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Ambrose2007: Exactly. Romantic relationships aren't principally altruistic in nature (nor would we want them to be...who would want to be loved as a charity case?), and it's a simple fact that some quid pro quo is involved. To think otherwise is to indulge in pure - albeit nice-sounding - fantasy.

Dawn7z: You are a kind lovely humble woman Sassy. Whooo hooo hope some guy comes along and sees how wonderful you are.

wixomwizard: OMG....We could be twins,only add 6 yrs.

I'm so poor, I can't afford to pay attention and the government is repossessing the vacant lot I'm living in. My belly keeps my feet from getting sunburned in the summer and my teeth are like stars, they come out everynight. Health wise, I've had TB as a babe, polio as a pre-teen, prostate cancer 5 yrs ago, a major heart attack 9mos ago. This body needs another trip down the assembly line. You think you lack of love prospects? I could'nt get laid in a womans prison with a fistful of Presidential Pardons....literally.

Welcome to the club of old age....other than all of that, I'm fantastic but getting better all the time.

sassy49senior: Thank you Dawn, You are awesome, however when I have my
moods I don't even want to be around me(LOL) I sure would
like to be in that group hug and am sending one back, just
for you.

kitty01: I think we are all scared. That is why when someone does want to meet me I always end up not going. I start to think who would want someone who looks like me, overweight, limping, and sometimes will freak out from one of my panic attacks I have had since childhood.

mylifewithu: Do you tell them about these important facts before you meet. If so then stop condeming yourself, We can be our own worst Judge. Just be honest with them and get your butt there to meet them

kitty01: There is one guy now who wants to meet, I have always found a excuse why not to meet. He did send me a e-card just the other day, maybe I should e mail him again if I remember his name.

mylifewithu: I am scared too also, not only taking a chance of going thru abuse or finanacial destructiion of my life by men as before. But taking a chance of having my heart drug across jagged rocks and thru the mud once again.
I do know when the right one shows up, he will show me the way to a path where our love meets. So to a point I can be scared and protective of my heart. But I have to be willing to allow him close enough to be a friend at least, and we take time to know each other and if our hearts fall for each other, then it will be a smooth peaceful path we go down together and see the beauty in it all like flowers along the way. If it is right there won't be any doubts cause I listen to myself above all. I may still screw up and get hurt again, but I at least tried.
So I am still scared but I will take that risk again, but now I am very slow to allow my heart to be too envolved with him too soon, at least until I know him and his heart and over time know him and that he and I have the same goals and strength to work together thru anything to make it work.

hopefloats: Me and you both! Well said.

HJFinAZ: To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose your feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams before a crowd is to risk.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

But, risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all.

The person who risk nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live and love.

Chained by their certitudes, they are a slave. They have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

pretzelman: Many have wondered why I am on a dating site, if I am not looking for a partner. I have asked myself the same question.

Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.

People say they want honesty...so here it is!!

When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.

But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.

First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!

Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.

Fear of losing my independence. I like being free

Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'

Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!

I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!

So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?

O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"

HJFinAZ: To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose your feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams before a crowd is to risk.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

But, risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all.

The person who risk nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live and love.

Chained by their certitudes, they are a slave. They have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

LACali: Maybe everyone is scared about something. I met someone on here with lots of kids and his life was a mess kind of. I know he wanted to be together but he was so scared to make changes in his life-get his adult children functioning on their own and he took early retirement because of a work injury. I think he couldn't do anything because he was so overwhelmed but I was willing to be involved in all that. But I couldn't change his fears....

druidess6308: No, that you can't do.

Firey100: Here goes you want to hear about me, I will tell you have it all and have nothing am totally f--ked up. worked like a dog all my life to reach the heights of my career. House, car, nice things. Good figure, nice teeth and hair which is at the salon twice a week. Manicure and pedicure once a week. Money not a problem and what have I got a high powered job and an empty house and bed to come home to well I can tell you its not fun at all. It is sheer bullshit what you are saying about age 58 you are a kid still. I was dating older than you and he dumped me and no reason! So what good is feeling sorry for myself have cried the tears and today have drown them and back to work tomorrow. I am not scared to live alone and like you I think that I will stay that way. I can promise you money is not the be all and end all. It does not buy Love I ammore miserable with it than I ever was without it. I am confident and outgoing well I was now I just want to die in a corner devastated at the hands of a man I loved. You asked for it and that is my story for you.