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If you are hurting ,

you could talk to an impartial person,

maybe an ex scool teacher of yours,

be careful and be picky whom you chose,

as some could pray on your vulnerability ,

take care ,

and you are never realy alone in the world ,

think of the many millions of people out there

Im not trying to be whiney or feel sorry for myself. Im more pissed than anything else.

No you are not whinny ,

you are only talking ,


its cool,

Sometimes...since the only common denominator is us...it's wise to look there first....

I know how it feels. At times, every one in the world is busy, except you.It is but people come around, and meawhile I just put on my walking shoes and get talking to random people I see in the park, super market queues.

Im just tired of people dissapointing me and making empty promises. Everyone leaves eventually. Im tired of hardening my heart against people. I just want one person to stick by me.

that will happen for you ,

it takes time,

and in the meantime be disearning about who comes it2 your life ,

you are young and bonnie 2!!

just chose carefuly

oh im not really talking about romantically. Im talking about my sucky friends mostly

mostly

I used to be there...then I wised up and got new friends...I was everyone elses leaning post until I needed someone to lean on and there was nobody there...sooooooo I decided not to be taken for granted anymore and ditched the lot of them...there was something very traumatic that happened in my life...that I needed them all for...it was one of the worst times I have ever been through and even one of my best friends sold me down the river and turned his back...I turfed em all and never looked back...and don't regret one minute of it either....

I feel like doing that. There is nothing I would not have done for them. Even knowing Im in a tough place they are so self absorbed they cant even send a freaking email to check on me. We expect this crap from guys, but your girls are supposed to be there for you.

Well only you know what's right for you...for me it was time to do some major house cleaning of my life...and that was the first load to go....

Hi Bonnie ! Perhaps you need to look at what you expect friends to be and do for you. Perhaps ,,,,they're as lonely as much as you are.I couldn't really count my true friends on fingers and toes,well until I got here,now I have wonderful friends.
Plenty of tenderness in CS for everybody. We're one big family,so what brought yer problems on dear ?
Bear in mind that most of the people here are mature and been there done that.
Whatz up ?

Well, I had about 3 or four very close girlfriends, we were like sisters. A bunch of us got married. Then MY husband left me and at the time they were sympathetic. I am over him, but because of all that the chain of events led to me being in a crappy situation and they havent been there for me at all. One hasnt even so much as emailed in a year. Another will go out of her way to make plans with others, but im not important enough. Not one ever asks me how I am or whats going on with me. I feel invisible where they are concerned.

I feel like they are so wrapped up in their own happiness, they cant relate to me anymore. They are all very innocent and naive.

i am a good person dammit. I am ridiculously loyal and generous to my friends, and i deserve to have someone to count on

We all do...I know I have a best friend I have had since grade 3 and we don't see each other often...but when we do...it's like we were never apart...she's busy...I'm busy...and she lives in another city about 2 hours from here...but I know if I ever need her...all I have to do is call and shes there..that's friendship...so you have to decide...do your friends give as much to the friendship as you do and are they worth keeping and worrying about then if not????

bonnie,

I gather your GF's may still be married?

If so, it's not uncommon for these previous so called 'friends' to dump you, as soon as you are single again. They generally tend to see such a woman, previous friend or no, as a THREAT.

So, mostly it is not you at all. But the result of being self-centred and dull human beings.

Go get new friends! Screw the old ones. You don't need them.

And you are worth much more than that.