LACali: The problem is that if I am interested in someone I check his profile to see if he's single or not, I don't know how else to do it. You have been very clear that you met someone and are not looking anymore, the person you are seeing has also been very clear on the forums that he has found you. This person did not do that either on the forums or in his profile. I am not sure how else for a woman to know he was unavailable and why should she have to ask him-he should make it clear. The whole thing was confusing and hurtful. But he wasn't right for me or we would have felt the same way about the entire situation.
Cal, if I may call you that?
Sometimes, and I am not telling you what to do here, I am speaking from my own personal experience, we do not have to understand the person we are with and nor should we expect him/her to.
I do think, yes, people should make it clear that they are not looking, I was not, when I first came here, however, I still tyoed in the 'looking to meet' bit.
I just never found it.
Until now.
He was wrong, he never listened to you.
He should have.
He messed up.