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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada
Fri Jan 2, 2009 3:52 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
I am not asking what happens, but rather how many participate in email extrapolations of events on individual forums. We have all seen evidence of cliques to be certain. Not all of which are detrimental but some which are pack aligned to be certain.
If a topic is posted by a person and some comment comes in that is specifically engineered to create frustration or paint a person in a particular light in opposition to who they have maintained, it does not take very long before they appear even if they have been inactive for quite some time. In fact their arrival is directed exactly at the point of interaction that is most deserving of a response even if the thread is long buried.
I have even read of others being telephoned to become active.
I am not opposed as this is often the most opportune method of allowing a person to correct a response taken out of context or confront a position that is clearly wrong in their own eyes.
How many people have such a network here?
Does it help or aggrivate?
How many even know that this occurs?
Is it more women than men?
Or more men than women?
What means are undertake to maintain these connections? (ie Email, Skype, telephone etc...)

Just curious and not trying to point any fingers.
I think some of it is very good to know that such deep connections have and can be made here for those who just may not have enough of this sort of camraderie in their personal lives.

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cristina Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:04 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
laugh

Phone calls and all?rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing Really, CS posting is like a job position. I think those who call others in order to post are crazy but don't know it yet! Now, if you ask people (via mailing or flowering here)to post...i don't see any issue in that because you might want to know the persons opinion about something and it's more natural than calling for the purpose. Now, asking me to go laugh at his/her post?
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing comfort
Camaraderie? Good!cheers
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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:08 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
cristina: Phone calls and all? Really, CS posting is like a job position. I think those who call others in order to post are crazy but don't know it yet! Now, if you ask people (via mailing or flowering here)to post...i don't see any issue in that because you might want to know the persons opinion about something and it's more natural than calling for the purpose. Now, asking me to go laugh at his/her post?

Camaraderie? Good!


I agree!

But is there ever a point where intervention by someone being assaulted is viable or even correct? What if this person is someone whose view you respect and they are being publicly executed unfairly and without representation?
The camraderie is a boon for certain as many here have lost far too much in their personal lives to trust those in their immediate environment to stand with them.
Again there is no point in arriving to push an envelope further into a realm best left unpopulated.
You have a healthy approach here Cristina and I appreciate your comments.hug
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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:21 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
20 minutes and 26 views yet only two responses (and one was me?), I hope the phones are not ringing off the hooks here. I was unaware that this issue was classified... please no Guantanamo Bay for me I repent...tongue
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pubwrite08 District Heights, Maryland USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:24 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
What she saidthumbs up
cristina: Phone calls and all? Really, CS posting is like a job position. I think those who call others in order to post are crazy but don't know it yet! Now, if you ask people (via mailing or flowering here)to post...i don't see any issue in that because you might want to know the persons opinion about something and it's more natural than calling for the purpose. Now, asking me to go laugh at his/her post?

Camaraderie? Good!
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immanuelle My city, Zuid-Holland Netherlands
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:30 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
I have sent words to people (male and female) on their private mail a few times. It is like when in the real world I would say something to someone away from the group because it seems more appropriate. It is always a bit scary when I send a CS stranger mail because I never know how the person will take it. I wouldn’t want them to think I am a ‘crazy’ sending them unsolicited mail. For the most part, a nice exchange is made. I also have a few CS members that I correspond with a bit more regularly away from the forum. It’s nice.
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KrazieStill Bristol, Connecticut USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:31 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
Who cares? dunno
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druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:38 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
I am friends off of CS and behind the scenes here at CS with some that I've met on forums, and have been sent into a thready before by email, or sent someone in by email. Yes. Never, however, by phone call. Not yet, anyway...laugh

Usually the reason has been to give positive support or read a particular comment. It's been done from one forum to another as well. I have had one "psychic call" into a forum, I swear. None of the traditional methods would have gotten me into it as fast, and with such perfect timing, as this method did that day. laugh

And I've had men and women do it, btw. So I don't know that it's confined to either gender.
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cristina Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:42 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
BarrenPneuma: I agree!

But is there ever a point where intervention by someone being assaulted is viable or even correct? What if this person is someone whose view you respect and they are being publicly executed unfairly and without representation?
The camraderie is a boon for certain as many here have lost far too much in their personal lives to trust those in their immediate environment to stand with them.
Again there is no point in arriving to push an envelope further into a realm best left unpopulated.
You have a healthy approach here Cristina and I appreciate your comments.


There are people who touch us here but we know we'll probably never meet IRL. Lets then love them here. Virtual hugs and defences are comforting. If we are here all the time is because we like to socialise here. We are clear about who, what gets us mad and who can support us in our positions. Getting that support when you are lost in words also feels good in my real life heart because it is with which i choose to post. A bit of drama to make it more intense, but the whole idea comes from the heart.
Your posts are intelligent. I may not responde to them just because... but i do appreciate your presence here. Thank you




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cristina Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:42 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
pubwrite08: What she said


wink cheers
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Charli15695 Dallas, Texas USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:44 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
DITTO !
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Charli15695 Dallas, Texas USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:47 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
KrazieStill: Who cares?


