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On second thought, scrap my draft!

Many, many moons ago, I was asked out by someone in my apartment complex, a lovely woman which I was much too shy to ask. I was flattered. We ended up in a relationship for some three years.

Funny thing is, a week prior to her asking me out, she asked if I could help her move some furniture. I was outside working on my car. Ever the Good Samaritan, of course, I helped. When done, she asked if I wanted a beer - to which I replied "no thanks, I have one out by the car." I was not very good at reading intentions back then.

I understand Sassy...........believe me.

But try lookin at it this way..........Whats actually the worst thing that can happen ? IMO the worst thing that can happen is he's not interested and you lose a friend. If it can be explained to him properly that you value his friendship and whether he is or isn't interested you still want to retain the f/ship I am sure he would be happy with that.
So that leaves he's not interested..........at least you would then know.

JMO Sassy and each r/ship is different and may not apply to this particular one............only you know.

Follow your instincts.

Maybe he reads the thread and your problem is solved

well if talking about stuff and ur feeling of what u want and were u want to b is allready a start then if the coversation continus its kinda a gesture of intrest btween the to allready but guess it would allso surely be ok to let another know u whant to continue and were it takes u from there may just be enough for another step to fall in place regards to a currant relationship beetween the 2 i think its very clear once a person shows intrest then expresses other things like what they want in a relatioship for the conversation to just role forward for both partys

if it doesent roll forward then well not every time works out trust me i know this from experiance i just keep going till 1 does :)

I believe that it is perfectly fine for a women to let a guy know she has noticed him and he has caught her interest. There are a lot of people on here and if you find someone you would like to get to know, you need to show him your there! A flower, or even a simple 'Hi. How are you?" works without being too forward. If he is interested, then just go from there....the old fashioned way. ( Talk on the phone, send emails, etc.) And remember.....guys WANT to be noticed sexually, too! It gives them the same feeling we women get. Even if he isn't interested, it's flattering.

Thank you bluesbabe, All advice is appreciated.

If you like someone on here and you are a female is it
OK to let the gentleman know you would like to get to
know him for more than just a friend. I am new at this
and always thought it is not proper for the lady to make
the first move.

Also, guys if a lady does approach you on here with that
comment, would you be offended?[/quote

Just go for it, darlin! I'm dating a gal right now that emailed me first. Funny thing, I'd gone thru profiles the day before and marked her as someone I'd like to get to know. Next day I received an email from her. I was flattered, to say the least. As for "more than just a friend", you really don't have to go there. Basically, everyone here is more or less looking for that so just introduce yourself, get to know him/her, and see what happens. Best of luck, kiddo!

Thank you Woody, Best wishes for you and your lady. I sent him
a kiss with a little message so now only time will tell.

Ah, my beautiful Sassy

Yes, it is absolutely ok, my darling.

All love affairs have not begun only because the man has made the first move...

I made the first move on that vagabond, that calls himself PPV.

I am not a flower fan, but I have to admit, they serve a purpose, send him one...

Or an email, saying that you are interested.

He can say one of two things...

Yes or no.

Just passing through the posts.
Good luck Sassy.

do you know how hard it is to read the signals ladies send out when you are talking to them face to face????? sometimes it's damn near impossible. that's why a lot of guys get slapped in the face or miss out on golden opportunities. in a website environment the communication in in text , writing on a screen. how easy do you think it is to misinterpret any signals in here???

for god's sake ladies if you like a dude in here let them know, we are not mind readers, and the absence of emotion apart from comic strip type emoticons leaves a lot to be desired.

in this day and age it shows strength of character in a woman that she has the confidence to approach a man with her feelings toward him, considering in a relationship, it's the guys that normally don't show their affection as prominantly as the lady would like.

just my humble opinion

Thank you psuedonym: I sent him a kiss with a message. Why is it
so difficult on here for you guys to simply say I am interested?

Hi Sommer you sweet sweet lady, I sent him a kiss with a message. Have not heard back yet, but will hopefully hear from
him soon. If not then I know it is time to move on. You and
PPV stay out of trouble.

Trust me, I 100% understand your situation. Hope it works out for you, sweetie.

Me too. I'd just think he was being nice.

Now a days Sassy, anything goes. A friend of mine told me once that he would love if women approached him sometimes.

Give it a go when you're ready to. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?

Hi Sassy,
If I lived in Nebraska I'd be all over you like a rash and you wouldnt come out for anythin but air and food.
Would that be enough of a subtle hint

Vinny get your butt over here.


Thank you all for your advice but I already received my
answer. He is gone. Now I feel like a complete
fool and I will never do that again.

well i hope you do do it again because there are heaps of men out there waiting for someone like you to give them a nudge and say "hi, i like your profile. how about we chat a bit and see what develops"

you may get a few rejections, you may get a few "no replys" but hey that's what it's like for a lot of us men. and sometimes we shut down for a while too, but it's like falling off a bike, ya gotta get back on and ride again.

again just my humble opinion