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I am kind of in the same place. Some of the people I have met and built a friendship w/ are now in relationships and don't come onto the site any more. It is a bit lonely w/o them here to chat w/ every now and then. However, I am quit glad that have found someone to share their lives with.

I bow out at times because it seems as if I am not fitting into other people's agendas or the site becomes a bit stagnet after a fashion. Taking a break some times helps. Read a couple of books and then come back w/ something to talk about.

That's what I have done and observed anyways. Don't know about other people.

I look at CS as a form of entertainment at times...when I'm stuck or bored and have nothing to do. There are some nice people here with whom I enjoy talking and wouldn't mind meeting some day.

I've seen a few testimonials from those who have experienced success - but the success stories pale in comparison to the failure stories. I think a lot of the people here have good intentions and the desire - it is a large community of people and distance is a factor in many potential relationships. Then if you meet someone, the hard work comes - in traditional, local meetings - you live nearby and can spend time developing a relationship - with the long distance relationship - you don't have that advantage, and some people have a hard time over coming that. The tendancy could be to rush into something and make a big mistake. It's hard to leave your life behind for someone you hardly know --- even afer all the visits, emails, phone calls, etc. - to risk it all - is not for the faint of heart for sure.

NO!!

Yes, but I would probably get banned..

I agree. I've met a lot of really great people here, but haven't had any luck yet with a relationship. But, I no longer care if I find romance here or not. I love the friends I've made here, and enjoy hanging out here in the forums. I have found in CS a place where I'm accepted for who I am, and have made some really great friends all over the world and the US.

Well said Druidess! cheers

Same here No

"Well said....".

Ditto--This is the way I see it also.

Hi JoAnn! There have been quite a few success stories here of people finding partners but on a whole, it seems as if distance plays a huge part on this site. Some REALLY nice people/friends on here but hardly anyone local to my area. Makes it tough to find a date/activity partner when their 300 miles plus away. Good luck to you!

Hi Jo-Ann...

It takes work to find what you are looking for. High expectations when you first come here is expected, but it takes a long time to connect. I have seen threads where people have complained they haven't met anyone and they had been members for a week. Or the 19 year old who hasn't had a date for 6 months and wonders if love will ever find them again.

Give it time, put effort into it and it will happen eventually. Even if you are busy with your career, you still have to write to people, send flowers and spend time on the forums. Good luck to you!!

Both very sound pieces of advice. Spend time especially in the forums making friends - that's what you'd do it in real life. Learn what you like about people through their posts. Spending hours looking at faces and reading profiles through searches is tantamount to trying to find Waldo at the beach. Chat with people, read what others have to say, and open your own heart to let folks know what makes you tick, as well. Time flies when you're having fun. You find a connection here in the forums, and who knows, we may be reading your testimonial.
Good luck - we'll be seeing you.

me too, have met people from CS and have made real friends

Only 300 miles.....how do you think I feel, the nearest major city to here is 2500kms away.....or maybe Johannesburg the other way.

Long distance relationships are almost impossible.

Any one disagree?

Here are some responses based on a 1-5 point scale (1=lowest and 5=highest)

1) Connecting singles kills time-- 5

2) Connecting singles creates opportunity to meet like-minded or like-spirited-- 2

3) Connecting singles takes you away from your actual social life-- 3

4) Connecting singles creates opportunity for meeting people you would otherwise not likely to meet and learn from each other-- 5

5) If you can find the balance, Connecting singles can be a great place to pass time-- 5

The perspectives are sobering. My thanks to all.