In response to: What are we really looking for?
I mean those of us who have been in long-term relationships, marriages, whatever. However, young uns please contribute!
Personally, after a long marriage I am enjoying more and more the single life, but I still feel there is somethimg missing. This does not seem to be the case for friends of mine, younger and older, who remain single, but interestingly have never been married, or in a long( I mean LONG) relationship, and who have never had kids.
I have no agenda in so far as providing a father figure for my kids, they have long since flown the nest, and I have never been of that mindset that children need both a father and mother rile model in order to survive, so that brings me closer to these friends of mine without kids.
I really don´t know if it´s down to conditioning, i.e. men and women need a significant other, or because I was with the same man from the age of 16 to 43 years old.
I have more than made up for the lack of experience however since my divorce!
Sometimes I think I want somebody in my life, a monogamous relationship. but only if we can be together for the weekends!
Are you saying that you want a monogamous relationship,but only on the weekends?? How does that work...It would not be for me...and if you are serious, most men do have kids, maybe not living with them...but in their lives...Is that not true...I dont have any, but, that does not mean I did not want them...