Justme4uok: Scientists tell us love is all in our mind or brain, based on a chemical reaction fueled by chemicals. When two people are attracted to each other, a virtual explosion of adrenaline-like nuerochemicals gush forth. Fireworks explode and we see stars. Some of you may experience something a little different but it’s your unique way of being smitten.
Singles search for love armed with a list of qualities desired in a mate/lover, such as honesty, fidelity, loyalty, sense of humor, intelligence, warmth, etc. Yet when that person appears they say, he/she is a really nice person, but nothing clicked, just no "chemistry."
Some people become veritable love junkies. They need chemistry or this chemical excitement to feel happy about and intoxicated by life. Once this initial rush of chemicals wanes (inevitable after six months to three years, depending on the individual and the circumstances), their relationship crumbles. They're soon off again, seeking a quick fix to their forlorn feelings: another chemical high from infatuation.
So is this why so many of us are still here on CS? Do we place too much value on the chemistry rather than the other things that we believe are so important in a mate? Could we possibly find that person and have the chemistry follow if we gave it some time?
I think it can happen at any time, not just at first sighting. Sometimes it just a little crooked smile or a coy look she doesn't know she makes, or a well placed freckle that gets revealed. Once that chemistry hits, it never leaves no matter what happens, for me anyway.
The other things are important no doubt; but I don't think they affect that chemical presence that gets stamped on my memory.
