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I would PAY for some of that !

I think there are many types of abuse that can exist in a relationship....I almost think verbal, at times, is worse..Not speaking from personal exp, but, have gfs that had some pretty scary things happen...
All the yelling, shouting, and when it happens in front of children, it is the worst...I think some see themselves being better off single, than in what they are in now...

There is only one answer......NO

Yes, it's possible, and it's a healthy thing to accomplish.

Forgiveness is letting go of the anger, resentment, regret, etc -- no longer hanging on to the "personal story" about what happened and it's perceived meaning.

When these incidents occur, it's this interpretation which lives on in the mind of the abused person... the trauma of the incident itself is long gone, but the interpretation takes on a life of it's own and becomes part of the abused person's identity. THAT is something which is quite resolvable, and that is what forgiveness is all about.

It doesn't mean that you should trust the person again, it means that your present life and sense of self are no longer defined by what happened. Just because you were a victim in the past does not mean you must perpetually remain a victim.

Forgive- yes
Forget- no

I don't think I could...

My ex had low-selfesteem so needed to lord it over me.
Put downs, silened treatment etc.
Finally one day he slapped me.
Without thinking I put my head down and charged at him like a little bull and blindly let both my fist fly at him.
He was shocked and did not touch me again not long after I left him.
Yeah I forgave him it was his loss as he later told me.

I have learned a very long time ago that when you won't/can't forgive it is YOU who pays the price, not the one who hurt you.

If a man ever physically abused me he better be wearing an armor suit with extra padding around the privates area........

No we can never forget.
Just don't dwell on it.

forgive yes but never forget

FORGIVENESSS HAS BEEN INSTILLED IN EVERYONE EVEN THOUGH SOME DONT WANT TO USE THEIR HEART. YES YOU SHOULD JUST TO HAVE LOSER ON YOURSELF YET MOVE ON YO SOMEONE BETTER THAT LOVES YOU AND CAN PUT HIS/HER HANDS ON YOU THE RIGHT WAY

Men who abuse and yes women do it too, know who they can do it too.
I met my first at 14 married him at 20 and realized later that he was an control freak and I more of a doormat.
Bought the; this is how it is done in the old country.

The problem with these type of people it that move on to the next victim...Yes, we can forgive them, even forget it down the road...But, who will they hurt next??? They need help...and I don't necessarily mean jail time...counseling of some sort...Most likely, it could have been a pattern in their family...Not trying to sound like Dr.Laura here.......

Sorry why are you using caps? it is called shouting Steveno
I find it harder to read.

NEVER HAPPENED TO ME.


The last guy,my former contracter who I GOT INTO an argument with wanted to show his BOSS authority over me and started tapping my shoulder with his finger.I told him if he tapped my shoulder....one more time.....I was gonna HANG HIS BALLS UPSIDE DOWN FROM THE TREE ACROSS THE STREET.
He walked away...Smart man.


Thank you.

I EVEN POINTED at the exact tree...and it was a really nice high one.

Thank you.

I ran into him downtown a little while ago,so I approached him.He saw me coming and walked away,got into his pick up....and drove away.lol



F.UCK HIM.

My goodness, seems to me you have contractor abuse syndrome, but I beleive the topic is about male and female RELATIONSHIPS and abuse not about a handyman putting in a new toilet for you and it was not the right shade of fusia...