How honest are you

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druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:15 PM CST : How honest are you?

We all say that we value honesty in a relationship, but when you're in one, how honest are you, really? If you value honesty that highly, do you give it fully in return? Or do you feel things like "little white lies", or stretching the truth...or even, not telling the whole truth, especially if you feel it might hurt your partner's feelings.

Me...I'm as honest and real here as I am in person, and I don't lie. My face reads like a children's book, so every thought I have flits across it instantly...makes it kind of hard, even if I wanted to lie.

I always tell people that if they don't want an honest opinion, they shouldn't ask me. Heck, my face will answer before my mouth does, anyway.

Yes, I've been known to withhold information or tell white lies to my parents, back in HS...but that's the last time I've ever done it. And that was to get away with things. I think we all did that as a kid at some point...but do you, or would you, do it with a SO now? Do you feel that there's ever a good reason for it?

LACali Southern California, California USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:18 PM CST : How honest are you?

druidess6308: We all say that we value honesty in a relationship, but when you're in one, how honest are you, really? If you value honesty that highly, do you give it fully in return? Or do you feel things like "little white lies", or stretching the truth...or even, not telling the whole truth, especially if you feel it might hurt your partner's feelings.Me...I'm as honest and real here as I am in person, and I don't lie. My face reads like a children's book, so every thought I have flits across it instantly...makes it kind of hard, even if I wanted to lie. I always tell people that if they don't want an honest opinion, they shouldn't ask me. Heck, my face will answer before my mouth does, anyway.

Yes, I've been known to withhold information or tell white lies to my parents, back in HS...but that's the last time I've ever done it. And that was to get away with things. I think we all did that as a kid at some point...but do you, or would you, do it with a SO now? Do you feel that there's ever a good reason for it?

I know people think I'm too honest but I do lie about things that the person can't change so their feelings aren't hurt. Like looks. I think that's a kind lie. Hi dru.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:20 PM CST : How honest are you?

LACali: I know people think I'm too honest but I do lie about things that the person can't change so their feelings aren't hurt. Like looks. I think that's a kind lie. Hi dru.

I find something nice to say about their looks if it's something like that. Thankfully, that's one I don't run into a lot.

Hi, LA!

windrider91 Durham, Ontario Canada

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:22 PM CST : How honest are you?

druidess6308: We all say that we value honesty in a relationship, but when you're in one, how honest are you, really? If you value honesty that highly, do you give it fully in return? Or do you feel things like "little white lies", or stretching the truth...or even, not telling the whole truth, especially if you feel it might hurt your partner's feelings.Me...I'm as honest and real here as I am in person, and I don't lie. My face reads like a children's book, so every thought I have flits across it instantly...makes it kind of hard, even if I wanted to lie. I always tell people that if they don't want an honest opinion, they shouldn't ask me. Heck, my face will answer before my mouth does, anyway.

Yes, I've been known to withhold information or tell white lies to my parents, back in HS...but that's the last time I've ever done it. And that was to get away with things. I think we all did that as a kid at some point...but do you, or would you, do it with a SO now? Do you feel that there's ever a good reason for it?

I am honest enough to be able to look in the mirror and like who I see and honest enough to let my lady look in on my site here on Cs....that's the best I can do.

spiceygamble Nola, Louisiana USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:24 PM CST : How honest are you?

I have the potential to be starkly honest, brutally so if provoked.
I guess it's a good thing I upgraded my system to include a powerful mute button.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:25 PM CST : How honest are you?

windrider91: I am honest enough to be able to look in the mirror and like who I see and honest enough to let my lady look in on my site here on Cs....that's the best I can do.

That's a good response.

bushbun Minneapolis, Minnesota USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:25 PM CST : How honest are you?

Honesty is best policy....as much as I can be !

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:26 PM CST : How honest are you?

spiceygamble: I have the potential to be starkly honest, brutally so if provoked.
I guess it's a good thing I upgraded my system to include a powerful mute button.

Good answer. Yes, I can be brutal if provoked. I try not to let anyone provoke me to that point...I'll walk away if I can.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:27 PM CST : How honest are you?

bushbun: Honesty is best policy....as much as I can be !

Agreed, honesty is the best policy.

Shirley49WV New Haven, West Virginia USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:28 PM CST : How honest are you?

