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I disagree. I don't think you are necessarily leading them on, though some people may. People can know that you are off the market and just having a bit of fun but mean nothing by it.

well flirting for fun,i do know what u mean,but is the gesture a little 2 much,if ur partner was awere of it and understands it so to speek and the feeling is not difered from ur partner and the relationship and u may be aware of it as a part ove what u do in ur relationship there for not out of bounds so to speek or ur parteners reach,or is it u have other things on ur mind and feelings outside ur relationship that are sexual...as for culteral difrences i dont c that as flirting i c it as a gesture of closness as humans and friends and compliment, so far from flirting as a directed sexual gesture remember we are talking about flirting A innocent flirt i am scepticle

nobody can avoid light attraction towards the other especially when the other partner is very physically appealing.until it gets to little physical,i think it should be okay.

In a relationship, I do not flirt. It's about respect for my partner.

PPV tells people often that they are beautiful, wonderful, attractive.

Flirting is letting a person you are flirting with, know that you are interested in them, telling a person that they are beautiful, wonderful, handsome, all those words associated with flirting, is not always to mean that they are interested in you.

Being "Old & Senile", I guess I do not know what it means to "flirt". Women have said things to me in a loving manner, I did not take it as they were interested in being married, in a "relationship", or wanting to jump my bones.

Most have this little thing I call a gut feeling. I, at times, have this gut feeling that another "feels" unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, unattractive, un, un, un, un...... A kind word never hurt anyone.

If I am in a relationship, THAT woman can rest assured I "AM IN" that relationship. I may something nice, loving to another but it has nothing to do with the one I am with. "IF: the one I am with is jealous, it means to me she does not trust me. If she does not trust me, why is she "with me"???

THere is an old song, "Save the last dance for me".....

See Pat, that is lovely...

Trust is what it is about, not the flirting, it is nothing other than pure and simple trust...

Merry Christmas to you, handsome...

Thank you....

I bow to your eloquence....

Thank you young lady, I hope you and that "Croat" are having wonderful times..

I am sure you are....

There is innocent'flirting' giving the opposite sex a compliment, pat on the back, peck on the cheek...you're partner will trust you enough to know that it is just your personality and that at the end of the night you are going home with him. That it is okay to window shop/look but that is all it is.

All about trust...I would be worried if the guy I was with did not look and show an interest in a beautiful woman.

Then there is the female body language that says you are interested...

With out verbal and physical flirting how would we ever date.

I don't agree with you on much but this that you say about yourself is true. Others continue to flirt but the irony is that they usually don't like the person they're interested to do the same. This is one of the few really good ways for me to weed people out. Flirting with others while with someone is neither good nor bad but rather a level of comfort and is not within my comfort zone so this helps me weed out potential dates.

And that is OK.. We all need to know our own comfort zones..

Well put Sommer!
I'll add a few comments to this.
Flirting is just one of the many games humans love to play, to test their position in a competitive society. If you know precisely where you stand, it's OK to try to step up a little, to see how far you can go, but don't push your luck.
Intelligent, sensitive people normally recognize their virtues and limitation, but there is a category that does not, and that's when the problems start.

I don't think flirting is a bad thing as long as you know you are respecting your partner.
You can tell a co-worker
-You have a nice hair-cut.
-That's a colorful shirt you're wearing
Anyways you can't shut down somebody's eyes or ignore a nice looking guy passing by.
Now when you are with your partner that's a whole diffrent story and you would like to receive the same respect.
How many women out there don't have a man that lights up her day just telling her a nice compliment.Or a woman that does not give her man some attention.
So I think flirting is good as long as it is done in a repectful way.

Your definition of flirting is a little off.
People flirt fore entirely different reasons...What you mentioned, is being nice.
Flirting is more like a dynamic war of energies of a sublime subtleness.

In the begining stages of my relationship & after my marriage to my late husband I never ever flirted.
To me that would've been showing him disrespect.

Would I flirt now that I'm single. Nope sure wouldn't and don't.

I feel that flirting no matter how innocent it may seem at the time could backfire in the wrong direction.

Not sure I agree with you on that last one-the two men I dated who couldn't keep their eyes off attractive women were one with a very low sex drive who didn't like sex and the other who turned out to be homosexual. There are 24 hours in the day, they can keep their eyes to themselves for the 4 hours or so we are together. I do when I'm with someone. It's respectful to him.

What's fascinating about flirting is that most people don't even know they are doing it.

It's the desire, deep in your mind, not your actions.

geeze.....u sure seem to be able to pick 'em.......

All about trust...I would be worried if the guy I was with did not look and show an interest in a beautiful woman.
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I have to respectfully disagree here young lady. When I am in a realtionship, my heart, sould and mind are oblivious to any other woman as more than a person.
I do not notice any other woman regardless of her appearance. I will respond to someone who speaks with me as I am not an ignorant idiot but never once have I recognized any sort of flirtation from the opposite sex in these times.
This is a natural reaction to my devotion and not some premeditated activity. My heart controls my eyes. No one could ever remove the vision of my Love from my being, no matter what they did intentionally or unintentionally.
No disrespect intended to them but I just do not have the capacity for more than one woman in my heart at a time as it is completely filled with my personal angel perfection.
Even when I am alone this is the case. I will compliment a friend but never a stranger. I just do not see them as anything more than a backdrop in life.
Most of my friends think I am bizarre as I never participate in their oggling experiments and get rather voiciferous when they insist that I try.
Every woman is someone's daughter, and I would not appreciate any man treating my daughter as an object. Why7 would I do that to any other parent's child?