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The_Kansan: I think I'm pretty much the same - Guess you'd have to ask Jackson to know for sure.

Seems like I think a little more before making replies online than when having a regular conversation, but I suppose that's due to the nature of the medium. Of course, I don't worry about spelling and punctuation as much when I'm talking as I do when I'm typing, but I guess that's also a given.

And I guess I'm probably a little funnier in real life - Kinda' tough to tell stories/jokes using different voices/impersonations when you're typing text into a computer screen; Just doesn't read as funny as it sounds...

Mostly though, I'm JustMe. I use what tools I have available in whatever medium I'm communicating in and my personality remains the same, even if certain aspects come through a little more (or less) strongly.

Sommerauer71: Hi John

I believe we are.

I was thinking about this, we do not discuss face to face what we discuss here.

All of the areas of my life that only those closest to me know about would never be discussed here. Simply because as you so rightly point out the forums are not designed for that.

My life is teaching, reading, golfing, cooking, raising my children...

Not many subjects on golf here is there?

In response to: Represent who we are in life?

I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.

I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.

So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?

I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.

Big_John: So if we agree many of us are different or at least appear to be different on-line how do we work to ensure the "right" one finds us? I know I have found several really nice ladies, but each of them wasn't the "one". Maybe I don't know how ot attract the right kind of woman based on my limited abilities to identify those qualities online. Many of my friends tell me I should stop looking online and stick to the "real" world. The real world in small town Mississippi doesn't haven't many ladies.

gingerb: Hi Sommer

I've been told by members I have met that I am the same in real life as I am on here. That, however, was in meeting people neutrally at a CS meet.

Meeting people I have dated may have been different, because then it wasn't about who I am/was, it was about living up to their imaginary idea of who they thought I was going to be for them.

That is very different.

When someone is wanting or expecting something from you, or wanting you to be a certain way to fit their ideal, then no matter who you are it wont fit their expectations exactly.

For some you will be better than their expectations and for others you won't match up, but that is outside your control.

You can only be yourself.

Sommerauer71: Erm I do agree to a certain extent voyager and I believe that emoticons are useful to a certain degree, but they cannot be replaced by body language. I cannot hold a conversation with them, but I can use them every now and again. I mean if we all become so used to them, how would we cope interacting in life without them?

I have met many people offline that I have met online and they are somewhat different, and I have been told that I am not as blunt as I write, words are inmportant, I love them and I can pick apart words well, as many can, many people are better vocally than they are written and I have not yet worked out which one I am, although my man tells me I am able to hold a discussion down well, I think most of us can when it is something we know alot about.

Do you think that people are fearful? When they meet a person for the first time? If they have previousy interacted online?

I am not fearful, I do not think I wonder waht they will think of me, same as here, I am not here to be liked, I am here to have some discussions and some fun, whether I am liked or not is no matter to me.

But there are some that I adore and love interacting with and would love to meet in my lifetime, a handful.

The rest will only be people that I will only ever interact with here.

So, do you think you are the same here as face to face? We all have an online image, she does this all the time, he does that.

Because we have nothing else to go off, only what we see here.

BarrenPneuma: I am a little more emotional in real life and perhaps a little more humourous. Other than that even though this environment is rather sterile in its medium I am exactly who I am online. I am always aware of the reality of a situation and am not shy to explore any sort of depth of any issue. Of course the medium allows for a bit of thought before words have to be sorted but as anyone who has had any sort of outside of the forum contact with me there is little delay in my responses and I feel they come out in much the same way.
I am a relaxed person who has little uproar in my life on purpose. I prefer quiet times in small gatherings rather than large boisterous ones in public. There is merit to the latter but I do tend to avoid their constantcy.
Other than that I would have to respect the worthy additions from those friends who know me better than merely a poster on the forums.

voyager007: I agree 100% with regarding the body language. it can not be replaced by the emoticons but it does give a hint that is all.

and for your question??? will I hope that would be much more than I am show on line but this is for others to Decide not me. I do try and do my best online to be as much as I am in face to face nut as I said,, there is this 50%50% from the receiving person.

sorry to answer so late but I was Caught in another thread that also could be related to what you are talking about here.

I can do my best to express who am I and you can do your best to understand me too BUT what about those people who generalize by saying men are like that ??? and women are like this????? Saudi are like that???? Americans are like this???? Arabs are like that??? people fro MARS are like this?????

this will get into the formula of your understanding???

Tater: My profile represents me to a T (tater) I am exactly the same person in real life as you see hear. The only exception is in real life I talk a little different, more slang but that's it...

Sommerauer71: Again, people raise points that I have never thought of, thank you Voyager.

Exactly and that is very common here, which is a conversation I had this morning with a lady here who was talking about a couple of men that she has emails from. We do culturise and that is unfair. We generalise and we have had threads where men are all liars and cheaters and women are all gold diggers when that is rubbish.

And no apology necessary Voyager at all.

Sommerauer71: Represent who we are in life?

I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.

I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.

So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?

I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.

Shirley49WV: I am more outgoing and flirtatious in RL than I am on here. Cause I feel if I let myself go and "really" be myself. I would get.... 1. banned 2. be picked apart by those that love to do it.
I look just like my pictures cause all of them are recent. I am very verbal and don't let anyone sh.t on me in RL.
Guess I'm still testing the water on here.

druidess6308: I have to agree with what's been said by so many others here. In real life, I'm a little shy at first, but you see the me that my friends see. And even my close acquaintances.

The difference I see here is the same as others have stated. Topics that I don't discuss as openly or often in public or with friends, and an ability to think more as I frame my responses. Here I can edit them, whereas we don't edit our verbal responses to people. I can read what I'm saying to make sure I'm saying it right.
I would actually say that you see more of the real me on here than I show in real life. And yet, when someone really gets to know me, they see this too.

voyager007: what more can I say sis????

I did not get that much upset over it, I know who am I and I know from where I come from, regardless of what others may think of me. but the issue is eventhough we are in the 21 century and the world have became so open for eachother to know more of each other, still some people think with the 1st century mentality,,,

anyway I don't wana change the subject of this thread but I hope for you and those who wana know what am talking about to go to the below link:

http://www.connectingsingles.com/forum_0_90266_3/no_i_wont_tell_you_more.htm#last

your thread have more constructive thoughts to mend the bridges between individuals regardless of differences that divide us as groups.