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Think that happens a lot. Expectations set too damned high. Sort of hit me that way when I first got on this site. Profiles read almost like shopping lists! Lol!! What struck me as really strange was remembering way back when when I was dating. Didn't ask all these questions, background checks, ect.. Just asked a girl out on a date. Why should that change just because we're older?? Beats the heck out of me! I've read a lot of comments on scammers, liars, players, ect., ect.. Personally, I haven't run into any of that. Made a lot of friends just reading profiles and sending emails to people. Surprisingly, I've gotten a lot a responses from people that I NEVER see posting in the forums. Anyhow, I've been really happy with my encounters to date. Have enjoyed each and every one. Hope everyone has the same fortune.

Lol! If you're thinking that way, I think you're on the right track. Hope you have TONS of success on here, darlin!

What is your number??

Hi, I see you are looking for between 24 and 42...
Well, I'm only 47 but I really don't care what age limits you have set, I can tell by the look in your eyes in the pictures that you want me
BTW.. what bra size do you wear and when was the last time you had sex???
Do you own your home without house payments???
Please tell me that you have house cats, I love cats!! they make such great footballs.
Look forward to hearing back from you

LMFAO

i got told by some government sucsess professional dizzy dame in the yukon <<you know who you are >>> that i shuld use spell chekand use good grammer and be everything they thought i should be. guess what !!!i dont want to be well thought of byshallow ppl whos mission in life is to get to the next pay grade. i dont wear a suit i work with my hands i usually make a decent buck.i am almost always employed << even with this economic turndown im not realy worried>>> any of the woman and kids that lived with me at any time never went hungry or cold and the roof didnt leak either you girls that want mr. perfect or an outlaw dude go for it ,,i personaly think im the best of both worlds i own the damn horn i can blow it if i want to,, if you dont like the sound stick yer fingers in your ears or whereever else you like ,,,,,,,,,,,,, kind of got off the track didnt i oh well still my horn

I agree with you, John!

Most of those "advices" are very old and known already for centuries. I just want to emphasis on one, which is absolutely bull:

2.) Totally wrong! I also thought so, but it’s lot’s of bull:

I received several flowers or even mail (“… I’m interested”) from women and the first thing I do to read their profile. And there is very often written: Looking for men from 30 to 45. I am 57. So why do they still write??? Do they actually know what they want? My intention is to respect whatever they want, but I really have my doubt!

Most of the other advices are acceptable, but not really up-to-date anymore!

Don't worry, you shoudn't torture your pretty head, it is too complicated...just keep us entertained with photos and great threads

WOW

I have no other way than to agree 300% with you

good for you and please spread the good word

Another Dr. Phil...oh boy. Is this how all/most woman feel or just you and perhaps a few others? Men will never think or feel like woman BECAUSE men will never fully understand woman and vice versa...

Well sweet stacy,

You have certainly saved us women an awful lot of time in the writing department not that id even bother to write to them to explain.

I think it's mostly the younger immature ones that this all applies to....cant say that ive seen or heard to many of the more mature gentlemen on here going on with that drivel....

However men take note and sit up in class and pay attention..


Merry christmas to you all....

Yeah I feel this way too......and i'm no Dr. Phil......


No one is asking you to understand us.....you just dont it's that simple....

sweetXstacy,

Great post. I can imagine women are harassed daily here by guys who don't follow any of these guidelines. I left this site for over six months, because I became tired of all the messages from women in the Philippines, Thailand and China. It also makes no sense for me to be here in Poland and checking out profiles for women who are thousands of miles away.

I see some of the posts on here and just have to laugh sometimes. I think the guys from the Middle East and India are the funniest. They basically say, "Hi. I am Habib and I think you are beautiful. Will you marry me?". I have a friend here who received a marriage contract in her very first email from a guy in Iran. Only someone as desperate as them would even reply to that.

I really believe that our modern culture fails to pass on good manners to the younger generations. I can't tell you how many times I have been out to dinner or in a pub with friends and had them embarrass me with their rude comments and attitude towards women.

Regarding the age limits people put in their profiles...I am 46. Many people will say, "Oh I only want to date someone 40-45". We all know that is arbitrary. If the right guy/gal comes along and he is 6 months too old or young, who would still say, "Sorry you are too old/young?" I think it is appropriate for someone one or maybe two years outside the "window" to make contact. At least in my case this is true, since my girlfriend was 27 when I met her and my profile has long said I want no one younger than 30. By the way, I am not looking and I didn't find her here. We met in real life.

Too all still looking...good luck. Merry Christmas and have a happy and successful new year.

reading through this, i think there's only one realy major problem with this:

you are making it sound and look like we are applying for a job, lol
I mean, i am in HR and the things you are saying here are exactly what i would be saying to job applicants to watch out when sending me their CVs and cover letters...

oh well, i guess it is kinda similar, but i still dont like the notion, call me weird

I understand that the OP is trying to be helpful...and some of the tips may be of value to some, but again a generalization of what women want... we are all individuals and are looking for different things, what appeals to one doesn´t appeal to another.

I´m not looking for a guy who is going to change how he represents himself in order to get through the door... I want him through the door on his own merit and not what he thinks he should write.

My advice to everyone, male and female is just to portray yourself as accurately as possible.

Anyone want some????

Hey Stacy!! Great to see you again!!

I am sorry but I will not follow your advice. Although very sound, I have been snagged by a wonderful woman and have fallen in love with her.

My secret is she initiated contact with me! Guys love that ladies!! Thank you Karen...I love you!!!

I hope you and your daughter have a great Christmas and a Happy New Year Stacy.

......or maybe.......

Take Me As I Am (Or Let Me Go)
Boudleaux Bryant
(Official lyrics @ bobdylan.com)
May 1969
SELF PORTRAIT



Why must you always try to make me over
Take me as i am or let me go
White lilies never grow on stalks of clover
Take me as i am or let me go.

You're tryin' to reshape me in a mold love
In the image of someone you used to know
But i won't be a-standin' for an old love
Take me as i am or let me go.

You tried to change me ever since you've met me
Take me as i am or let me go
If you can't overlook my faults, forget me
Take me as i am or let me go.

You're tryin' to reshape me in a mold love
In the image of someone you used to know
But i won't be a-standin' for an old love
Take me as i am or let me go.

Well of course they wanted to burn you at the stake. Telling the truth (even partial*) will most likely get you in trouble. Combine it with being bored and it's a lethal effect. You are addressing a group of people that most likely have been hurt, lonely and disgusted at the thought of equality. Women have the edge, we get it. Punishing a pore little puppy for doing what comes natural is cruel. I'm gonna get some heat for this but most men are lost puppies that are not in control. Pointing out that they are not isn't gonna get you any licks. Don't set up rules. Let men run around happy and ignorant. After all every puppy grows up at some point and you don't want a cynical, angry dog.

*and yes there are bots that target females online. Lesbian but still bots