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Big_John: I believe the roles two people take in a relationship emerge as the two start meeting that first day on the first day. However the man and woman handle even the simple tasks early design their paths. We have often discussed here on the Threads whether or not a man should open a door, pull a chair out, etc. These events lead to establishment of roles we will play during our time together. I believe because of my age a more traditional pattern of roles would occur in relationships I would get in; however, I do love to cook and I have been living alone for quite a while and have learned to do everything myself. I have a maid--so no one would do house cleaning. Cars go the car wash. The yard is cut by a crew. So I guess we would just have to decide what role we each have in sex!!!!

venere08: No biting!

CrosstownTraffic: and who said Christmas was over

wixomwizard: Did you check out my new thread Fil? It's right up your alley.

venere08: No, I will go look before I head off to dreamland. I'm falling off the perch again! 'Cept this time it's a bit earlier than usual.

venere08: Saw it Harry.

From tht list, one thing I would never NOT say is that the diamond is too big. I can't stand large 'rocks'. Way too ostentatious. Less is more in this case. As per the K.I.S.S principle

You sound like you're in good spirits, H. good for you.

venere08: That's a very good point. Thanks.

Right from the first moment two people meet, a lot is learned from the way the other person deals with such 'simple' things. I know there are some women that shun a man for daring to open the door for them, car door or otherwise. It is such behaviour that has contributed in part to role confusion for some men. I have met some men that tell they have become intimidated by such experiences with some women, to the point they just do nothing. Personally, I applaud some of these more traditional gestures. I know I might cause a bit of uproar here, but I think women do like a man to take some level of control in the relationship. I know 'control' is not the right word, but I can't think of another right now. Whatever it is, a woman still needs to feel 'safe'. Our genetic makeup hasn't really changed that dramatically.

And yes, I agree, where there are jobs that can be delegated, why not? it does not interfere with how the couple relates. It can only be beneficial as it frees them to engage in more mutually interesting activities, let's say.

vinny1967: Hi Vee,

Hope your well,

IMHO Communication is paramount. Sommer was right in what she said in relation to this. There are many different types of relationships now, but as long as people are willing to adapt to a persons needs and its reciprocated.........it's all good.

I was married and worked 12 hours a day and my ex did not work and I really didnt do anything around the house. It was all done, except the Garden really. Having lived on my own, on and off for 8 years it's been a culture shock but if I didnt do it it would not get done. So I learned.

I have also been in a relationship where my partner was extremely messy and I did all the housework.

I guess what I'm really tryin to say is Men and Women can assume roles in their relationship, and while we may be shocked and think it's unfair in some cases, so long as both people are happy in their roles, I think it can be a very good relationship.

If the 2
people continue to communicate and respect each other needs............it's all good.

Vinny

P.S. I hate hoovering

X_REBEL: No tis "rebel" is not even gonna respond to this thread as his sure mostknow how he feels about this topic...anyway i might just add that there are too many men out there today trying to please woman with what they think they'd like to hear and then everything goes haywire, cause they(the men) are not being themselves) But then again woman can be sooooo confusing and most men lose "track"....

Sommerauer71: Have we actually established anything here Ven.

Apart from Tina has run off with her hoover, Vinny and CT are a match made in heaven and I want to marry Big John...

Eh? Eh?

mbcasey: I would make someone a really good househusband.

wixomwizard: It's so cold outside, I have to stay in good spirits, just to stay warm.

venere08: Hey Ken,

Nice to see you.

So, a good househusband as well as ranch hand? You are definitely multi-skilled

Fil

venere08: Leave Big John alone. You have PPV

I think if anything, vinny and Summer are well suited, one likes to pull his woman by the hair, the other likes to be dragged around the cave floor by the hair.

Scary, ain't it?

Sommerauer71: Have we actually established anything here Ven.

Apart from Tina has run off with her hoover, Vinny and CT are a match made in heaven and I want to marry Big John...

Eh? Eh?

Big_John: Shouldn't we have a trial run on the honeymoon first?

venere08: Leave Big John alone. You have PPV

I think if anything, vinny and Summer are well suited, one likes to pull his woman by the hair, the other likes to be dragged around the cave floor by the hair.

Scary, ain't it?

Sommerauer71: Of course, I am a measured person.

I like to know that what I am doing is right!