In response to: Many have wondered why I am on a dating site, if I am not looking for a partner. I have asked myself the same question.
Although I present myself as a mean old man, there is a reason. I mean other than the fact that I am a mean old man. I am scared of relationships.
People say they want honesty...so here it is!!
When I say scared, I don't mean scared for me. I am scared for the other possible mate. I run them off(yes, believe it or not, a few have expressed interest) more to protect them from me.
But here are a few of my fears in relation to relationships.
First, and foremost is money. So self respecting woman wants a guy with no money. Now, don't tell that lie about money means nothing to you!! You'll get coal in your stocking for that!!
Health issues. I have a lot. Too much to burden any woman with. Let it go at that.
Fear of losing my independence. I like being free
Possessions...I have none. And I do mean none! No house, no car, no nothin'
Last but, not least...the physical aspect. Although many women say looks and outward appearance mean nothing, remember that coal I talked about in the beginning of this post??? Be honest,,,you wouldn't date Quasimoto!!!
I stand back and look at me, a 58 year old man. And I think, if I were a woman, would I want to get involved with this man??
A resounding....HELL NO!
So do any of you give yourself an inventory to see why a person should want you as a partner??? Or do you only see good in yourselves and believe a person is crazy not to want you??Serious answers, please. I want to hear about YOU, not what I think of myself. Do YOU do an honest assessment of yourself?
O.K>...now I will shut my "mangina"
Ship, this has to be one of the most honest and frank posts I have ever read here, in fact anywhere. In answer to your question, no, I do not a frank and honest view of myself. I do not lie, I just do not come out with it. Lying by omission, call it what ever you want to. I give what I want to give here, only what I want to give, a little bit about me and that is it. I give an honest frank picture to myself to the people I see each day, friends, family, they are who are inportant and of course to the person I wake up to, each day. Sometimes that is me, sometimes that is another. Fears are there for us all, all of us, I do not care how confident, how much money you have, how little you have, what you have been through as a person, fear is there. I am learning to overcome mine, taken me a long time, but I am. But there will always be a degree of fear there, fear for me, for my children, for work, for where I go next as I annoucce my retirement from teaching after 20 years. This has been a fascinating thread, with people that I cross posts with everyday, who I believe are being honet. There are few times when something gets to me here, one is family law and people who are torn apart from the their children, and the other is when people are depressed, cannot pick themselves up at all, sometimes i get cross and come across as a heartless woman, but I do not do suffering too well, I am shameless at it. Ship, I have always had a spot for you, since my time here, certainly, I have, and I take my hat off to you today, and raise my glass to you. Coz you damn well deserve it.