Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

venere08 Adelaide and Tuscany, South Australia Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:52 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: Times have certainly changed V. I would like to think that common respect is addressed when needed on this topic.

For instance if both couples are working it should be split house duties etc? however if one is not naturally you would assume the one not working would undertake the majority of the upkeep of the house.

I prefer to maintain the upkeep of the house and my partner to maintain the upkeep of the outside of the house, lawns, spider webs etc.

I am not the type of woman that will wait on a man hand and foot while he is sitting on the lounge screaming for a beer. I will tell him to get of his own ass and get it.

Hi sxc,

You make an important point, and that is of achieving 'balance' in sharing household chores, etc. As long as there is agreement, real agreement, there is harmony.

And yes, too much sitting on one's arse, makes one develop a fat arse.

Not a pretty sight on anyone.

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:53 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: Times have certainly changed V. I would like to think that common respect is addressed when needed on this topic.

For instance if both couples are working it should be split house duties etc? however if one is not naturally you would assume the one not working would undertake the majority of the upkeep of the house.

I prefer to maintain the upkeep of the house and my partner to maintain the upkeep of the outside of the house, lawns, spider webs etc.

I am not the type of woman that will wait on a man hand and foot while he is sitting on the lounge screaming for a beer. I will tell him to get of his own ass and get it.

Perish the thought Tina, perish the thought. Here is a great classic of genderisation.

Man: Love, shall we swop positions tonight.

Woman: Of course, you take the ironing board and I will sit on the couch, with a beer and the football on.

SummerUK Washington, Tyne and Wear, England UK

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:56 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sommerauer71: There is nothing that we would not talk about, we have both made that very clear from the start.

And I think that is it, communication, we do not know everything about each other, but we learn something new about each other day. As for financial independence, yes I have to maintain that, should we combine finances at a later date, then we will both know where we stand, but the bottom line, he wants a woman and I want a man and those roles will always remain... He simply has to take the trash out and check my car has all the necessary fluids in it... I do not do those jobs.. He knows where I stand and I know where he is... He has run his own home for many years, so I respect that... Until I am free from my financial obligations, which I will be, then I have to continue as you say, in the manner I am, but I can do that from anywhere in the world... There is no competition between us, we know the boundaries and we both know not what to do in our relationship.

What she said

sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:56 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sommerauer71: Perish the thought Tina, perish the thought. Here is a great classic of genderisation.

Man: Love, shall we swop positions tonight.

Woman: Of course, you take the ironing board and I will sit on the couch, with a beer and the football on.

I have a good friend that has a partner that she waits on hand and foot, it drives me flippin insane

venere08 Adelaide and Tuscany, South Australia Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:57 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sommerauer71: Perish the thought Tina, perish the thought. Here is a great classic of genderisation.

Man: Love, shall we swop positions tonight.

Woman: Of course, you take the ironing board and I will sit on the couch, with ~~a beer and the football on.~~

I would prefer a glass of French champagne(we can purchase 'Grandin' rather inexpensively here!), and watch a gorgeous movie such as 'Enchanted April' or 'Beatrix Potter'.

sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:58 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

venere08: Hi sxc,

You make an important point, and that is of achieving 'balance' in sharing household chores, etc. As long as there is agreement, real agreement, there is harmony.

And yes, too much sitting on one's arse, makes one develop a fat arse. Not a pretty sight on anyone.

Balance is the key V, if this is not achieved arguments will begin and resentment sets in.

venere08 Adelaide and Tuscany, South Australia Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 4:58 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: I have a good friend that has a partner that she waits on hand and foot, it drives me flippin insane

Sounds like my mother.

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:00 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

SummerUK: What she said

And what she, she, Summer said to Sommer...

Yah right on ladies....

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:00 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: Balance is the key V, if this is not achieved arguments will begin and resentment sets in.

Erm, when did you become all sensible?

WHo are you and can we have Tina back please? One thread and you have not mentioned the size of a willy.

sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:01 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

venere08: Sounds like my mother.

She even told me he told her, he would like to have her, him and me in a threesome. And I'm suppose to comfortably sit and have a coffee

I don't think so.

SummerUK Washington, Tyne and Wear, England UK

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:01 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sommerauer71: Hey Summer... Is that so? I like to be dragged around by my hair occasionally too. Good to see you gal, how are you?

I'm good thank you Sommer, How are you?

Yes I can't think of anything better than being dragged around the cave a bit but then I do like to see him in the kitchen cooking up a storm too

I do agree with you about wanting a 'man' and definately about the rubbish and the car......absolutely

CrosstownTraffic Nr. Ruffec, Poitou-Charentes France

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:03 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Well i have been pretty domesticated since I was 15 - 16 years old. and sometimes I think you girls have no idea how to vacuum properly!

However I think I better get my old Captain Caveman videos out so I can brush up on my ravaging techniques

sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:04 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sommerauer71: Erm, when did you become all sensible?

WHo are you and can we have Tina back please? One thread and you have not mentioned the size of a willy.

Tina

is in the house tonight.

Tina

is waiting to pounce

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:05 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

SummerUK: I'm good thank you Sommer, How are you?

Yes I can't think of anything better than being dragged around the cave a bit but then I do like to see him in the kitchen cooking up a storm too

I do agree with you about wanting a 'man' and definately about the rubbish and the car......absolutely

Oh I like a good old thrashing!

But the car and the trash are a no no...

I am well thank you Summer, very well, still in Sweden with the road bandit. Leave on Wednesday, back to work 11 January.

sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:05 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

I will swap any duty rather then iron. I do iron but I can't stand it......

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:06 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

CrosstownTraffic: Well i have been pretty domesticated since I was 15 - 16 years old. and sometimes I think you girls have no idea how to vacuum properly!

However I think I better get my old Captain Caveman videos out so I can brush up on my ravaging techniques

You know, my ex husband used to say that to me.

So, I gave him the hoover.

And he had to do it all the time.

Sod that shite, if someone tells me I am doing it wrong, then they can do it.

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:06 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: I will swap any duty rather then iron. I do iron but I can't stand it......

Oh I lovee ironing! I iron tea towels, bedding, dusters...

Anal, I am.

Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:07 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: Tina is in the house tonight.Tina is waiting to pounce

Aha, there you are.

venere08 Adelaide and Tuscany, South Australia Australia

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:08 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

sxc666: Balance is the key V, if this is not achieved arguments will begin and resentment sets in.

And that's where 'communication' comes in. If 2 people keep the channels of communication always open, there shouldn't be any resentment that develops. And this brings me to the issue of respect. Respect for the other person, the load they have.

I have a colleague whose wife quit work to stay home and have a family. Yet I would shudder when I found out that she still expected him to be the one to get up in the middle of the night if the baby, and later, toddler, needed attending in the night, or had to rush home after a professional meeting ending late evening, to do various chores, look after the child, anything. Sure some respite she would need, but this was beyond that. It was a regular mandatory requirement. One that if not met, she would threaten divorce!

CrosstownTraffic Nr. Ruffec, Poitou-Charentes France

Sat Jan 3, 2009 5:08 AM CST : Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sommerauer71: You know, my ex husband used to say that to me.

So, I gave him the hoover.

And he had to do it all the time.

Sod that shite, if someone tells me I am doing it wrong, then they can do it.

Hey lady, just you back away from my hoover or there will be serious trouble!!!!

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