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I understand your hesitancy...you could lose a good friend. However, if you feel this way, part of you will always want more with this person, and if they find someone else you'll be hurt and the friendship may end anyway. Also, he might be feeling the same way, and you'll never know if you don't try it...so, to me you've not much to lose, and possibly a lot to gain, by letting him know. Better that than letting this eat at you.

Btw, it worked for me, too. And it wasn't easy...I was raised the traditional way, too.

if the person has hinted at you they would like to be more than friends than i think you should let them know sooner than later

There has been no hint that he would like it to go farther.
I wish he had, then I would not have to wonder.

Gosh Dru, Was it easy for you? Of course you had known him
for awhile, am I right? I want to flower him so bad, but
just tremble thinking about it. Don't know all of
you handle it. One thing I do know is he is a very nice
person and I hope I don't lose his friendship if I get
courageous enough to let him know how I feel. You are
such an awesome lady Dru and I wish you and Rich much
happiness.

best way send a flower saing you like the profile and you sound interesting then let it take its course
i always find it hard to tell if women just being friendly or genuinely interested

going out on a limb here- i have always held the opinion that if i let a guy know i liked him ( this could be after a few dates when \i knew he was really interested in me, then it gave him the 'upper hand' and would lead him to treat me badly. i don't know what gave me this impression, because it has never happened, but we can't get rid of the demons that haunt us.

i realise now, again through cs to some extent,that letting someone know that i like him as much as he likes me, is not a bad thing, and even a good thing.

i have never been treated really badly by a guy or dumped , cheated on etc etc, so i have no real reason to be distrustful of men. I suppose what i am trying to say, is that MEN!! don't always see women who are a bit guarded, or reluctant to make the first move, as a 'tease' or players/ playing hard to get. sometimes we are genuine, passionate women, who just don't have the confidence in ourselves to believe that we are desireable to men, regardless of what we are told

Tallaght, You must not have read all posts. I stated earlier
that I and this gentleman have been corresponding for awhile
now. We have both sent messages and flowers. I am just a
little scared to let him know I am very fond of him.

It's a hard call if someone is nice enough to send you a flower say from the forums as a woman and someone on here to make friends I try to just be friendly for the most part even if I find a man attractive. It depends where you are at in your life. Usually with me a guy has to practically hit me over the head for me to know he is interested in anything but friendship. lol.

Me too...cause most of the time I just see it as harmless flirting...so if they don't spell it right out...I'm totally oblivious and just continue in my merry way....

I figure if a guy is really interested he will hopefully make the first move and let me know and want to talk to me and find out about me and tell me who he is via emails etc and if I am interested back then cool. If we are just joking around and he emails me then I am not rushing out to get wedding invitations printed up. lol.

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dang need to do a better job if its a good fit then the guy will show interest if not and he is a friend that is wonderful too.

I think it is fine if you have the guts to do it, which I do not, so is there any volunteers to try on my behalf

oops sry im bad sry bit tierd
well just say be great to meet up finally meet face to face see what he says

you could try things like sending him a song sassy49senior to let him know if you get to nervous about telling him straight out

T/Y curefan, That is a nice idea.

Wouldn't hurt to send something simple, then go from there.

Hi Sassy,

IMO............nothin wrong with lettin him know.

Really hope it works out for you.

why wouldn't it be OK, to let someone know that you are interested.. Alot of the time the other person may like you too. But if both party's are to shy, then they will be alone... so someone has to make the first move, so why not you...jmo

Oh Vinny, this is what you were refering to. Haven't made that
first move yet, just a wee bit hesitant.

Do it!

I'll help you out with a draft.

Dear BongoBenny,

I simply can't refrain from letting you know that I found your profile so... oh, I must be honest and admit I haven't read a single word of your profile, I've just seen your picture and want to let you know that I'd dying to straddle you and hold your waist tight between my thigh while I ride you wilder than whoever's the now number one Texan rodeo champion.

You go girl!