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One last thought on the subject and then I have to go do the family thing. I saw a lot of responses about "being controlled or how we shouldn't have to change ourselves. I agree totally. I didn't write that out with controlling anybody in mind......I find it funny that presenting yourself in a better light online is taken so defensively. Is it really any different than women wearing makeup, push-up bras, pantyhose, and fake nails on the first couple of dates?......Eventually the "real her" is going to reveal itself......but the point of my suggestions were just how to actually GET noticed first by women. How you act after that is all on you.

......if you are just looking for sex, I suggest a hooker. They won't call you in the morning wondering if you are still interested.....and with food prices so high, it might even be cheaper.


Good point Sweet - I recommend that - less overhead - sure she will want to talk for a minute or two - telling about how she just "got into this"....then the clothes go off - you nail her and she wants a tip. Give her a couple bucks extra and she is outta there.

Cheap effective date.

If you like i can do the men's version.

Mind you it might be quite twisted

No, do a serious men's version. I'd really like to see it. Not the Robbie version though that would be scary just the generic men's version.

Well several years ago i did help out another site and run the hospitality get togethers, and you wouldn't believe the mail i got from the men on the website.

Trust me if i wrote the real version, it would be unprintable!

Mind you it was a rather well known adult dating site

If i get bored tomorrow in between cooking findus crispy pancakes for dinner i'll type it up

Thanks for the tips...

I'm a little nervous about it but give it your best shot. I'm sure I'll live to regret asking.

Well, As it's now 52 mins into being Xmas i wont try to scare you, or try to give you a breakdown.

Besides, i cant have hugz, you or anyone else soiling their underwear.

Have you seen a movie called "shoot em up?"

Well the irony and British dry humour in that i will translate into the male dating guide.

If you haven't seen that, picture Dennis Leary in charge of a dating club infested with hunchbacks.

That will give you a rough idea

You being Dennis Leary of course. I don't think Hugz is around and it wouldn't be the first time my underwear got soiled.... I'm getting more nervous as the moments pass.

Its the nature of life, most men are just seaking sex if the truth be told..
another truth is some women are to...

the trick is to read between the lines, when ever a post or thread is posted a little of that person's phisyology is recorded along with the txt.
that goes the same for a profile.

I know there aint a lot of psycologists or people with that skill
but in time a person can learn the skill of filtering the crap and sorting the bull from the truth.

and as far as Im concerned if your getting attacked for you attempt to help it would prob be the fakes getting at you for daring to tell the truth

Yeah, all of this seems like common sense. I have replied to women on here. I didn't really expect any responses because I don't have a picture up (and honestly I haven't look at any women's profiles without pictures, so I understand it completely), but if they did cool, but if not I don't take it personally, and even if I did have a picture and I didn't get a response, only asking why they didn't respond seems "stalkerish" or at least displaying that I have some confidence issues. I don't really follow the 3 paragraphs thing, but I'm sure that's cool if you are getting a lot of emails, but I just don't present myself personally like a resume. I think conversation should be a little more spontaneous, even a first introduction. But all around good info for men that have a problem connecting with women.

SweetXstacy: Thank you for the comments, and some of those men who got offended You wonder why u don't have anyone, duh. She is just trying to give some advice to help you men get a women and how we think, and where we are coming from,If you would have read the first part, "Tips for guys that are honestly looking" Lots of you Men just look at ladies pictures and not at the profiles, The real women looking for relationships tell it like it is. You don't have to read between the lines.

I get so turned off of Men talking about there ex's, red flag, they are not over there past hurts and still have some issues with women. Anyway that's the message we are getting.

And the sex part, sure men are visual , we all know that, but when sending us a email don't tell us about it. That's a turn off also. Unless it's a women who is just looking for that type of thing. {One night stands}.

So Miss Stacy good information, I hope the men who read this will read it very carefully and not get offensive. And if u do, grow up and stop playing your games. And really take the info, that us women try to input on here...But bottom line don't give up there are some good men and women out there who want a great relationship.

Nice post and yes I agree with everything you said, well except the part that women know what they want......hat should have read, women know what they want "right now" but probably will change several times within the up coming year.... tat would be more "spot on" JMO

well, I guess it is time for me to move on. Sounds as if I am not what anyone here is looking for. Oh well... booo hooo... lol

zee

Wow! That is good. I have been looking for a while myself. There are a lot of good guys out here but how do YOU know that? That is the insight you provided me. Things make a lot more sence ready through this and it is kind of like duh! information but not until after you have read it! But I must admit you were starting to get a little there! You almost lost me at the end but I hung in there!

Ya the spellcheck paragraph. For some reason I can not figure out how to spell check while on CS. But wow next time please at least proof read before I post. It is only good manners. sorry.

I'd just like to get some emails from guys who are serious about meeting....I'm like Lagoona....I don't want to spend a lot of time emailing back & forth, I want to meet as quickly as possible to really get started knowing that person.

But it would also be nice to have contact after that initial date.

Guys, is the woman being a pain if she calls you after that first date to say she had a good time & wants to know when she can see you again? I feel like I am when I do that.

Bravo for trying to lead the horse to water. Again, you can't make "him" think.

I applaud you for your effort and agree 100%. Loved it. Precise and to the point and all very good points!

I would also like to add....please don't call me Sweetie, Honey, Hun, Babe, or Toots etc. in your first email to me or any email addressed to me. I am not your Babe or Honey and reserve those affectionate names when entering into a committed relationship. It is a huge turn-off gentlemen!

Ok then bit#h....