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Have you done anything wrong?

yeah..."i waz born"

Be true with yourself and ask yourself why they don't like you.I'm sure they love you, they might be mad for some reason and don't know how to handle it.If in your soul you know your good, don't let the feeling of hate manifest your soul, it will eat you alive in the long run.

What a great thing that you were born. There was definitely a reason for each of us to come to this world. Unfortunately this life is full of difficulties including the difficulties that you are facing now but that doesn’t mean to let difficulties to make us down to feel lonely or depress because they are just temporally and there are always good times to come after each difficulty. Beside, they make us to learn how to overcome difficulties one after another and to be stronger in life. We are just banned to give up, let me ask you something, how many times you had difficulties in your life and they are all resolved by now? See! This problem of yours is temporally as well. So forgive your parents and be positive and smile. You are a very loving and beautiful girl.

Parents are not perfect and are just people. Sometimes they are to lost as to what to do about their lives and things. They try to handle things by emotions and not logic.
You can't curse a dent out of a car....my uncle had a good go at it.....never happened!

Thats how many only know how to handle things. It doesn't mean they are correct no matter how much they yell either!

It is so hard for young people to learn about life from people who don't know in the first place. You can buy books on a person's lifetime best knowledge for only a few dollar or check them out for free. Pick some smart stuff on life and read, read, read. Zig Ziglar, Mamie McCulloch, Tony Robbins, Brain Tracy, Maxwell Maltz, Dale Carnagee,.......much more! Read the Bible for the smarts in it...(Proverbs)

Soon you will be a sharp cookie and will be a better parent for your child to learn from.

I get the feeling that some of this is more your perception of how you think they feel about you based on your age and the fact that you've had to grow up pretty quickly by becoming a mom at such a young age. It may take a few years, and you may have a lot of times where you don't feel like you're doing anything right, but there will come a day when your parents will get the courage to actually get the words out of theirs mouths...that they're proud of you. Just hang in there and do the best that you can.

My middle sister always felt that our mother hated her...and yet, my parents tried so hard for so long and went through so much to have her. I even remember when she was a baby how I had to wear a mask and do almost a surgical scrub before mom would allow me to hold her 'cuz she was so afraid something would happen to her. To this day, she doesn't believe any of us that mom loves her too.

Your family might not like some of the things you've done or the choices you've made. They might be hurt that you've "ruined your life" in their eyes by becoming a single mom so young. But as a mother myself, I can tell you that I highly doubt your family hates you.

Bingo, I was just going to type something along these lines, so thanks for saving me the type....


But I would like to add the sometimespeople you age think they know it all, and don't want to live by rules so when you get on punishment you get mad and want people to feel sorry for you, and take your side. well the truth be said, maybe it is your fault, maybe you need to look at how you may be doing wrong....

There is wisdom to be found in some of these replies. Good luck on you choose to use it.

whoa, that is a HARD STATEMENT....

fortunately, FOR ME, no, I don't know how it would feel to have that kind of "hate"

My suggestion? if it bothers you, then find out but remember to treac lightly because, as myself, I do NOT like to be attacked with questions....

Make it simple and right to the point but do NOT approach them with malice....

and while you are mustering up the "balls" to talk to them, take a look in the mirror and be truthful to YOU...and maybe you may see something or think of something that may be the cause for the feelings that you harbor in you!

good luck to you

Cheers

Curvy

Girl God do not make junk, and no matter who hates you likes you or don't like you. God made you. Just ask if you offended anybody for some reason. Maybe someone misunderstood an action gesture or some words.
When I published that first book, I felt so much animosity, but i just behaved toward everybody the same way as I always have. I still run my own daycare, and I go on with life. Some people do dislike people for no reason, but you have to stand tall, and feed off the love you have for yourself.
That is how you get through it.

I do! I have no contact with them, and my daughter and I are much happier, and at peace.

Of course, I think I may dislike them more than they do me, but it's probably a toss up.

Who in their right mind could dislike you...

Sorry to hear that, Dana.

Ohh, hun, you'd be surprised! But thank you.

Don't be Dru. I had my mom. I'm good. I was blessed. And it's their loss - they don't get an Emmy!

She's right. Please remember this. You have good qualities and are the mother of a beautiful child. You've been blessed.

I must say that up until recently my son thought the same thing about me. The truth was just the opposite. The only thing that cleared the whole matter up was making and taking the time to clear things up.

He was making bad choices and I confronted him on them in an attempt to prevent him from falling on bad times. Often times I did this in a rather pointed and judgemental way. In reality, I should have provided some advice and backed off and let him do it his way. Family, while often our worst critics are almost always our most loyal friends.