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I certainly do not talk as openly about sex in real life Sommer. I think its good when you do actually meet people from CS in the real world I have met a few, to date all have been as in pics and personality.

There is no way on a first date with someone, I would ask if they have a hoover I can borrow

So, Tina, do you not think that places like this give us a chance to out our inner thoughts that we would perhaps not do face to face?

I bloody would.

But once I get to know the person. I am still a dirty bitch

this is truly 70 to 80 % right,

but still, am sure that online people shows more of their personalty than face to face,,, but why did I say 70 to 80%???

it is due to the fact that we make more own interpretation for the words that are written with most of our five seances are missing,,, so it is more about what we make of the other person than what the other person makes out of self.

For me I think I am the same, the only difference is I am initially a bit shyer, but after a while I will just be me.

And keep me away from red wine

I so love you...

Fantastic.

I come across as shy and prissy.

But I am not.

Ah voyager, hello.

You think?

I think having a voice over a medium such as this helps people, to get in touch with themselves, words can make us very attractive to the opposite sex, we can write better than we can vocalise, so of course, here we only have words to make us be able to voice our thoughts, no body language.

I think I get your last statement.

Are you suggesting that when people meet that we are more geared towards concentrating on what they are than who we are?

did I say it right???


u c what I mean????

anyway, one important thought:

you can totally read what the other person is saying before responding, while in face to face you may cut in and start responding or you get distracted by they way he or she is acting and you lose some points that are said in the discussion!!

however, some do start to reply as soon as the read the 1st word you said in a post

I think you have made it very clear!

And your final paragraph I concur with.

For instance, yesterday we were having a discussion about DNA, what all lovers talk about, and PPV interuppted me. So then I let him finish and then the swine interrupted me again.

But yes, you ahve raised a classic example of how online and face to face can be so very different.

yeb I do think that this is part of the issue. Also, while we are talking we have less time to think of what we truly need to say as in how to say it more than what to say,,,

while by writing,, you do have time to express you self in writing,, but still, 50% is at the other said of what to make of your words, that is why we have those funny emoticons to add some body language

do you agree???

Erm I do agree to a certain extent voyager and I believe that emoticons are useful to a certain degree, but they cannot be replaced by body language. I cannot hold a conversation with them, but I can use them every now and again. I mean if we all become so used to them, how would we cope interacting in life without them?

I have met many people offline that I have met online and they are somewhat different, and I have been told that I am not as blunt as I write, words are inmportant, I love them and I can pick apart words well, as many can, many people are better vocally than they are written and I have not yet worked out which one I am, although my man tells me I am able to hold a discussion down well, I think most of us can when it is something we know alot about.

Do you think that people are fearful? When they meet a person for the first time? If they have previousy interacted online?

I am not fearful, I do not think I wonder waht they will think of me, same as here, I am not here to be liked, I am here to have some discussions and some fun, whether I am liked or not is no matter to me.

But there are some that I adore and love interacting with and would love to meet in my lifetime, a handful.

The rest will only be people that I will only ever interact with here.

So, do you think you are the same here as face to face? We all have an online image, she does this all the time, he does that.

Because we have nothing else to go off, only what we see here.

I believe I am a little different online only in the areas of discussing personal things. I don't believe I would talk about some and many of the things we do online in my personal life. Also, my life is fishing, golfing, playing chess, going to church, Boy Scouts and volunteering at a soup kitchen. No one here knows me this way and these are not the things Forums Threads are designed to find out. So yes I am different on online.

Hi John

I believe we are.

I was thinking about this, we do not discuss face to face what we discuss here.

All of the areas of my life that only those closest to me know about would never be discussed here. Simply because as you so rightly point out the forums are not designed for that.

My life is teaching, reading, golfing, cooking, raising my children...

Not many subjects on golf here is there?

read no evil
hear no evil
speak no evil


I dont type when I am quiet in real life.


I fondle myself as much in RL and this gets me many friends voyeuers

Well, you are unique Jacob.

So you can step out of this discussion...

I think I'm pretty much the same - Guess you'd have to ask Jackson to know for sure.

Seems like I think a little more before making replies online than when having a regular conversation, but I suppose that's due to the nature of the medium. Of course, I don't worry about spelling and punctuation as much when I'm talking as I do when I'm typing, but I guess that's also a given.

And I guess I'm probably a little funnier in real life - Kinda' tough to tell stories/jokes using different voices/impersonations when you're typing text into a computer screen; Just doesn't read as funny as it sounds...

Mostly though, I'm JustMe. I use what tools I have available in whatever medium I'm communicating in and my personality remains the same, even if certain aspects come through a little more (or less) strongly.

I think I'm pretty much the same in RL as I am here.

After being on here for almost four years, it would be pretty hard to be anything else than what I am.

I'm still living in the woods, taking care of my son and raising my show quality chickens.

Of course, in four years, I haven't had a date from this site, I'm not especially a popular forum member and have only a few friends who are still on the site.

Guess that shows just how weird I am.

And I don't intend to change.