ask me if i still wanted to die.i looked at him and said hell yes as soon as i get out of here

so i was taken to a mental hospital and place under a suicide watch for 48 hours,which for me it meant where ever i went someone had to be with me,which was fun in a way for when i was in the bathroom too long he came in and i just looked at him with a smile and asked him if he could wipe my butt for me

when i went to bed they sat beside my bed which i made them tell me a bed time story before i went to bed.yes you could say i had every nurse scearming my name, dammit stop that or dammit come here

but it took them 2 weeks to get me to say i didn't want to die,what it took was the psychiatrist ask me what would have happen to my kids if i was not allow to come back

the answer for me was simple they would have been put into a home where they would have stayed there until they was 18.which is 1 of the resons why i am still here

for my faith in God and my children.but while i was in there i met alot of people who try to commit suicide for a lot of differt reason,did they wantr to die? yes at the time they did want to die

they needed someone to talk to and help them to get their lives and mind back togther.i met this one lady who try to commit suicide 15 times and yes she wanted to die

was she stupid not she just wanted the pain to stop. it only takes a short time for someone to take their life.most of the time they will not say something to anyone.it is sad to say they will just do it

if someone tell syou they are going to commit suicide stay clam and stay with them no matter how long it takes,if they want to talk to you,talk to them.but do not make them talk to you

if they do not want to talk than say nothing just be there for them and if they want to talk they will.is not their life mor valuable than your time.

if you think about commiting suicide please stop and think that it is not the answer.there is help out there for you if you want help.you do not have to die in order to get out of the pain you are it

there is someone who understands and someone who will help you,if you are willing to ask them for help and you are willing to let them help you.take it from soneone who knows suicide is not the answer

their are people who has dedicated their lives to help people like you and me.they know a human life is more precious than anything.they understand once 1 is gone there is no getting it back

always remember you are someone and you are someone special

if you are afraid to reach out to people for help,than get on your knees and reach out to God cause yes there is really a God.in Hebrews 13:5-6

Jesus says " i will never leave thee,nor forsake thee"
in Matthew 11:28
Jesus says " come unto me all ye that labour and are heavy laden and i will give you rest"

so when this world gets you down do not take your life.but get down on your knees and call out to Jesus for help

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what i am about to say can have consequences for me,but it does not matter if i can get you to understand that commiting suicide is not the answer.but finding someone who you can talk to,who you can trust and someone that understands you

but if you are afraid to talk to someone than get down on your knees and pray to God or who ever you pray to.now get back to what i was saying

if i ever say to a counselor,doctor or psychiatrist hey i am suicidal can you help me.if i do not go willing to get help.they will pick up the phone and call the police tell them what is going on

than where ever i am out they will come and pick me up.now here is the thing when the police come they are train not to take any chances.if they fear for anyone's or their lives they are to take the person out without questions

trust me it is no fun having the police come to your house,pointing their guns at you,taking you away from your children and holding you against your will.only to find out that it was not true for you was not suicidal

that the person lie so you can be locked up.which happens everyday believe it or not.if you do not believe than check out a law that is called THE BAKER ACT and find out what it says.

now put yourself in my place they knew you will be suicidal all of your life and they found out there is nothing they can do for you,there is no meds nor treatments that will work for you

but you know if you or anyone else tells them that you are suicidal.they will call you and ask you to come in for help.if you do not come in they will send the police after you

you live in fear cause you know it can happen anyday,there is nothing you can do to stop it,if you try to stop it you will not be here when tomorrow comes.trust me it is no fun when a police man holds a gun to back of your head

when you look on each side of you and you see other police man with their shotguns pointing at you,knowing for any reason they will kill you.but i always stood there with a smile on my face,when they had me in handcuff i would ask them where the doughnuts

but i do not live in fear of that,i live in fear knowing 1 time it can cost me my children for something i have no control over.i am still here through my faith in God and i know my children needs me

in case you are wondering how i still have my kids after being place in a mental hospital 6 times for being suicidal simple i have never ever been found a harm to them or anyone else

i have always been found a harm only to myself and no one else/so please listen up and try to understand that i am about to say.every since i commit suicide not a day goes by i do not think about doing it again
they call me high risk suicidal

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but you may not be like me you might be able to find help,they have meds and treatments that will help you,there are ways that you can deal with this and ways that you can overcome it,so you will not have to be like me

i am high risk suicidal cause there is no meds that can help me nor is there is any treatments that can help me,all they can do for me is to keep me in a mental hospital for the rest of my life

when i commited suicide i was place in a mental hospital cause i did want to die,do not ask my why i am suicidal for i do not know.it is not something i wish for nor something i ask for

but it is something that i have learn to deal with and to overcome,something i am thankful for cause it gives me knowledge and understanding to be able to reach out and help someone who is suicidal and tell them it is not the answer

but i know if it had not been for my faith in God and my children i would have lost my fight long ago.but cause of my faith in God and my children is why i keep fighting to live to see tomorrow

if you ask for help there are people who will help you.they have suicide hotlines set up for you to find the help you need,if you do not want to talk to a counsellor,psychiatrist,than talk to your preacher,if you do not have 1 than find someone to talk to

if you do not believe in God than find someone you can talk to.just do not commit suicide for it is not the answer.take it from someone who know it is not the answer.

do not give up hope and keep on fighting for your life,take 1 day at a time and 1 step at a time,no matter what just keep on fighting.this has a warning to who ever reads this.do not think you will not try to commit suicide for no one knows what tomorrow will bring

i did not think i would have done it but i done it and live to tell about it.you can ask people who had try to do it or ask the family of people who had done it

if they thought that the person would have done it and their answer will be no they didn;t think they would have do it

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for the family and friends who life has been touch and change by a suicide.i take this time to say i am sorry for your lost and words are not enough

i know nothing can replace the lost and you wonder why it happen,honestly no one really knows the reason why people do it,they do it for differt reasons.but my prayers are with you and 1 day i pray you will find the peace you are seeking

everybody has their breaking point.we are not Gods nor supermans we are human beings.remember anyone can be broken no matter which way it is.do not take nothing for granted

not your family or anything else but always be thankful for what you have.if you believe in God and you think about commiting suicide get down on your knees and cry out to God

if you do not believe in God please find someone to talk to,please find the help you need to live to see tomorrow.take it from someone who fights everyday to live to see tomorrow

suicide is not the answer,fighting to live to see tomorrow is,finding the help you need is

please it is not the answer and it will never be the answer,i know i have been there and i had to learn the hard way,please seek out help do not do as i have done.for it is not the answer

Z I hope that your fingers are ok.

So glad you're with us. Paws

welcome to my little part of the world,i hope you enjoy your stay,i will always leave the light on for you

so kick back,relax,take your shoes off and stay awhile

adapt and overcome
by madball


your worst enemy is your self
who do you believe in?
well i believe,i believe in me
will you fight or give in
i'll stop at nothing to be something
who do they believe in
in themselves they believe in me
by making something out of nothing

self doubt has been getting the best of me
for way to long
i've been fighting this fighting this all my life
i know i have the courage
i know i have the strength too
i know i have the will

adapt and overcome
rise above all those mistakes and flaws
i'll learn from it and then
i'll climb every obstacle and every wall

who do you believe in
believe in your self now
who do you believe in
well i believe i believe in me
will you fight or give in
in themselves the believe in me
how will you lead them
by making something out of nothing