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I posted this today another site. I couldn't have imagined the controversy it was going to cause. Most men appreciated the advice but a few wanted to burn me at the stake. Any insight??

I am bored and figured I would kill some time. I have posted on this and other sites a few times and am amazed at the responses I receive sometimes. I am writing this to help guys that are truly looking for somebody to spend sincere time with......if you are just looking for sex, I suggest a hooker. They won't call you in the morning wondering if you are still interested.....and with food prices so high, it might even be cheaper.

1. Woman get 10 times more responses than you when she places an ad and almost none of them are fake bots. If she has a picture with her ad, she might get as many as 500 or 600 responses. Don't be offended if she doesn't write you back right away or even at all. She might just be over-whelmed! If you truly feel like she should meet you, send her a short casual note a few days later asking how she's doing. Still no response? Back off...it is what it is.

2. Contrary to a man's belief, we do know what we want. If we say please be between 25 and 35.....don't write and say "I'm 50 but....." and then wonder why you are passed over. Actually read what we have to say and be honest with yourself....if you know the shirt doesn't fit.....why try it on?

3. Say something to us!!!! Don't say "I don't want to waste my time so I am keeping this short." What a turn off!!! If you are actually interested, you would be willing to waste 10 minutes of your day letting that be known........and don't let a picture do all the talking for you. Good-looking guys are a dime a dozen. What makes you different than them?

4. A lot of us have friends on here and we TALK to each other. Don't send a pre-written form letter to all of us saying how great we are. You will be busted and look lame. It only takes a few minutes to show that you are genuinely interested.

5. Use your brain....if it looks like a bot and sounds like a bot, it probably is. (Hint...if it says Hampton Roads for a location, chances are it is a bot.) If the profile is full of detail and everyday pictures (especially of people you see posting on a regular basis), it is probably real. Don't ask. Have some faith.

6. The email is your first chance to make a good impression. MOST of you wouldn't show up to a first date wearing dirty jeans and a ripped shirt...sending an email full of typos sends the same message. We don't all have English degrees, but spell-check is now a built-in function from most email providers. Consider it to be your new best friend.

7. Set your email up in 3 paragraphs. The first should have your name, age, location you live in, and maybe what you do for a living. The second should be a few likes and dislikes and some hobbies. If at all possible, relate back to her post and ask a few questions she can respond back with. "I see you like collecting cat figurines. That happens to be my all time favorite thing to do as well. How many do you have? Have you gone to the shop downtown that specializes in them?" (Special side note: If you collect cat figurines....don't email me.) The last paragraph should be a few reasons why you think she should write back. Compliments are great if they are said the right way. ("You have a sweet smile" goes over better than "I see those lips and imagine them wrapped around my......")

8. DON'T talk about your ex in the first email. Don't refer to her at all. You can simply say "I have been single for 2 years." By talking about her, you make yourself look either A) Not over it or B) a pansy ass. Plus you are setting yourself up to let her talk about her exes. You will become the friend sounding board before you know it.......or she will pretend not to be everything you hate and a dysfunctional relationship based on lies is formed!


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