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what a mess. gawd, i am glad i never married..things SOME women do

austria , australia ..UK ???

I feel for this guy as I do all misunderstood Fathers but we must remember there are two sides to every story and I don't know the other so I can't judge one way or the other. I am a single father and it is very trying sometimes. I didn't have to go to court to gain custody because I made damn sure I married a woman who was compassionate and understanding. Me and my ex get along just fine, we have two boys together and they are at the age where they need their Dad. I was lucky enough to establish a relationship with my kids like a mother would while I was married. I have walked my kids to school every day since they started made their meals and made sure they are ready for school everday. When we got divorced my ex was overwhelmed by the amount of time and energy it takes to raise these boys by herself. Hell Laundry Grocery Shopping Doctors appointments school functions etc. She was more than willing to hand them over. For any guy that considers having custody of their kids, they should keep these things in mind. I hope all goes well for this guy and I suggest he use his time wisely as my ex did. She went back to school full time and is working on her master's degree and see's the kids on weekends and holidays luckily for me everything worked out fine. But Damn it get's hectic sometimes!

Noone wins or loses- thats a stupid adult game - irrespective of this if the children are treated right by both of you - if one trys to act the "winner" then- they eventually lose --- love of the children is theirs to perceive and share--- and they know and remember--- a game with love never to be played

I live in Austria, I calrified that I do not live in Australia, to the OP.

And I know about the UK Family Law Courts, I went through it for years.

Hope that clarifies.

Exactly, Cuspy.

aussie aussi aussie oi oi oi

Wot?

You left Yurope?

Without me?

Wot?

You left Yurope?

Without me?

---the highway man will put the E back in the u

When you have your kids, be there for them. Be there with them 100%. Do not introduce other women into their lives, until it is someone you are considering to marry.

Check your state laws to see if at a specific age, the children get a say in who they live with. If so, when you kids reach that age, ask then who they want to live with. If they say they want to live with you, then go back to court and tell the judge.

IF the Judge did something inappropriate, then check with your state to see if they have a Judical Review board and file a complaint.

Good Luck

There's not any easy way that I ever found.
It's gonna take time.

Make sure you have somebody close who you can talk to about it.

If you try to keep the hurt inside and pretend you're alright it won't ever get better and it will cause you all sorts of problems.

thanks for the posts...I have to admit my faith got weak during these times in 2008 because I was in constant prayer and I really didnt think it was God's will for me to lose custody of my kids. I have tried to just accept it and go on living. The funny thing is that the ex proved it was just a power trip...now I see my kids even more than when I had them joint with her. I just wish we would have come to this agreement earlier and saved us both about 7grand...