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good thread....no experience ... but watching

Thanks BrEyes..... I hope some of us old timers here on CS will respond....

Happy New Year,

I had so many meetings that we have arranged by telephone and at all time I've been invited to their house and I went there with flowers and gifts and the truth is that I was also invited at the same bedroom to sleep at night and also use the shower. But what've I experienced is that you have to make a deal you want on the phone before you travel anywhere, almost every details. Because then you are going to say that we have planned everything and the other person is also going to act as it planned. if you become shy and don't ask some questions that you might have or not sure about where you are going to go or where you are going to stay, it might turnout not a pleasant time for you so always do the planning beforehand and make deals

Not sure why no one is responding....

I'm waiting for the advice, too. Haven't been in this situation yet.

Well I have once.... and it was after alot of talking with the person ( several months)and planning things out.... also had a back up plan just in case.... but did not have to use(hotel that is). And that was even leaving the country....

But given the opportunity again.... note sure how I would go about it in the future.... I know with the economy, if you go to meet someone, the expense of the flight can be one thing....then the hotel... so I'm just curious as to how others have gone about this process...not only that but it always helps to hear others experiences both good and bad....

The first time I met a gentleman from an online dating site, me residing in Florida and him in Arizona, we selected a mutual meeting place in-between which turned out to be New Orleans before the hurricane hit. We had been chatting on the phone for 4 months prior so knew everything about each other.
After that once a month for 4 months we traveled to each other's cities and homes until I finally moved in with him in Arizona. I was much more flexible in relocating since I had recently retired and have no family in the area.
Things did not work out after a few years, but we remain friends.
I am willing to try it again, as long as there is patience with the whole long distance reality.

Mine booked a room at a hotel. He was a gentleman, and did not expect that i should just clear some room for him, in my wardrobe.

I was thinking that IF I was in this situation and wanted to meet someone in person -- I think the best thing would be to meet half way - each having a separate hotel room - and see how things progressed from there.

Thanks for your input!

Well I would hope they would all be a gentlmen....but we know thats not true with all of them.....

True!

The amazing thing, is that if you really like them, you still get to spend almost every minute together, wherever they chose to stay.

We went to my place for dinner one night... my sisters came over and made dinner, then left right after (sweet). We left too, because we always had something to do together. I enjoyed it all.

Thanks for sharing!

I offered opitions. Meet half way, I would travel to see them or
they could visit me. If they chose to visit me, they could choose to stay at my house (separate rooms) or a hotel at my expense. What ever happened was between two consenting adults.

Now that sounds like a true Gentlmen.... And I agree that what happens between the two people is there business.

That's a good Idea, One another way that I have experienced that I also suggest to you is that you set your meeting early morning let say about 8:00am so you go half way and they come half way. the advantages of early meeting is that you spend the whole day together and you also have lunch together and hang out in the city and even to go for shopping and having a lot of fun by the time about 4 0r 5pm when you got to know a lot more about each other and also you have been kissing each other a lot, you already feel much more closer and then you decide where to go to stay at night, which you could drive back to your house or if it’s far at the Hotel.

I met Suzy here last year. We talked for 3 months before I visited her. We fell for each other, but wanted to make sure with the in-person meeting if it was true love.

I booked a hotel for my 1st visit to her town. She also had 2 boys and we didn't want them to meet me if it didn't work out. Well, we saw each other and the sparks just flew.

On subsequent visits, I stayed at her house. I am sorry it didn't work out. If anyone sees her, tell her I wish her a Happy New Year and I hope she is doing well.

Your right Ken... there are times that children have to be considered....