melani: Has anyone met someone, who appears to be so sweet at first, and later turns out to be source for your tears....?
There are ones, who mail you, who get to know you, especially when you are very very vulnerable and easily hurt. They say so many lovely things, send flowers and pretty mails.
Later, when you almost get to know the person, and feel that someone is there for you, they turn their worst poses in front of you.
Endless calls which never get answered, a simple message to warm the heart, where as, they appear to be simply crazy with love and attention they could give you... at the start, when you respond to their questions are what is left behind.
The anxiety, and heartbreak seem never ending.. you feel you are falling apart all over again.
Why do some of us feel so naive in the presence of strangers I wonder.
Is it that we are so weak in our own souls that we get drawn to deception?
Are there people who have gone through this experience?? I wonder..
No, I have never gone through that experience here, but I have had a terrible break up in my marriage a few years ago, that was both of our faults, terrible hurt that I thought would never leave me. But it did.
If you are talking about here, or any dating site, then it sounds to me like you are resting all your hopes on meeting one person from here.
You have to filter out the bad ones, hard I know, there have been successes here, and we hear them everyday, three couples I know have got married from here. But you sound so terribly hurt at these kinds of behaviour and I am afraid that it will continue to happen, toughen up a bit and do not lay too much expectation on each contact you have... Keep your options open. If you go down one road only, and there is roadblock, you can only turn around and go right back to where you came from, so find an alternative route.
Only you can change it, they cannot, it is your responisbility, not theirs... Best of luck to you