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motherload Cambridge, Ohio USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:25 AM CST : The Dating Process
Why do we put ourselves through this? You talk and you meet and go out maybe a couple of times your wondering if their is any chemistry between you.It seems both of us are being someone we are not trying to impress to make sure we like each other.We search for that perfect person which in reality their is no such thing.We try to find faults in this person that have hurt us in past relationships (well at least i do). What do you think??
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Sparky55 Kabul Afghanistan
Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:29 AM CST : The Dating Process
motherload: Why do we put ourselves through this? You talk and you meet and go out maybe a couple of times your wondering if their is any chemistry between you.It seems both of us are being someone we are not trying to impress to make sure we like each other.We search for that perfect person which in reality their is no such thing.We try to find faults in this person that have hurt us in past relationships (well at least i do). What do you think??


I think you should stop looking. I find that when I look I never find but when I'm not looking opportunities arise. Mistakes are OK and I try to use those as lessons. The trick being to not attribute a privious interests failings or shortfalls to current interests.
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Tater springfield, Illinois USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:30 AM CST : The Dating Process
Why do we take showers, we are just going to get dirty again
Why do we make our bed in the morning, we are just going to mess it up again that night.....
Why are you breathing and living apparently in misery, when there are guns you can purchase, if you are to weak to habndle life's pressures and situations>>>dunno


why why why....


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Tater springfield, Illinois USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:32 AM CST : The Dating Process
Sparky55: I think you should stop looking. I find that when I look I never find but when I'm not looking opportunities arise. Mistakes are OK and I try to use those as lessons. The trick being to not attribute a privious interests failings or shortfalls to current interests.


exactly... living your depressed past in the future will leave you "still depressed " shit happens and time heals your pain....
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morgan5 somewhere sunny , Canarias Spain
Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:34 AM CST : The Dating Process
if we look for the "PERFECT PERSON" we will all fail, no one is perfect. Think it's about finding someone you like, learning to compromise on some things, communicate then take it from there, as Sparky says stop looking happens when you least expect it.
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Galactic_bodhi Portland, Oregon USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 12:56 AM CST : The Dating Process
It's like squeezing fruit in the market to see if its firm or not. You'll never notice the bruises if you don't look...doh
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jvaski south lake tahoe, California USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 1:06 AM CST : The Dating Process
Oh C'Mon.......... Look at all the hot babes on this site roll eyes
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RillyNiceGuy Southeast, Arkansas USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 1:10 AM CST : The Dating Process
In response to: Why do we put ourselves through this? You talk and you meet and go out maybe a couple of times your wondering if their is any chemistry between you.It seems both of us are being someone we are not trying to impress to make sure we like each other.We search for that perfect person which in reality their is no such thing.We try to find faults in this person that have hurt us in past relationships (well at least i do). What do you think??





Everybody needs a hobby!grin
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bluesbabe waterbury, Connecticut USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 1:20 AM CST : The Dating Process
I would hope that a man interested in me doesn't judge me by anothers actions against him. And I won't do that to him. Look at each new person in your life as just that...NEW! If you look for faults you will find them. So don't look. Everyone is like a new adventure in your life; someone to enjoy, learn from, appreciate. If it doesn't work, you have still gained something out of it. And that something might make you perfect for your future other half. The famous author Iyanla Vanzant once said that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Keeping that in mind can help from you being held back by past hurts. Let it go and begin anew!
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CuspofMagic Adelaide, South Australia Australia
Wed Jan 7, 2009 1:43 AM CST : The Dating Process
--- no need to look or impress- just be out there - it shows
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hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 7:51 AM CST : The Dating Process
Sparky55: I think you should stop looking. I find that when I look I never find but when I'm not looking opportunities arise. Mistakes are OK and I try to use those as lessons. The trick being to not attribute a privious interests failings or shortfalls to current interests.




thumbs up
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jenae indianapolis, Indiana USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 7:57 AM CST : The Dating Process
motherload: Why do we put ourselves through this? You talk and you meet and go out maybe a couple of times your wondering if their is any chemistry between you.It seems both of us are being someone we are not trying to impress to make sure we like each other.We search for that perfect person which in reality their is no such thing.We try to find faults in this person that have hurt us in past relationships (well at least i do). What do you think??


Excellent thread!.. I have asked myself this very same question.. Why torture ourselves.. But, no one has come up with a solution or way to meet your next love, spouse or significant other, without dating.. Myself, I hate going through that first process of meeting, dating and all the flair that one puts forth to make 1st good impressions..

Maybe one could just (chance) meet, in the park, coffee shop or gym, for 1st couple encounters...

Don't know the answer!.. Haven't been able to figure it out..

Hope somebody has some good advice...
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jenae indianapolis, Indiana USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 8:01 AM CST : The Dating Process
jenae: Excellent thread!.. I have asked myself this very same question.. Why torture ourselves.. But, no one has come up with a solution or way to meet your next love, spouse or significant other, without dating.. Myself, I hate going through that first process of meeting, dating and all the flair that one puts forth to make 1st good impressions..

Maybe one could just (chance) meet, in the park, coffee shop or gym, for 1st couple encounters...

Don't know the answer!.. Haven't been able to figure it out..

Hope somebody has some good advice...


DID I STRAY OFF OF THE SUBJECT? SORRY!!!
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hopefloats Slim's Lady, Tennessee USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:27 AM CST : The Dating Process
jenae: DID I STRAY OFF OF THE SUBJECT? SORRY!!!




HAPPY BIRTHDAY Jenae!party cake



wave
Merky
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:30 AM CST : The Dating Process
jvaski: Oh C'Mon.......... Look at all the hot babes on this site


On this site???confused

Hell, I fell "in love" at least 20 times a day while in Reno..devil
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:33 AM CST : The Dating Process
Sometimes, we send a friendly message to another and we get no replies or get blocked..rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

3 years here, I have met a couple people in person. I have yet to talk with anyone "I" would want a relationship with..dunno
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:34 AM CST : The Dating Process
CuspofMagic: --- no need to look or impress- just be out there - it shows


And some really do show.........rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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pubwrite08 District Heights, Maryland USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:36 AM CST : The Dating Process
Not beats failure except to keep trying.
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mbcasey North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:50 AM CST : The Dating Process
We want to love and be loved...
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HJFinAZ Sun CIty, Arizona USA
Wed Jan 7, 2009 9:57 AM CST : The Dating Process
mbcasey: We want to love and be loved...


Ken, we ARE loved..yay SOmetimes we just don't know it..sigh
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