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Not to be forgotten is to never die......

I will admit to being one of the women who called Phil a player. Now I look back on it, and realise that he wasnt a player. He was a very insecure man, who craved love and attention to cope with his severe depression. He just wanted love.

I am sorry Phil, for everything I ever said and did that caused you more pain.

Who could have guessed that he's depression was this huge? Look how his smile brightens our screens? Lets remember how funny, sensitive, gentle and even rude he was when he felt the topics...he was a very passionate man, who used to send me many laughter emoticons when i was in trouble here and making fun of people...
He had always admitted he was depressed but went out of his home, he did gyming, he did log out although he was on most of the time...
Karen, yes, he was flirting with a lot women because he needed love, but he could do it with more than one at the same time, so, that is normally called to be a player. He never did it in a desperate way, he never would have started deep depression threads, his threads where of someone who wanted to learn and hear about the love side of life, through this, we learned to love and appreciate him. His profile, was original, short but original and attractive. He was someone easy to love.
Did he need CS to survive? We don't know, we don't know what happened...and if he did need, he never ever conveyed so, so don't feel guilty of anything but maybe sorry that we didn't enjoy him for much longer. He was needed....

OMG!!!!

I am in total shock.............

Phil was such a beautiful person - Inside as well as outer beauty.

Kind, caring, compassionate, Itelligent, witty. Very good listener and you couldn't ask for a better friend, than the one you would find in him!

You are going to be sorely missed Phil. X


My thoughts and prayers go to his family

The only lesson to learn here is: Count your words before you speak...

Wrong lesson...not apropriate here.
The principle should be that we are all in avarage conditions. If you are abnormally weak, sensitive, disturbed you should tell us how you feel or avoid troubles, posting too much in controversial threads if you don't want to hear other people's standing. Many people choose to stay out of controversy here, others decide to ask for help when they are passing through a hard time...so, nobody here should feel guilty of possibly having made our Phil get worse. He had our mails, he could have said something as well...if nobody reached him lately it was not because we called him player more than 6 months ago.

wouldn't you get bored counting

So it was right to say that he was a player then, even if this was said six months ago? Small things can grow into BIG problems...

Do you believe that calling him a player was the major cause of this death? That's not objectively reasonable.
The motivations for our actions only we know the most. Here we only read what people write.

Who knows...point is think before you speak...

Wise words

well said!!

Shame on you three above me.

How dare you place blame on others, for what happened to Phil?

Would you behave the same, if say, your ex passed away and the people close to him laid some of the blame on you, because you broke up with them, or ever disagreed with them while they were living?


If i died today, would all the women who dislike me here, like to be blamed, because of something they said to me once or ten times?




If that is how you chose to deal with this loss, then it's quite sad.

Think before you instigate!

If I had to think before I write I probably wouldn't ever have anything to say.

This is a goodbye thread, and not a lets lay the blame on anyone thread

We all know why the X rebel said this, or anything he says for that matter, and you supported him.





This is just sad!