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Define emotionally stable....

I am an oxymoron...more emphasis on the moron part.

I am emotionally stable yet bipolar...go figure.

Nice question Sommer...

No apology necessary at all...

If being a perve gets you through the cravings, then perv all you like...

I'm about as emotionally stable as a wobbly table.

Hi Ken...

No you are not a moron. I would say that you are emotionally stable from what I have seen of you and know of you. Bipolar does not make people emotionally unstable. You are one of the most stable people here I think.

But to be clear, my thread was not about people here, CS was mentioned because it is something that is common ground for us all, I was asking what thoughts were out there, from people.

Just so that all clear and that they do not think I am going for any person in particular.

Ken as always, good to see you.

That's a question which, as usual, begs for a definition.

One could argue that if "stability" is the main criterion, that a consistently depressed person was "mentally stable." I'm guessing you mean someone with a consistently upbeat attitude.

For myself, I would say that my dominant outlook is optimistic, and that I generally enjoy life - therefore, by that definition, I'm emotionally stable. However, since the last few years have been, arguably, the most tumultuous of my life, I'd qualify that by acknowledging that my moods are more variable than previously. I anticipate returning to my default in the near-future, however.

Also, there are worse things than being in something of a tumultuous emotional state.

Hell if I was emotionally stable I wouldn't be on this web site.

My friends and family thinks I nuts!!!

I was hoping you would respond, simply because I know it will be interesting.

I am meaning Jeff, being emotionally stable, the same all the time. Not depressed, because that is different and you are the first along with Ken who has asked this.

A depressed person person can be stable, if their state of mind is permanently in one mode.

My mother for instance has lived a life of constant emotional turmoil, so she is unstable emotionally.

So it is not a person who is constanly upbeat, stable as in stable, not up and down and fluctuating between moods.

I am of the same mood all the time, when I wake up to when I go to sleep, I can have my unstable moments when it is my menstrual time, when I feel a tad down and want to curl up alone with a hot water bottle and a sloppy movie. Then I am unstable, but ont he whole my mood remains the same and my emotions are very clearly understood by those around me.

My scales can be tilted depending on the full Moon.....

Now you are onto something there, Stef, because us women do follow the moon with our cycles.

It's extremely difficult for me to imagine someone whose state of mind does not fluctuate to some small degree...

Be honest Sommer.. Would you call me "stable"??

But then, a "stable" is where animals go, I have seen some "animals" in my lifetime..

I would like to believe I am emotionally stable, I have never stalked anybody. Or had a fatal attraction, who knows..... Good question.

I just spent 5 days in Reno, I assure you, I made many "fatal attractions"...

But they were all young enough to be my kids or grandkids..

I woked up!



I'm having stabalizers installed today



Sorry, by the time I got through the thread I forgot the premise of the OP's queery.


Oh there it is right above me

I think there is gravitation to emotional output. Emotional people relate to other primarily emotional people. Bonding is a very strange component of recognition of one's self in others.

It is probably wiser if one wishes to learn to handle one's emotions, to mate with someone who has already learned to master them to some degree?


Or are these folks who hide them better? It's all very difficult in a world where hiding one's true self is common, so ...I prefer those who show emotion as a result of their self, not as a weapon of blame toward others or a tool of ego painting; but as a direct result of seeing their own foibles.

How do you like me now?

I never viewed it this way. Might be something to it.

I always thought of being emotionally stable as not being angered easily, being able to deal with worries and anxieties.

No one can avoid unwanted emotions in emotionally unstable world, but being able to deal with it and being able to have control over it would mean emotional stability to me.

Why? I am the same most of the time, aside from the odd couple of days a month as I mentioned. Those asre the days when I feel unstable, tearful, because I am off my usual perch of being the same. But I greet those days with open arms, even if I am tearful, fighting it will make me cry in the supermarket or at work.

I think alot and that can sometimes make me appear quiet, but some people think that is because I am down and it is not that, I am just being quiet.

As was mentioend earlier, is stability being in control of our emotions?

Emotional stability is very different from emotional intelligence. Emotional stability comes from accepting who I am.

I'll be honest with you, Pat

NO!!

With your daily new fatal attractions

or is it the opposite -

they keep you stable

Good points there Laura, and each to their own about definitions.

Some people can, some people shut themselves away from pain.

I worry alot, about certain things, but I deal with it, I do not let it show, if a person asks me what is wrong, which is rare, I will say, I have alot on my mind. But it does not stop me from continuing with my life, there will always be something that I worry about.

It is hard to define and I am confusing myself, but I think stability is what the word means, the status quo, so a person can be stable if they are in a permanent emotional state. Be that positive or negative. Unstable, is when the feelings fluctuate between positive and negative, or highly strung as some people state. One minute up and the next down.

But us senile "Old Guys" need love too...