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Nooooooooo...no matter the circumstances,.....he has made his choice..which really involves no more than him and I would be damned if I would wait for someone who treated me as second best...

That's kinda what I was thinking but I feel so bad for her, because he was the first person she started dating after her divorce.

His lady friend may be sick with cancer........ but he's sick in the head !

Why sick in the head

He shouldn't be leading your friend on ( if he did ) and at the same time giving physical attention to another who's ill.
It just isn't the right program ........

setting ALL feelings aside, one should hope that the woman in question would survive the cancer...right?

What is there to think about? He has made his choice. No one really knows when or where or how they will die. Life is but a fleeting moment in each of our lives, although sometimes it may not seem like it.

Why would she wait? What would she be waiting for? A woman to die and a man to get over the grieving? Doesn't make much sense if you think about it...jmo

I suppose, I just was hoping that it wasn't true. I understand what he is going through, but I agree it's not fair to treat her like that....wish I could make her feel better.

Maybe I could make her feel better ..........

Haha I will have to tell her

Is there an emoticon of a dog humping ?

Hehe! Maybe I won't tell her about you

My first time EVER to participate in this sort of forum, so please excuse any mistakes I might make as a novice in my first attempt. In response to the situation of the woman having terminal cancer... I think this poor woman needs all the support she can possibly be given. I commend the man that has shown the sensitivity to her in the way he has, but I also believe that it's a bit unfair of him to ask (or expect) another woman to sit on the side lines waiting for his availability. I can certainly appreciate his split interest given the circumstances, but I think he should give full release to woman #2 to search for her Mr. Right, and if circumstances work out for them in the future to be together. GREAT! If not, he should "lovingly" wish her the very best in her new relationship and be prepared to start his search for Miss Right fresh and new.

Sorry, We musn't make light of these grim situations ...

Of course, I meant that I would comfort her ......

He made his choice....for a person who demonstrates that he has a lot of compassion (for the woman with cancer..) where is the compassion and regard for your friend's feelings??...I would be hurt and insulted if someone suggested such an arrangement to me.... who wants to be second in love??..behind his seemingly noble actions, this guy is showing a certain level of selfishness...

I really do not know the whole situation, so he may very well have said ...you don't have to wait but would you...On the other hand, what if she lives? She doesn't want to her cancer to take her life but that feeling of second is kinda scary.

I really do not know the whole situation, so he may very well have said ...you don't have to wait but would you...On the other hand, what if she lives? She doesn't want to her cancer to take her life but that feeling of second is kinda scary.

Accepting that I may very well be wrong......

but my instinct tells me it is just a very well manufactured excuse from the man to allow himself a way out from committing to a full fledged relationship with your friend.

It makes a perfect open ended excuse to keep the cake while eating it too..

like I said, I may be wrong....

And this was my thoughts at first, but I have met the woman, and unless she enjoys shaving her head, and puking, she is sick.

You need to be in the spanking thread!