sxc666: Times have certainly changed V. I would like to think that common respect is addressed when needed on this topic.
For instance if both couples are working it should be split house duties etc? however if one is not naturally you would assume the one not working would undertake the majority of the upkeep of the house.
I prefer to maintain the upkeep of the house and my partner to maintain the upkeep of the outside of the house, lawns, spider webs etc.
I am not the type of woman that will wait on a man hand and foot while he is sitting on the lounge screaming for a beer. I will tell him to get of his own ass and get it.
I'm with you on the last part, Tina. He has to be able to take care of himself. Unless he's sick. But then, if I'm sick, he'd better be willing to wait on me, too.
As to the rest, I like the outdoor chores. I love to garden, for example. But I'd love to have a man to help with the hard parts of it. For now, those wait until my sons can help.
However, I do prefer that a man take care of the stuff with the car. I know how to do it, I just don't tend to do it. To me, that's a man's job, though I'll assist. Everything else, we will share. I prefer a relationship of equals.
To address what Sommer brought up in the beginning about laundry, though, I've had two marriages where I do mine and they do theirs. I like mine done a certain way, and if the man I'm with doesn't do it that way, then I prefer to do my own. And many men don't like the smelly stuff (softener) added to their clothes, so they can do their own. If their clothes are greasy, they can do their own separately as well.