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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 1:40 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
jbibiza: In 7th grade I purposely failed the exam for the "GATE" program... it´s hard enough to get accepted by your peers when your mother makes you wear dresses instead of jeans to school... never mind being separated into a special class for smart kids. The things I had to do to prove that I was "cool" and not a nerd or geek...


I had the problem of fitting in because I was always the new kid, being an AF brat. It took me YEARS to be accepted. But I must say... & this is unfortunately the truth... after I was noticed by the guys, I was accepted by the girls. Before that, I was made fun of because of my glasses, my clothes, my haircuts, etc.

But then, that's another thread in itself... how cruel kids can be...
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jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:12 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
sweetowen: I had the problem of fitting in because I was always the new kid, being an AF brat. It took me YEARS to be accepted. But I must say... & this is unfortunately the truth... after I was noticed by the guys, I was accepted by the girls. Before that, I was made fun of because of my glasses, my clothes, my haircuts, etc.

But then, that's another thread in itself... how cruel kids can be...


I wasn´t an AF brat, but we moved every two years and I was always the new kid as well... I wouldn´t go through childhood again for anything... kids can indeed be cruel. High School was a whole other matter... I had boobs...laugh
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hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:15 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
sweetowen: I'm just wondering your opinion on this. Do you think people who are "better looking", "smarter", "wealthier", etc., get treated better or more advantages than others?




Absolutely!professor
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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:16 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
jbibiza: I wasn´t an AF brat, but we moved every two years and I was always the new kid as well... I wouldn´t go through childhood again for anything... kids can indeed be cruel. High School was a whole other matter... I had boobs...


Hey!! Me too!! laugh tongue And my parents finally let me wear makeup..... I remember the first day of school in 10th grade. I sat in the "Junior section" for a pep rally, with a friend. I heard someone yell, "HEY YOU!" I looked up & these guys were looking down at me & asked if I was new. I said, "No". After the pep rally, they came up to my locker, shook my hand, & introduced themselves. After that, I was "in", so to speak. Ironic, huh? I guess that DOES have to do with this thread, now doesn't it?
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FreedomLover Everett, Washington USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:54 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
Yes

http://www.viewzone.com/attractiveness.html

http://intro2psych.wordpress.com/2008/05/04/which-picture-did-you-look-at-longer/
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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:18 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
FreedomLover: Yes

http://www.viewzone.com/attractiveness.html

http://intro2psych.wordpress.com/2008/05/04/which-picture-did-you-look-at-longer/


I only got to skim through the first article. But it definitely was very interesting reading!

So, if there is a part of the brain that tells us whether a person is attractive or not, wouldn't it just prove that we base our attraction on looks? Can we just over-ride this?
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jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:22 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
sweetowen: Hey!! Me too!! And my parents finally let me wear makeup..... I remember the first day of school in 10th grade. I sat in the "Junior section" for a pep rally, with a friend. I heard someone yell, "HEY YOU!" I looked up & these guys were looking down at me & asked if I was new. I said, "No". After the pep rally, they came up to my locker, shook my hand, & introduced themselves. After that, I was "in", so to speak. Ironic, huh? I guess that DOES have to do with this thread, now doesn't it?


For me it was being in a school play... and the football team were all wondering who the new "hottie" was on stage... I got a barrage of flowers and date invitations after the performance...laugh rolling on the floor laughing
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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:30 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
jbibiza: For me it was being in a school play... and the football team were all wondering who the new "hottie" was on stage... I got a barrage of flowers and date invitations after the performance...


I can't wait til we meet! It seems we'll have a lot to talk about.

I got my high school sweetheart through that group of guys I met that day! I also got better known in school & made it into some clubs, becoming an officer in some & nominated in others.
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jlb684 Athens, Attica Greece
Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:34 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
Oh, there is no doubt in my mind. I would remove the "smarter" option, though. But better looking and wealthier people definitely have the advantages in life. For the better looking....it's not who you know, it's who you blow. For the rich, it's not who you blow, it's who you know. In either case, it's about connections.
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Tater springfield, Illinois USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 4:16 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
jlb684: Oh, there is no doubt in my mind. I would remove the "smarter" option, though. But better looking and wealthier people definitely have the advantages in life. For the better looking....it's not who you know, it's who you blow. For the rich, it's not who you blow, it's who you know. In either case, it's about connections.



