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Hey...there goes my brain deadness kickin again....

So you think that is bad, I gave the Christmas present to my girlfriend and I said Happy Birthday, instead of Merry Christmas

Well regardless of the occasion...I hope she liked it... You just tell her she isn't allowed to kidnap you for soooooooo long next time.....

She absolutely loved it. And said I was a better artist than she realized.

Sorry Ladies..... to just disappear.....was a little distracted......

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Great to hear it doll..but then I knew she would....

Thanks Lela..... Wish I could say it was as a result of this site..... but lately only getting the scammer e-mail, lol

Oh Now Shelley........ They don't all turn out to be the right one.....but I won't give up!

Which is never going to happen... human biology just doesn´t function in that manner... so you find people trying to get the same types of adrenaline rush from creating drama in the relationship or skipping from relationship to relationship.

I´m one that does need the chemistry in order to start something, but realize how much better it can be once you grow to truly love each other, and how much stronger that is then chemistry if troubles arise.

I found this discussion fascinating, so I did a little experiment with my partner in crime, I wrote down what I thought it was and he did, we then gave it to another couple to read, for their verdict.

Mine was very bullet pointed and his was as the female of the couple pointed out like a 14 year old in love.

We laughed about it, but on a serious note, there is no right answer, it is a feeling that we become addicted to at the beginning and then the feeling wanes, for whatever reason, I do not intend to let it wane this time.

without chemistry there is nothing.. jmo

One's life is a slow progressing chemical reaction. Extending
in time, back to the beginning of life.

Experimenting can be fun and enlightning.....Thanks for sharing.

That strikes me as a clever and perceptive take on chemistry, JB.

I'd like to draw a possible distinction between "chemistry" and "sexual attraction." First, I think "chemistry" involves more than sexual attraction. One might say that one experiences sexual chemistry for someone, for example, but not an overall chemistry, which I'm thinking comprises many different physical and emotional factors. For example, I have good "philosphic chemistry" or "conversational chemistry" (for example) with certain people as well.

For me, "chemistry" encompasses a variety of ways in which people can relate. In that overall sense, it is a necessary condition, I think, for a romantic relationship. It is quite possible that the strength of each element which composes "chemistry" varies from individual to individual. Perhaps some favor a higher sexual chemistry, while others favor a higher personality chemistry. To me personality chemistry is almost inseparable - even indistinguishable - from sexual chemistry.

I hear ya doll...me neither..good luck to us both...May 2009 be out year of real love...

But Jacquie, I seem to recall "friendship chemistry" lacking in for you in one case, which led to your not starting something...

You likely meant "sexual chemistry," but if my account of what romantic chemistry consists of is correct - namely, that it is "composite" (that is, composed of many different elements) - then you did stop a relationship based on a lack of chemistry.

I think if I'm right about chemistry's composite nature, then it is impossible to sustain a romantic relationship without it.

Your comment "...trying to get the same types of adrenaline rush from creating drama in the relationship or skipping from relationship to relationship" is very (typically ) perceptive of you. I think that applies to sexual desire, however. It's very discomfiting indeed to feel the waning of sexual desire in a previously "hot" relationship. No one wants to believe their significant other is losing physical desire for them, but I think that only becomes problematic if one experiences that diminishment as a reflection of one's inherent desirability or worthiness, rather than as a likely natural evolution of a romantic relationship (please note that I wrote "diminishment" rather than "absence" ).

The sense that one has become less desirable to one's partner could easily lead to the desperate "drama-creating" or "adrenaline rush seeking" behavior that is so commonplace: frightened men and women endlessly chasing a romantic high in order to feed their sense of self-worth.

I've certainly felt some of that anxiety myself - especially since I've so rarely experienced an intense sexual chemistry. I am a little afraid of losing its erotic fruits too soon, but I'm hopeful that I'll be able to appreciate the deeper rewards of a loving relationship as they come to fruition...