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hollandgirl: I ahor liars. I have listened to enough of them.
If I catch someone in a fat lie they will not get the chance to tell me a second lie.

However I have lied at times. (Called white lies) and it is done not to hurt the person's feelings.
A friend showed me the dress she had bought for a wedding.
I thought is was awful but when I saw her face I could not tell her what I thought.
Had we gone shopping together, I would have told her but it was done and she was trilled with her purchase so........?

So yes, there are lies and there are lies.
The first kind is too deceive, the other to spare someone's feelings.

Shirley49WV: I understand exactly what your saying Dru I too have to deal with that. But can we tell to much about our life and our past is what I am saying.

RobbieM: I can be brutally honest as well.

Mostly though i will stay on the middle ground to reflect the conversation i am having with whatever party.

If its deep ill contribute facts, if its stupid i'll be a wise ass, if its ridiculous i'll go for a ratcheted up response depending if it may upset anyone.

If for example its hit rock bottom, i may try to jump start things by being a little, well me.

If that doesn't do something i will just give up.

druidess6308: I find something nice to say about their looks if it's something like that. Thankfully, that's one I don't run into a lot.

Hi, LA!

druidess6308: We all say that we value honesty in a relationship, but when you're in one, how honest are you, really? If you value honesty that highly, do you give it fully in return? Or do you feel things like "little white lies", or stretching the truth...or even, not telling the whole truth, especially if you feel it might hurt your partner's feelings.Me...I'm as honest and real here as I am in person, and I don't lie. My face reads like a children's book, so every thought I have flits across it instantly...makes it kind of hard, even if I wanted to lie. I always tell people that if they don't want an honest opinion, they shouldn't ask me. Heck, my face will answer before my mouth does, anyway.

Yes, I've been known to withhold information or tell white lies to my parents, back in HS...but that's the last time I've ever done it. And that was to get away with things. I think we all did that as a kid at some point...but do you, or would you, do it with a SO now? Do you feel that there's ever a good reason for it?

LACali: I know people think I'm too honest but I do lie about things that the person can't change so their feelings aren't hurt. Like looks. I think that's a kind lie. Hi dru.

Indyfella: Well, there's a tactful way around that."You're not near as ugly as your picture on CS".

Indyfella: Well, there's a tactful way around that."You're not near as ugly as your picture on CS".

Indyfella: Well, there's a tactful way around that."You're not near as ugly as your picture on CS".

druidess6308: How about, "Your picture on CS doesn't do you justice."

Or, "You're even better looking than your picture on CS."

Those would be more tactful.

druidess6308: We all say that we value honesty in a relationship, but when you're in one, how honest are you, really? If you value honesty that highly, do you give it fully in return? Or do you feel things like "little white lies", or stretching the truth...or even, not telling the whole truth, especially if you feel it might hurt your partner's feelings.Me...I'm as honest and real here as I am in person, and I don't lie. My face reads like a children's book, so every thought I have flits across it instantly...makes it kind of hard, even if I wanted to lie. I always tell people that if they don't want an honest opinion, they shouldn't ask me. Heck, my face will answer before my mouth does, anyway.

Yes, I've been known to withhold information or tell white lies to my parents, back in HS...but that's the last time I've ever done it. And that was to get away with things. I think we all did that as a kid at some point...but do you, or would you, do it with a SO now? Do you feel that there's ever a good reason for it?

Kidgloves: Yes I am honest and never found telling lies ever did anygood. I tried it a few times and got caught out badly so not worth it at all bes to be up front and straight with it. Me I say it as it is and no frills. Times though folk want to hear what they want and not the real truth that is humas for you. best wishes

RobbieM: Or i have another......

I didn't realise it was you i was looking at, i thought it was a school bus backed into a weather balloon?

Just a thought

DoznEggs: Honestly, I am honest.

Oh what a tangled web you weave, if you practice to deceive.

Kidgloves: Yes I am honest and never found telling lies ever did anygood. I tried it a few times and got caught out badly so not worth it at all bes to be up front and straight with it. Me I say it as it is and no frills. Times though folk want to hear what they want and not the real truth that is humas for you. best wishes

druidess6308: Goofball.

druidess6308: Yes...I find that most eventually get found out, and then it's worse. In a relationship with a partner, I think absolute honesty, and the ability to share all, is a necessity.

druidess6308: How about, "Your picture on CS doesn't do you justice."

Or, "You're even better looking than your picture on CS."

Those would be more tactful.

Ambrose2007: The first would be honest, Dru - not the second (if you didn't think he was good-looking in either case).