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I would say I am personaly very stable emotionaly.
But at the same time I am human and get lonely like every one else.

Lonelyness is part of my job as a soldier.

Its like any thing else, It is what you make of it.

Hi there, yes, loneliness is something that emotionally stable people feel, although some would see loneliness as a downfall. I have seen that happen.

I fully agree. I class myself as emotionally stable, sometimes i am lonely but the time spent in the military taught me how to cope with it..

Hello Gussi, not often we see you in these parts? How does the Military teach you to cope with loneliness?

You learn to be thankful for your next meal, the man to the left and right side of you is your suppoert system because both of you are going through the same thing, thats why a soldiers bond is so strong.

I have never served with G but we have that bond of soldiers.

Its a unspoken bond that every soldier shares.

Mmm...i'm sure not going to deep into this thread...might just add a couple of things...most of your "lonely people out there are in general very independant and thus emotionally very stable. Usually they are not in need of anyone to help them cope. They might experience 90% independance and 10% loneliness at times...but what weighs heavier, one might ask? Then of course one has to ask yourself what is loneliness? Is it an emotional side of a human which can be controlled, which some is capable to supress/control?. If it is an emotion, which i believe, then it is contollable, as with any emotional issue.

Hay Somm,

As you already know i made my mistake but yes i find my self emotionally stable,lots of self esteem and confident ..... but there is still something missing wich i dont know what is it ..... probably ill find out with growing up

Usually unstable people has negative influence on me and dont want to be near them

If you are emotionaly stable doesent mean u dont have any emotions its just means u can controle them.

If you are emotionaly stable doesent mean u dont have any emotions its just means u can controle them.

No I'm not stable. I just quit smoking so I'm a wreck.

Hi, I can appreciate all of that, but some people are not able to cope with that, so whilst it may be good emotionally for one person then it may be quite damaging for another. The bond you speak about I have heard about before, much like a bond with any group of people who have common ground.

But I am describing emotional stability within a person, be them a soldier, a tinker, a tailor, a candlestick maker, stablility within the mind is something that once achieved can then make all the other areas in life much easier to achieve.

Ups and downs here but i'm basically stable since i try to understand my feelings well. I always ask myself: "why am i sad,bossy, irritated,too relaxed today?". This definitely helps to realise that i need to sort that out or try to occupy myself with things that will relax my stress at the time. Sometimes i don't want to relax and i know i don't want to relax. It's like choosing between breaking a glass and take a walk...when it's cold, i'd rather break a glass.
I had unstable partners, depressive maniac, those a had to play mother most of the time...where my energy was sucked until the end. There are women that have vocation for it, not me. I need an active man who tries to help us with positive atittude. At least someone who is there to try and have his own positive atittude and not constantly suck my energy.
Sorry

Missed you

Oh god, why did I know you would find your way in here...

I agree, that emotionally stable individuals are able to cope on their own, that they can work through their own difficulties, but also a strong person can be one who does ask for help. And not in a needy way, just some help with negotiating their way through. That does not make them unstable.

...great insight into a woman's mind...it amazes me just how confusingly it operates...

Im definitely emotionally un-stable but learned to cope with

I benefit from it cos never feeling wearily with myself...

BUT in that way i need others not so much...

Hey Marki, nice to see you, especially back home. So that something that is missing, will not make you unstable, will it? It is human nature, to want and need, especially a partner, some people will often say that they want and do not need a partner, I like having a person in my life, I need another to wake up with in my life and say good morning to, that does not make me unstable, it just makes me a person that is inter dependant with my partner, knowing he is there if I need him, but knowing that I can cope alone if he is not there.

You made a mistake, crumbs, you are young, I have made hundreds and you survived it and learnt from it. And as for growing up, why the rush? I am 40 and still growing up...

Why the apology Cris? I get your post, but I am struggling why you feel it necessary to apologise!

And of course, men's minds are simple, yes?