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I would definitely choose the man who is good with a
relationship. I hope to find someone who knows what it
means to commit and not run away as soon as a problem
may come our way.

Sassy is that hard to find? someone that commits?

I would choose the man of lesser means and who was really good to me. Cause to me money doesn't really mean a hill of beans to me even though it is nice to have to pay bills and buy food.

I was married before and when my late husband and myself first got together he was working as a dishwasher and we only had two bags of our clothes. We moved into an small one room apt and didn't even have any furishings. We slept on blankets on the floor. So see I'm used to having nothing in reagrds to lots of money and material things. I'd much rather have someone of lesser means who would respect me and also be happy with then be with someone who has lots of money and wasn't as good to me and be unhappy in that relationship.

The man of lesser means. Easy!

I would choose the man of lesser means who was really good to his woman. Why? Because money is not the most important thing in the world. I'd rather be poor and happy than rich and miserable. If you have love for each other and a really good relationship, you can make it through the rough times together, no matter what those are. The old saying is true: money does not buy happiness.

Yes, it's nice to be able to pay the bills. But, I've supported a family of 4 before as sole support, and I'd do it again. I'm very good at stretching a dollar when I have to be, and can do it indefinitely and happily with a good partner. Heck, I'm doing it alone, anyway.

Nicely put, you had each other, thats what was most important.

a man of lesser means because he will be there when times get tough and a man with money and not good at relationships will move on.

Why is it assumed that men with money are crap at relationships?

I agree....

What if the rich man was good to his woman but just wasn't good at being romantic or spending the same quality time the porer fella was giving his lady?

If you hit quote instead of reply, we all know who you're talking to...just a tip to help you. Welcome aboard, btw. ~Dru

Not a broke one. I refuse to chose a man because he is broke and 'nice' (??). I guess, it depends on why he is broke in the forst place. If he's lazy, then he's not for me. How can he be really good with his woman, if he can't help provide for his family? Sounds like suicide, getting involved with one of those.

He can call his mama, to take care of his expenses, because i won't.

Hi John...

I am not being obtuse, well I am, but there is a big flaw here, money should not come into it...

I know plenty of solvent people, single ones at that who would be wonderful at relationships...

Have been, just because they are single, or anybody s single, does not mean they are bad at relationships...

Basically, what it boils down to for me is that I don't care how much money he does or doesn't have. I don't care about his looks. I care about what kind of man he is inside. I also don't need "romance", I need a man who is strong and secure, has a positive outlook on life, and has dealt with his baggage, and can stand beside me for the long haul. I need a match to me, not a wallet. Or a Romeo.

Actually sommer I asked this question because a gal and I had a discussion on this, I am not saying men with money are crap at relationships. My point was the gal I was talking to claimed money was important to women when they looked at a relationship, my view was that women are about finding quality not qauntity, that they would prefer if given the choice love over money.

then the rich mans lady should help him to be romantic and give of herself to make the time they have together that more special. remember its the quality not quantity

I had a very long relationship with a beautiful woman and I just happen to be lucky enough to have some money. So I believe you shouldn't settle for either one or the other. There are some good folks out here that can provide both. JMO....

you don't need money to treat a woman like crap.... just a dresser drawer full of wifebeaters....

I guess I'll just keep my money.

zee

I will speak for myself and say, financial security, is important to me. I am trying to make something of my life, so i don't struggle in future. I intend to find someone who would want to start a family, so yes, being broke ( for reasons other than disability), and not making necessary steps/ improvements to make ends meet, is not for me.


I want to be successful myself, so i would expect to settle down with a person who thinks like i do. Women who have already raised their kids, would think differently, but thats because we are at different stages in life.


What would happen, if i myself, decided to quit school, and start having kids, with a 'nice' guy who didn't think having a job was important? We would be doomed!



Simple, really!