I am about as honest as you can get, but think at times I am just to honest for my own good.

RobbieM Hertford, Hertfordshire, England UK

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:30 PM CST : How honest are you?

spiceygamble: I have the potential to be starkly honest, brutally so if provoked.
I guess it's a good thing I upgraded my system to include a powerful mute button.

I can be brutally honest as well.

Mostly though i will stay on the middle ground to reflect the conversation i am having with whatever party.

If its deep ill contribute facts, if its stupid i'll be a wise ass, if its ridiculous i'll go for a ratcheted up response depending if it may upset anyone.

If for example its hit rock bottom, i may try to jump start things by being a little, well me.

If that doesn't do something i will just give up.

windrider91 Durham, Ontario Canada

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:31 PM CST : How honest are you?

druidess6308: Agreed, honesty is the best policy.

I perfer not to use the term policy..it is in itself cusin to dihonesty. Some politicians lean on policy and that can be dangerous.

hollandgirl Somewhere in B.C. Canada, British Columbia Canada

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:31 PM CST : How honest are you?

I ahor liars. I have listened to enough of them.
If I catch someone in a fat lie they will not get the chance to tell me a second lie.

However I have lied at times. (Called white lies) and it is done not to hurt the person's feelings.
A friend showed me the dress she had bought for a wedding.
I thought is was awful but when I saw her face I could not tell her what I thought.
Had we gone shopping together, I would have told her but it was done and she was trilled with her purchase so........?

So yes, there are lies and there are lies.
The first kind is too deceive, the other to spare someone's feelings.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:34 PM CST : How honest are you?

Shirley49WV: I am about as honest as you can get, but think at times I am just to honest for my own good.

I've had that thought myself...and yet, can we really be too honest for our own good? I have to sleep with me at night, and look at myself in the mirror each morning.

windrider91 Durham, Ontario Canada

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:36 PM CST : How honest are you?

druidess6308: I've had that thought myself...and yet, can we really be too honest for our own good? I have to sleep with me at night, and look at myself in the mirror each morning.

I have to answer to my spirit and it is unforgiving.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:38 PM CST : How honest are you?

hollandgirl: I ahor liars. I have listened to enough of them.
If I catch someone in a fat lie they will not get the chance to tell me a second lie.

However I have lied at times. (Called white lies) and it is done not to hurt the person's feelings.
A friend showed me the dress she had bought for a wedding.
I thought is was awful but when I saw her face I could not tell her what I thought.
Had we gone shopping together, I would have told her but it was done and she was trilled with her purchase so........?

So yes, there are lies and there are lies.
The first kind is too deceive, the other to spare someone's feelings.

I would have had to find something positive about the dress before answering...again, my face always gives me away. Luckily, my friends aren't the type to ask me a lot of these questions.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:39 PM CST : How honest are you?

RobbieM: I can be brutally honest as well.

Mostly though i will stay on the middle ground to reflect the conversation i am having with whatever party.

If its deep ill contribute facts, if its stupid i'll be a wise ass, if its ridiculous i'll go for a ratcheted up response depending if it may upset anyone.

If for example its hit rock bottom, i may try to jump start things by being a little, well me.

If that doesn't do something i will just give up.

Humor is a good response to avoid hurting feelings. You have the personality to get away with that one...sadly, I don't.

druidess6308 Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:40 PM CST : How honest are you?

windrider91: I have to answer to my spirit and it is unforgiving.

That too...that's basically what I was referring to with that response. I have to answer to ME...my higher self, or spirit.

I do try not to hurt the feelings of others, but I can't lie to avoid it.

hollandgirl Somewhere in B.C. Canada, British Columbia Canada

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:41 PM CST : How honest are you?

druidess6308: I would have had to find something positive about the dress before answering...again, my face always gives me away. Luckily, my friends aren't the type to ask me a lot of these questions.

I forgot now what I told her but did remember it was positive, I could not wipe that smile of her happy face.

Shirley49WV New Haven, West Virginia USA

Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:45 PM CST : How honest are you?

druidess6308: I've had that thought myself...and yet, can we really be too honest for our own good? I have to sleep with me at night, and look at myself in the mirror each morning.

I understand exactly what your saying Dru I too have to deal with that. But can we tell to much about our life and our past is what I am saying.

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