Hes Gone

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sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:05 PM CST : He;s Gone

I was going to put this on the dating threads. But we
really did not date. I just feel like such an ass so to
speak. I sent him a hint of would like it to be more than
friendship. I thought I may have an answer today. Well
I got an answer alright. He is gone. I feel so bad. He
is a very nice guy and I sure did not want him to leave.
I am hoping he will come back and pursue what he is
looking for. I will stay out of his life. I just feel so
guilty. Guess I will just go with my gut feeling on such
things. Guys all you have to do is say I am not interested
and I will never hassel you again.

dragonfly88 valencia, Valenciana Spain

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:07 PM CST : He;s Gone

Hugz_n_Kissez Someplace, Ontario Canada

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:07 PM CST : He;s Gone

sassy49senior: I was going to put this on the dating threads. But we
really did not date. I just feel like such an ass so to
speak. I sent him a hint of would like it to be more than
friendship. I thought I may have an answer today. Well
I got an answer alright. He is gone. I feel so bad. He
is a very nice guy and I sure did not want him to leave.
I am hoping he will come back and pursue what he is
looking for. I will stay out of his life. I just feel so
guilty. Guess I will just go with my gut feeling on such
things. Guys all you have to do is say I am not interested
and I will never hassel you again.

Yes there is nothing wrong with saying...I would just rather stay friends...I don't see that as being to hard or complicated...in fact I would have more respect for someone who did..than someone who just runs....for those men...I have none....

DarkKnight2032 Salt Lake City, Utah USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:09 PM CST : He;s Gone

sassy49senior: I was going to put this on the dating threads. But we
really did not date. I just feel like such an ass so to
speak. I sent him a hint of would like it to be more than
friendship. I thought I may have an answer today. Well
I got an answer alright. He is gone. I feel so bad. He
is a very nice guy and I sure did not want him to leave.
I am hoping he will come back and pursue what he is
looking for. I will stay out of his life. I just feel so
guilty. Guess I will just go with my gut feeling on such
things. Guys all you have to do is say I am not interested
and I will never hassel you again.

Prespectives, lovers and dates will come and go, but friends will last forever.

mindfful CitizenofEarth, UK and, Illinois USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:10 PM CST : He;s Gone

shame on you BS

you are not NOT responsible for someone elses choices or actions

if that was the best skill he had to deal with his feelings whatever they may be
he is clearly emotionally undeveloped
which was a condition of his b4 you were ever in the picture

corresponding with someone is not hassling them!

have you considered he left for a reason having zero to do with you?

we may never know but we shouldnt take it on ourselves

sometimes rejection is gods protection ya know

i

u

LACali Southern California, California USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:11 PM CST : He;s Gone

sassy49senior: I was going to put this on the dating threads. But we
really did not date. I just feel like such an ass so to
speak. I sent him a hint of would like it to be more than
friendship. I thought I may have an answer today. Well
I got an answer alright. He is gone. I feel so bad. He
is a very nice guy and I sure did not want him to leave.
I am hoping he will come back and pursue what he is
looking for. I will stay out of his life. I just feel so
guilty. Guess I will just go with my gut feeling on such
things. Guys all you have to do is say I am not interested
and I will never hassel you again.

I am so sorry this happened BUT you don't really know what's going on with him. I don't believe that he left just because you expressed interest-if he did then he's insane you're lucky you escaped. I get much of my exercise jumping to conclusions and it's tiring. I'm wrong more than I'm right. I'm glad you took the risk and did it. Life is too short to not try. Who knows what will happen? Maybe he'll come back and answer. Start emailing/flowering tons of men, you'll meet some nice ones and make some friends.

dazzling_dave Waynesboro, Virginia USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:12 PM CST : He;s Gone

mindfful: shame on you BS

you are not NOT responsible for someone elses choices or actions

if that was the best skill he had to deal with his feelings whatever they may be
he is clearly emotionally undeveloped
which was a condition of his b4 you were ever in the picture

corresponding with someone is not hassling them!

have you considered he left for a reason having zero to do with you?

we may never know but we shouldnt take it on ourselves

sometimes rejection is gods protection ya know

i u

Dawn7z Denver, Colorado USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:32 PM CST : He;s Gone

LACali: I am so sorry this happened BUT you don't really know what's going on with him. I don't believe that he left just because you expressed interest-if he did then he's insane you're lucky you escaped. I get much of my exercise jumping to conclusions and it's tiring. I'm wrong more than I'm right. I'm glad you took the risk and did it. Life is too short to not try. Who knows what will happen? Maybe he'll come back and answer. Start emailing/flowering tons of men, you'll meet some nice ones and make some friends.

She's right Sassy it's sometimes a bit of game of odds. So just do what she says. Email and flower men not expecting anything just being friendly. There are a zillion people online get on some other sites if you are not there already. JMO of course. Not dismissing your hurt but don't take what he did too personally. Get out there girl the only thing some of them can say is no or ignore the email. Tell them you want to snog there socks off.

Dawn7z Denver, Colorado USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:34 PM CST : He;s Gone

snog their socks off not there can't seem to spell or write a sentence since I began online yikes.

livinglarge in a good place , Kildare Ireland

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:38 PM CST : He;s Gone

mindfful: shame on you BS

you are not NOT responsible for someone elses choices or actions

if that was the best skill he had to deal with his feelings whatever they may be
he is clearly emotionally undeveloped
which was a condition of his b4 you were ever in the picture

corresponding with someone is not hassling them!

have you considered he left for a reason having zero to do with you?

we may never know but we shouldnt take it on ourselves

sometimes rejection is gods protection ya know

i u

So true Sassy ,

I hope you take note of what MF said ,

words of wisdom ,for sure .

