JacobGrimm: Why is it when one discusses emotional issues that the positive emotions are set aside. That only the negative ones attribute an weight to emotional stability?
Joy is an emotion, though never maligned, so why do we see anger, sadness etc as something to malign and hence malign all emotion. Emotional bias? Or an attempt to force people to be a specific way?
Men have been told for years not express tears, emotion maligned again to the point of being expected to ignore them. Yet he can be angry and find acceptance. Others will often excuse away the outburst in some psuedo righteousness.
I don't see the wisdom in this. In making some emotions acceptable and others ignored as if they are not emotion at all
All emotion is good, it is only the expression and direction of them that should be questioned. The more we try to sublimate emotions, the more we are apt to burst in the very exaggerated displays we are trying to avoid ...I think.
You are showing emotion in your post there Grimm, which is good.
And you are absolutely right, we should look at all emotions as being good, and stability is how those emotions are displayed and how often we feel them.
I like to feel good, everyday, even if I do not feel like it, I make a point of knowing what will make me smile, that can be anything from a tune to some candy that I have not had for years. But if I feel sadness, then I embrace it, and deal with it, we need to feel all emotions, before we can become emotionally stable, look at a child, they cry when they hurt or if they are not heard, why can we not?
There is no wisdom in it at all, all emotion is good, but there are some which which when worded do not sound good. Again it is how we display it...
And why do we try to hide our tears? I never do, I have never told my son not to hide how he is feeling, how often do we hear, 'We should not let the children see us upset?' Why not*
We should, they need to learn that emotions are good, all of them.