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jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
Wed Dec 17, 2008 4:28 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
sweetowen: I can't wait til we meet! It seems we'll have a lot to talk about.

I got my high school sweetheart through that group of guys I met that day! I also got better known in school & made it into some clubs, becoming an officer in some & nominated in others.



laugh laugh This is getting almost scary... I was my Jr. Class secretary and dated one of the football guys that sent flowers after the play...laugh My Sr. sweetheart... I chose... when I saw him walk across the campus...love laugh

The strange thing was I never became part of any of the "cliques" but had one or two friends in all of them.
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FreedomLover Everett, Washington USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 5:35 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
sweetowen: I only got to skim through the first article. But it definitely was very interesting reading!

So, if there is a part of the brain that tells us whether a person is attractive or not, wouldn't it just prove that we base our attraction on looks? Can we just over-ride this?



Here is another fun site. http://www.beautyanalysis.com/index2_mba.htm


There is a "mask" that you can put over your picture to see if you have the "perfect face," or how close you are to the perfect face. There is a mathematical formula for this. Even with humans, there is a geometrical formula for the perfect dimensions.

I think the initial attraction is based on looks, but we are also influenced by cultural norms. I think once you get to know someone, they may become more beautiful because you start to see the inner beauty more.

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zeelanderer Louisville, Kentucky USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 6:03 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
If that is the case, I need to start dating a much better class of women if I want to get anywhere in this world.

Zee
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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 7:46 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
I do think intelligence gets you farther, but only when you get older. We all seem to be basing it on how we were accepted in school. But being smart as an adult does have it's perks. Yes, looks can help you land a job... but only to an extent. You still need the knowledge to get the job. I sure wouldn't want a doctor to operate on me just because he was cute! scold
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divinorum Clinton, Indiana USA
Wed Dec 17, 2008 11:54 PM CST : Preferential Treatment
zeelanderer: If that is the case, I need to start dating a much better class of women if I want to get anywhere in this world.

Zee


o_O

Ouch!
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nomindgames Painesville, Ohio USA
Thu Dec 18, 2008 12:00 AM CST : Preferential Treatment
Yes,unfair but yes.Studies have been done on beautiful people vs homely or plain people,sadly yes they get better treatment.sad flower
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zeelanderer Louisville, Kentucky USA
Thu Dec 18, 2008 2:56 AM CST : Preferential Treatment
divinorum: o_O

Ouch!


I should specify.... over the past 2 years I have been dating from the bottom of the barrel. Yes, I said 2 years, not 4.

Zee
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mafusg1 Tiger, Georgia USA
Thu Dec 18, 2008 3:03 AM CST : Preferential Treatment
In short yes. I was a "cool guy" in school, till we got to the age where sexuality and physical attractiveness mattered. Then i disappeared, and far as i can tell, i'm still gone. I still have friends, mostly female, because i'm......(sigh) so easy to talk to and such a great guy.
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Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA
Thu Dec 18, 2008 4:14 AM CST : Preferential Treatment
How could CS still be in business w/all the beautiful people on here? confused
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rizlared Pisa, Tuscany Italy
Thu Dec 18, 2008 5:05 AM CST : Preferential Treatment
Then there is the snobbish attitude

When I was in Austin, a group of us decided to go for a dinner at a very popular restaurant, my friend, a Texan and the regional manager for Sheraton Hotels, phoned to book a table but was turned away, told it was booked up for some weeks, we decided to play a trick, so I phoned, put on my very best English accent and asked to book a table for 6 under the name of “The Earl of Worcester”. The booking was taken immediately.

We ate somewhere elselaugh laugh
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