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yes for once let this thread stay on its topic..

For God sake everyone lets not get this thread banned..

put all aside and let this man RIP..

When someone passes away we all need to remember the good things about them.

Phil might have come accross as a bit of a player in some people's perception at some times, there is no way we can know the reasons for this.
Nor need we look to find any.
Simply because this is NOT who phil was, it was just something about him, exactly like there is something(s) about each and everyone of us that some people will like and some people wont.

Phil was a fun guy to be around, in this cyber meeting place. Always funny and witty, caring for those he felt closer to. this is who he was.

But as luscious said, and i agree completely, to try and pass the guilt of his untimely death onto those who might have felt at some point that he wasnt as square as he should be with them, thats plain stupid. And certainly not something that honours the man. We all say things to each other that reflect the way we feel about either them, something they did, something they said, at the time we say them.

When my time comes, i would certainly not want people to try and remember the times i said this or i've been said that etc. I would much rather prefer people to remember who i was, the good things about me (if there are any).

And in the case of phil, there are simply too many good things to remember about who the man was, so many that there is absolutely no reason to try and look now who offended him, if they were right or even, what if.

Exactly the point i've been trying to make.

Phil would smile from where he was, if he saw us all say 'boobies'.

i agree , and one thing he hated was the bickering and argueing on the threads

BOOBIES

Nice boobies
(*)(*)


much better boobies
( * ) ( * )


Monstrous boobs
{ * } { * }


Almost boobies
|*| |*|


Tsernobil boobies
(**) (**)

cockeyed boobies
( *) (* )


expiriment gone wrong boobies
)*( )*(


any more?

Mano, you are just charming!

( o ) ( o ) <<<<<<<<..Perfect boobies??

Mine are!


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Prove it!

I wish everybody clapped hands to your words Manolito, because those are words of wisdom. Instead, people rather come here just throw poison because it's the right chance to do so in their perspective.

Boobies of all kinds

I'll prove it!


Pics on their way!

I knew him as a very close friend. What happened between him and whoever is best known to them. And at this point of time esp. its none of anybodys business. Whats important is not what he did but inspite of everything or anything, a lot of us miss him. Thats cos he was a nice guy . .Yes he had depression, but beyond that i dont think anyone needs to know what or what not unless he mentioned it publicly himself.

His absence makes us sad. That doesnt make anyone responsible though cos usually the number of reasons leading to something like this are multiple. I guess none of us know what really went on in his mind.

This was just to clarify that we arent hear to discuss why or who or what. But to remember him in our own little ways.

I miss him a lot. I wish i had said it to him when he was around.

I am so saddened by this news. Really liked Detente and missed reading his input on the forums. He will be sorely missed.

Boobies

If a few of us were hurt at that time.. it was BECAUSE we cared alot for him... when this situation came to light.. I was hurt, hugely disappointed and yes angry.. BECAUSE I cared for him.. that weekend I could not even stay at home.. I had to stay in a friends house because I felt sooo hurt, it was like a physical pain... I felt betrayed and so disappointed because I reeeally liked him.. I did try to reach out to him shortly after via email, explained myself and indicated that I hope we would be friends.. in fact I regretted not just keeping it just friends full stop, because while (relationship) he was mixed up and tended to push people away.. as a friend he was perfect.. witty, funny, creative, quirky and so much more.. I missed that.. greatly... I still do, and I will always have regrets...
I have also learned an important lesson.. none of know what tomorrow will bring so falling out and not talking is sooooo pointless.. I wish more than anything that I could turn back time...

Thank you Lush for your reasonable words..

I understand you fully, Aries.


I am also sorry you lost someone who got so close to your heart, at one point.