I remember telling me the same thing

when I was feeling rotten over a guy

Rejection Is Gods Protection .

Think about that please !!

It really hit the spot with me

and if you take that on board I know

you will feel better

livinglarge in a good place , Kildare Ireland

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:39 PM CST : He;s Gone

livinglarge: So true Sassy ,

I hope you take note of what MF said ,

words of wisdom ,for sure .

I remember telling me the same thing

when I was feeling rotten over a guy

Rejection Is Gods Protection .

Think about that please !!

It really hit the spot with me

and if you take that on board I know

you will feel better

I remember Mindful telling me that !!

wake up LL,

solitare Munchen, Bayern Germany

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:45 PM CST : He;s Gone

"sometimes rejection is gods protection ya know" Mindful

Perhaps it is, but who knows, really.
Years ago I sort of believed that, but if that was the case, then why did God never send someone as either 'compensation' or someone 'special'...and that little flying naked fat boy armed with a bow and arrows was never of any help either; a friend reminded me that he had run out of 'ammo' years before and forgot or wouldn't reload for us...

So is Life...hit by bullets and blow-gun darts, but never by any angelic naked fat kid... feces!

sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:55 PM CST : He;s Gone

Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes there is nothing wrong with saying...I would just rather stay friends...I don't see that as being to hard or complicated...in fact I would have more respect for someone who did..than someone who just runs....for those men...I have none....

He really is a very nice gentleman Shell. I may be all
wrong as to why he left also. Just seemed rather odd
that he was here all the time up until I sent him the
kiss.

Have a great day g/f

sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:58 PM CST : He;s Gone

mindfful: shame on you BS

you are not NOT responsible for someone elses choices or actions

if that was the best skill he had to deal with his feelings whatever they may be
he is clearly emotionally undeveloped
which was a condition of his b4 you were ever in the picture

corresponding with someone is not hassling them!

have you considered he left for a reason having zero to do with you?

we may never know but we shouldnt take it on ourselves

sometimes rejection is gods protection ya know

i u

Hi MF, I am not sure that is why he left. Just my assumption.
Anyway I just will no do that again and if all I ever have is
friends, then so be it. LUV YA BACK.

jbibiza Ibiza, Islas Baleares Spain

Sun Dec 28, 2008 1:59 PM CST : He;s Gone

What are you doing to yourself SS??? You showed an interest, very courageous, you dealt with the rejection, a difficult thing when you´ve taken a chance and now you want to blame yourself for his immature act of leaving the site????? Honey if doesn´t have the ability to say thank you, but I´d rather just be friends, then you did us all a favour by scaring him away!!!!!

pubwrite08 District Heights, Maryland USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 2:01 PM CST : He;s Gone

Well said, Be proud that you had the guts to tell somebody what you need and want. A lot of us here have more years in front of us than we have behind us, and like LACali says Just brush it off, and believe me it has happened to a lot of us, keep movin. You watch what you are looking for is out there.

vinny1967 On Tour, Devon, England UK

Sun Dec 28, 2008 2:02 PM CST : He;s Gone

sassy49senior: I was going to put this on the dating threads. But we
really did not date. I just feel like such an ass so to
speak. I sent him a hint of would like it to be more than
friendship. I thought I may have an answer today. Well
I got an answer alright. He is gone. I feel so bad. He
is a very nice guy and I sure did not want him to leave.
I am hoping he will come back and pursue what he is
looking for. I will stay out of his life. I just feel so
guilty. Guess I will just go with my gut feeling on such
things. Guys all you have to do is say I am not interested
and I will never hassel you again.

Am sorry Sassy if thats the case but am unsure if it is.

If it is at least you know.

Shirley49WV New Haven, West Virginia USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 2:05 PM CST : He;s Gone

In response to: I was going to put this on the dating threads. But we
really did not date. I just feel like such an ass so to
speak. I sent him a hint of would like it to be more than
friendship. I thought I may have an answer today. Well
I got an answer alright. He is gone. I feel so bad. He
is a very nice guy and I sure did not want him to leave.
I am hoping he will come back and pursue what he is
looking for. I will stay out of his life. I just feel so
guilty. Guess I will just go with my gut feeling on such
things. Guys all you have to do is say I am not interested
and I will never hassel you again.

Sassy I am sorry that he acted this way towards you. You had said that you leery of letting him know how you felt. I think pretty much all of us has had this to happen to use at one time or another. I myself find it hard to send a flower or message out of fear of no answer or rejection.

You are one hell of a lady and he perhaps didn't deserve you. So try not to take it quite so hard and don't give up!!!
My hats off to you for sending the kiss.

sassy49senior Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 2:08 PM CST : He;s Gone

vinny1967: Am sorry Sassy if thats the case but am unsure if it is.

If it is at least you know.

I have already let it go and will move on. Thank you
Vinny

catwomen64 somewhere, New Jersey USA

Sun Dec 28, 2008 2:11 PM CST : He;s Gone

Shirley49WV: Sassy I am sorry that he acted this way towards you. You had said that you leery of letting him know how you felt. I think pretty much all of us has had this to happen to use at one time or another. I myself find it hard to send a flower or message out of fear of no answer or rejection.
You are one hell of a lady and he perhaps didn't deserve you. So try not to take it quite so hard and don't give up!!!
My hats off to you for sending the kiss.

Keep your chin up you are a very strong person....so sorry ...Cat

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