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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:48 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off

If you like someone on here and you are a female is it
OK to let the gentleman know you would like to get to
know him for more than just a friend. I am new at this
and always thought it is not proper for the lady to make
the first move.

Also, guys if a lady does approach you on here with that
comment, would you be offended?

dunno
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waiting4u GB's Heart, Oregon USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:50 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
I think its ok to let a guy know your interested. Its worked for me at least. wink
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DarkKnight2032 Salt Lake City, Utah USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:51 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sassy49senior: If you like someone on here and you are a female is it
OK to let the gentleman know you would like to get to
know him for more than just a friend. I am new at this
and always thought it is not proper for the lady to make
the first move.

Also, guys if a lady does approach you on here with that
comment, would you be offended?


In this day and age, whoever approaches is alright.

I know, I am bad at icebreakers sometimes and feel it would be easier if a women approaches me.

But at the same time, if I don't do anything, then I might have lost out on making a new friend or maybe more.

So, it all goes back to what you feel is comfortable.

I love CS for the fact it has 3 ways to break the ice and you can choose how you wnat to appraoch a person.

Great question Sassy. cheers hug
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Galactic_bodhi Portland, Oregon USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:52 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sassy49senior: If you like someone on here and you are a female is it
OK to let the gentleman know you would like to get to
know him for more than just a friend. I am new at this
and always thought it is not proper for the lady to make
the first move.

Also, guys if a lady does approach you on here with that
comment, would you be offended?


IMO, sassy, there's nothing wrong with a girl making the first move. Joli sent me a flower initiating our first dialogue. Look where we're at now. grin
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DarkKnight2032 Salt Lake City, Utah USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:52 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
I hate thinking faster than I type. I look so uneducated with my typos.
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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:53 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
It never hurts to just send him a flower. You don't have to get all "gushy" in it... just maybe say something like, "I noticed you".
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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:53 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
waiting4u: I think its ok to let a guy know your interested. Its worked for me at least.




Thank you Joli, You and Galctic seem to be made for
each other. hug
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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:55 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
DarkKnight2032: In this day and age, whoever approaches is alright.

I know, I am bad at icebreakers sometimes and feel it would be easier if a women approaches me.

But at the same time, if I don't do anything, then I might have lost out on making a new friend or maybe more.

So, it all goes back to what you feel is comfortable.

I love CS for the fact it has 3 ways to break the ice and you can choose how you wnat to appraoch a person.

Great question Sassy.



T/Y DK, Difficult for me to do also. handshake
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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:56 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
Galactic_bodhi: IMO, sassy, there's nothing wrong with a girl making the first move. Joli sent me a flower initiating our first dialogue. Look where we're at now.




Yes Galacti you and Joli are special and meant to be
together. hug
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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:57 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sweetowen: It never hurts to just send him a flower. You don't have to get all "gushy" in it... just maybe say something like, "I noticed you".




The thing is Sweet, I have been corresponding with him for
awhile now and I get no vibes from him that he is the
least bit interested in anything besides friendship. hug
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DarkKnight2032 Salt Lake City, Utah USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 12:59 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sassy49senior: T/Y DK, Difficult for me to do also.


On our path of journeys, we will always find someone who is seeking the same thing, no matter the age difference.

Some of us approach it early in life, some of us approach it later.

But at least friendship can begin at any date. hug

wine
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ModestlyAwesome Prescott, Arizona USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:00 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
Either way it's usually far easier for a woman to get the attention of a man on these sites (if that's the case). In real life it's not a turn-off at all. I will never complain about a woman who walks up to me and starts flirting, though I get annoyed with the ones who just grab my ass and start making dirty innuendos.
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curefan mount olive, Mississippi USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:01 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sassy49senior: If you like someone on here and you are a female is it
OK to let the gentleman know you would like to get to
know him for more than just a friend. I am new at this
and always thought it is not proper for the lady to make
the first move.

Also, guys if a lady does approach you on here with that
comment, would you be offended?
i dont think guys should be offended maybe he is to nervous to make the first move are waiting on you to make the first move
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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:04 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
ModestlyAwesome: Either way it's usually far easier for a woman to get the attention of a man on these sites (if that's the case). In real life it's not a turn-off at all. I will never complain about a woman who walks up to me and starts flirting, though I get annoyed with the ones who just grab my ass and start making dirty innuendos.




T/Y Modestly, I really would like to see if this could
go beyond friendship. But to be honest I am soooo very
nervous about letting him know this. He is a wee bit
younger, byt not too much. handshake
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sweetowen Somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:06 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sassy49senior: The thing is Sweet, I have been corresponding with him for
awhile now and I get no vibes from him that he is the
least bit interested in anything besides friendship.


Well, if you've already thrown the bait out there & he hasn't even nibbled... I'd say it's time to cast elsewhere. His loss hon. hug
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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:06 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
curefan: i dont think guys should be offended maybe he is to nervous to make the first move are waiting on you to make the first move



Curefan, T/Y but the first move has already been taken as we
have been corresponding as friends. I just would like to go
beyond that. hug
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ModestlyAwesome Prescott, Arizona USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:10 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
sweetowen: Well, if you've already thrown the bait out there & he hasn't even nibbled... I'd say it's time to cast elsewhere. His loss hon.


True, but sometimes you have to get bold. Some people can be pretty thick and won't get hints. I can't tell you how many times I've had women tell me years later that they had a crush on me and dropped all sorts of hints. I'm better at it now laugh but back then it had to practically be pounded into me. So wait until you actually try before fishing in another pond. Even if he says "no" at least you won't have to wonder what could have been. thumbs up
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jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain
Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:13 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
I´m a bit old fashioned in that respect... I can be friendly and chat a bit more frequently with someone that I like, maybe send them a flower saying I liked something they posted... but I pretty much leave it up to them to take it any further.
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lanabyte Charleston, West Virginia USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 2:20 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
jbibiza: I´m a bit old fashioned in that respect... I can be friendly and chat a bit more frequently with someone that I like, maybe send them a flower saying I liked something they posted... but I pretty much leave it up to them to take it any further.

What she said. thumbs up
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Joktan Menomonee Falls, Wisconsin USA
Sat Dec 27, 2008 2:21 PM CST : Advice On Is It A Turn - Off
waiting4u: I think its ok to let a guy know your interested. Its worked for me at least.

With how many did it work?grin
doh


popcorn OK I'll be good now and just observe.
dancing
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