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LACali: Beautiful post. Many of us on here have health, financial, family and other problems. My problem is that men don't want to see that part of me or deal with it and I'm tired of pretending that it doesn't exist. I've found that I've kind of gone into a shell so that I don't have to meet anyone's expectations. When I tell them things they blow it off in the beginning and say it doesn't matter but then very soon it does and I'm tired of being hurt so I understand everything you've written.

sxc666: I think a lot of the time Dana, we will put ourselves down to save anyone else doing it.

gozoman2: All it boils down to is....

stand in front of a mirror....

ask this question to the face looking at you....

are you happy.....

and make sure the answer is yes.

That's all there is to it.

gozoman2: All it boils down to is....

stand in front of a mirror....

ask this question to the face looking at you....

are you happy.....

and make sure the answer is yes.

That's all there is to it.

gozoman2: ask this question to the face looking at you....

are you happy.....

and make sure the answer is yes.

LACali: I'm content with my life but that isn't all there is to it unless you're alone which I've stayed for much of my adult life. But when you add someone to the equation that isn't all there is to it. For example I work either almost full-time or full-time. I am exhausted at the end of the day and my back is so bad I have to lie down-these are from health problems. So far I've never met a man who wants to cook dinner or pay my bills but I have met lots of men who thought I was either boring because I couldn't do much at the end of the day or didn't do enough for them.

gozoman2: All it boils down to is....

stand in front of a mirror....

ask this question to the face looking at you....

are you happy.....

and make sure the answer is yes.

That's all there is to it.

gozoman2: That is the whole point......what do you mean for THEM?

Should read for ME (i.e. you)

Anybody who feels you should be doing things for them is not worth the bother......

It's about sharing.....not subjugating....

pretzelman: Many have wondered why I am on a dating site, if I am not looking for a partner. I have asked myself the same question.

Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.

People say they want honesty...so here it is!!

When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.

But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.

First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!

Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.

Fear of losing my independence. I like being free

Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'

Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!

I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!

So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?

O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"

sxc666: I think what you are feeling is normal Ship.

I see one member on here, you would think was Mother Theresa with everything she writes..........NO ONE IS THAT PERFECTand that alone shits me to death. FAKE

JMO

pretzelman: Many have wondered why I am on a dating site, if I am not looking for a partner. I have asked myself the same question.

Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.

People say they want honesty...so here it is!!

When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.

But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.

First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!

Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.

Fear of losing my independence. I like being free

Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'

Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!

I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!

So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?

O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"

trish123: There are many resounding emotions in both our lives Shippy - what a shame we cant have a mad affair and fulfill each others needs once and for all

gozoman2: This is an interesting thread......

I've had my fair share of relationships along the way....been married once.....and have been practically single since.....about fifteen odd years now....

I do enjoy, and occasionally do have companionship.....but have discovered more fulfillment in following my path on my own.

I have discovered more and enjoyed more on my own journey then I could have ever imagined.

Sometimes I do miss the company of someone to share my flight with.....but I cannot imagine myself stopping in mid flight for the sake of this.

Life is too short for one to stay pondering on the ifs and the buts.

Enjoy what you have, while you have it.

That is my point.

sxc666:
I see one member on here, you would think was Mother Theresa with everything she writes..........NO ONE IS THAT PERFECTand that alone shits me to death. FAKE

trish123: There are many resounding emotions in both our lives Shippy - what a shame we cant have a mad affair and fulfill each others needs once and for all

gozoman2: This is an interesting thread......

I've had my fair share of relationships along the way....been married once.....and have been practically single since.....about fifteen odd years now....

I do enjoy, and occasionally do have companionship.....but have discovered more fulfillment in following my path on my own.

I have discovered more and enjoyed more on my own journey then I could have ever imagined.

Sometimes I do miss the company of someone to share my flight with.....but I cannot imagine myself stopping in mid flight for the sake of this.

Life is too short for one to stay pondering on the ifs and the buts.

Enjoy what you have, while you have it.

That is my point.