WhatUwish4: Hey Paws...Forgive me. It's New Years and I'm feeling philosophical just like many others. I was hoping to add a different perspective just as food for thought.
We're all here for different reasons, even though most of us are single at the moment. Some are actively looking, some are still smarting from a failed relationship, some are emotionally wounded, or confused, or bedridden, or unbalanced, or bored, or they are scammers, assholes, or God knows what.
But you have to know that many people here are also living in worlds of pain. They may wear it on their sleeves and ask for help, or they may choose not to share it because it's simply too deep and private. Either way, there are many here who are genuinly troubled or hurting - and often it is some of the funniest people who are suffering the most.
Should they be judged because they want to have fun instead of discussing the demise of the human condition? If they are here to escape the gloom and doom, why would they want to perpetuate it? Does it mean they don't care? I don't think so. I've seen tremendous amounts of care and compassion exchanged on the forums. Of course, we all should be concerned about our growing problems, but is it really reasonable to judge the character of a person on a dating forum simply because they are not devoted to raising social consciousness?
WhatIwish4 on this New Year's day is that everyone could just stop long enough to acknowledge that there is often a lot of sadness living behind these pixels, and that it's just as easy to walk away as it is to provoke. If we really want to raise our social conscious, maybe we should try focusing on all that is great and good in this world and also not be so quick to condemn one another (although clearly some deserve to be criticized for their hurtful comments). The gloom and doom perspective never seems to accomplish anything positive. Why not try letting a little light shine in?
Well stated, Karen.