DITTO ! (sorry missed adding the quote....rolling on the floor laughing )
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Jan1305 Sunshine and vino, Murcia Spain
Fri Jan 2, 2009 4:58 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
It´s a well known fact that certain groups of people here love the backstage gossip.

I rarely send emails privately and I´m not part of any network, but I know it exists.

Most of the time I believe it aggravates already problematic situations. People take sides based on virtual friendships, which is not always fair or rational.

Despite my misgivings, sometimes it does serve a useful purpose.
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arabella Near Farmington, Maine USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:05 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
Since I have been on and off the forums forever..

I keep in touch with a few oldies here.

And on private email.

And on the phone.


Not much goes on on the forums for me
dunno
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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:06 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
Of course there is a good side to all of it and a bad side. I am merely curious as to who participates in this activity not whther or not they are altruistic or malicious. That is quite apparent in their personal commentary and what they choose to follow.
No one who can claim to be someone's friend can always sit back idly and allow the persecution of someone they have any sort of friendship with it is just not human. And at times I am sure these backstage events can get quite out of hand. But likewise I agree that the support from a person no matter how far away is perhaps the only comfort available to some in the situations they may currently be adrift in.
This is just a light-hearted discourse on a topic which likey has appeared in many newcomers heads as something they may have said in private becomes apparent in a public post or vice versa.
Many here are far too proficient at communicating in multi talented ways and often a post gets a response that perhaps does not make sense to any but those in the 'know.'
Do the benefits outweigh the negatives is more along the lines of what I am looking at. Regardless it is just a personal interest and has nothing to do with any who do or do not bother. I am just curious and if I was a cat i would have likely used a litter of lives already because of this.cats meow
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arabella Near Farmington, Maine USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:15 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
BarrenPneuma: Of course there is a good side to all of it and a bad side. I am merely curious as to who participates in this activity not whther or not they are altruistic or malicious. That is quite apparent in their personal commentary and what they choose to follow.
No one who can claim to be someone's friend can always sit back idly and allow the persecution of someone they have any sort of friendship with it is just not human. And at times I am sure these backstage events can get quite out of hand. But likewise I agree that the support from a person no matter how far away is perhaps the only comfort available to some in the situations they may currently be adrift in.
This is just a light-hearted discourse on a topic which likey has appeared in many newcomers heads as something they may have said in private becomes apparent in a public post or vice versa.
Many here are far too proficient at communicating in multi talented ways and often a post gets a response that perhaps does not make sense to any but those in the 'know.'
Do the benefits outweigh the negatives is more along the lines of what I am looking at. Regardless it is just a personal interest and has nothing to do with any who do or do not bother. I am just curious and if I was a cat i would have likely used a litter of lives already because of this.


Oh, you mean moment to moment discussion of threads on the forums?

I thought you meant real life contact of forum members over the years.

Heck, from what I understand, many long term daily members are on messengers, private email, the phone and make the life of the forums their full time occupation.

That's where the term, "Get a life" came from.rolling on the floor laughing
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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:17 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
arabella: Oh, you mean moment to moment discussion of threads on the forums?

I thought you meant real life contact of forum members over the years.

Heck, from what I understand, many long term daily members are on messengers, private email, the phone and make the life of the forums their full time occupation.

That's where the term, "Get a life" came from.


At least in my case I have not been required to get a life yet. Perhaps this is best for the life in question as I have already made a real mess of the one I already have at times.
Nice to see you here again young lady.hug with humour intact...rolling on the floor laughing
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hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:18 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
Mark, although I've only been here for a month, I can honestly say that the benefits outweigh the negatives! And thank you for what you've said in this thread.

hug
Merky
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BarrenPneuma Golden Staircase, Ontario Canada
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:20 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
hopefloats: Mark, although I've only been here for a month, I can honestly say that the benefits outweigh the negatives! And thank you for what you've said in this thread.


Merky


You really have to stop encouraging me as I am certain that my lunacy drives more than one participant here to pull their hair clean out at times... Unless you have stock in the hairclub for men that is then do continue raising the prices of those little shares...rolling on the floor laughing hug
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druidess6308 Reverse, Pennsylvania USA
Fri Jan 2, 2009 5:21 PM CST : How much happens on the backside of the forums...?
Jan1305: It´s a well known fact that certain groups of people here love the backstage gossip.

I rarely send emails privately and I´m not part of any network, but I know it exists.

Most of the time I believe it aggravates already problematic situations. People take sides based on virtual friendships, which is not always fair or rational.

Despite my misgivings, sometimes it does serve a useful purpose.


Oh, and btw...one thing that most have learned...I don't gossip, so I don't email with anyone for that purpose. It's support for each other, making each other laugh...the things you do with friends. I also don't take sides in arguments. Not here, not in real life.

Just thought I'd clarify, and not saying anyone accused me of it, or pointed a finger at me.

(Ya know, sometimes this is a tough medium for communicating.)

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