rasgumby: I can't help but shake my head as I read all of the previous.
and the way that so many think.. how can you really wonder why you are single??
I think a man and woman should be devoted mind, body and soul.
as was said earlier.. give no room for wondering. no room for doubt.
if in a relationship.. if the other sex is involved... In groups ONLY!!
not a jealousy thing.. is a mutual respect thing!
Myself.. no man belongs in my home when I'm not there, just like...I would not allow any woman in the house while my partner was gone.
Just like the question I have asked before...if you are best friends with someone of the opposite sex.. if you have sex sometimes.. are you still just friends?
(bullshit!)
so if you answer yes.. that you are still just friends.. then why would any future partner trust you alone with friends of the opposite sex..if you have had and may have sex again????
Ras, we're all entitled to feel differently on this subject. No need for you to shake your head at those who feel differently than you. Those are people you couldn't be involved in a serious relationship with, that's all. Doesn't mean any of us are wrong to be who we are and feel the way we feel about this subject.
And I'll address the latter part of your question, as one that has done this. Yes, I have a close male friend that I've slept with. It didn't change our friendship...and we were both single then, so no harm, no foul. I could still be trusted to be alone with him because we also stopped that part of our friendship by mutual agreement. I love him dearly, but not as more than a friend, and that's very mutually returned. If there were more between us, we would have deepened the relationship, or continued the FWB part longer. Yes, we have held each other while we cried, and cuddled while we talked about our pain...because we had no other to do that with then. But that part has been platonic...just two caring friends.