LACali: I met someone on here that I really really fell for and he still spent all hours on here, he also didn't put in his profile that he wasn't looking anymore (I did) and that hurt so I am not talking with him now. I think if someone meets someone on here and they want to stay they should be clear about it in their profile that they are no longer looking and they should be clear about not flirting with anyone on here. Lots of people stay and behave very nicely just participating in threads and that's fine with me. What happened to me was not fine....
Although I have to disagree about the flirting. If you're both flirts, but your profiles make it clear that you're taken, and the two of you make it clear that you're taken, then there's nothing wrong with a little flirting...so long as you both understand that's all it is. I'm a flirt in person and on here...but I'm faithful when I'm in a relationship, and the flirting means nothing...it's just who I am. He's the same way, so we've talked about it and agreed...and agreed to talk about it if it does become a problem. Open communication is the key.
And, I'd only flirt with those friends who know that's all it is...those I already flirt with that way on here.
So...that part is between the two individuals involved. For you that wouldn't work, and that's okay, so long as the man understands that and agrees.
I'm truly sorry for what happened to you, LA. I know you were hurt.