kerm1t: Having just finished with my divorce, yes I was the dumpee, not dumper, it occurs to me that people need a bit of a reality check.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP.
Ladies, and other women, learn to be realsitic in your expectations of a relationship. I have read so many profiles of people saying they are not going to settle for anything but the best. Good luck I say to you, enjoy your singlehood, it'll last a long time.
Dawson does not exist, neither does Chandler, Ross, or anyone else that you see on the celluloid screen, and are using as your benchmark for what you are looking for.
During my seven year marriage, I was constantly compared to those previous guys, why couldn't I come up with the perfect speech to solve any problem. Why wasn't I the strong silent type that was also in touch with my feelings, and could pre-empt any situation that arose and solve it before it happened.
Everyone that is over 25 on this site, and every other dating site needs to realise one thing, we are all damaged at this point, otherwise why would we be here? You can use any excuse you like: I'm too busy, I don't have time.
While there are some people on here that really are wasting their time, most of us, regardless of if we fit your picture perfect view, are exactly what you are looking for.
We are all here for the same reason, to find a good relationship, and at this stage of our lives, that's all we should hope for. A good relationship is just that, good, it's not great, it's not perfect, it helps us when we need it, and gives us what we need.
So please, for all of us average people out there who would love nothing more than coming home at the end of the day and falling into your loving arms, and spending time enjoying you and the things we do together, realise that there is no Mr or Ms right/perfect, but there is close enough.
Now, feel free to tear me apart.
You maybe damaged...well i must be completely F**ked up then.
I wouldn't worry, don't worry it gets worse with age
